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Old Apr 20, 2016, 11:46 AM
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I have not found therapists or therapy to deal much in logic. Thus I have no faith that they have a logical explanation for the experiences even where said experience is common enough for them to have created a label for it.
Oh no they HATE logic! They want the FEEEEEELINGS that are unique to you. So then they can tell you everybody feels that way thats THE PROCESS - youll be FINE!
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I sometimes wonder if I am very hard-hearted when I observe the interactions between others and view it like everyone is just engaging in senseless exchange. My lack of urge to want to save others sometimes seems to be opposite of the rest of the world. Stop - I want to shout - and attend to your own self instead and to better end. I suppose the one thing in my favor is I seem to be taking my own advice and not trying to interfere either. It is not that I don't want everyone to be okay - I do - it is just that I don't think their choices are any of my business and don't impact me at all so I have no need to get personally worked up.

When I go out today to do some work, I am going to stop by the liquor store to purchase some dubonnet - which for some reason is something I have never tried. I am planning on indulging in a small gin and dubonnet tonight.
Spending a ridiculous amount of time and energy trying to save ex-husband and future ex-husband from themselves is partly responsible for getting me in the mess I am today...so I think this is quite wise.

The Queen Mum really liked her gin and dubonnet.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 11:47 AM
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Oh no they HATE logic! They want the FEEEEEELINGS that are unique to you. So then they can tell you everybody feels that way thats THE PROCESS - youll be FINE!
That is why I don't let them talk.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 11:51 AM
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Spending a ridiculous amount of time and energy trying to save ex-husband and future ex-husband from themselves is partly responsible for getting me in the mess I am today...so I think this is quite wise.

The Queen Mum really liked her gin and dubonnet.
The first therapist I ever saw - back when I was in my mid 20s - once told me that whatever other issues I had, I was the least co-dependent woman she had ever had as a client.
Of course, she also said that she thought sometimes I ran into difficulty because when I really wanted information I could appear pugnacious rather than merely curious.
That was actually the one useful piece of information I have gleaned from a therapist ever.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 11:53 AM
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Maybe that's why hearing T say it affected me so much - because my ex and mother both say the same as you said below. So I don't know how I could hear it 'differently' since it's all I've known. T didn't say any of those phrases just that, "I'm not going to acknowledge the sorry, they don't matter" and all my brain heard was my mom or my ex...?
reminds me of something that happened with my T yesterday. i texted to apologize for letting him down about my relapse. i asked if he can forgive me. he wrote back "there is nothing for me to forgive". i was like ????? what the heck does that mean? Ts can be so confusing and vague.

i get the sense my T is kinda hurt by what happened but doesnt want to admit it, so hes playing like its all good and dandy no matter what i do.

when i read what your T said, i would like to think she meant that there isn't a place for an Im sorry as its just all part of the work and process of what happens in long term therapy
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 01:14 PM
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That is why I don't let them talk.
Maybe that's the problem - I let mine talk. It was what she said the other day that engaged the projection or whatever. I felt like the little kid disappointing/displeasing her mommy again and I couldn't get out of there fast enough. I recognized the projection (t's word) on the way home I guess if there is anything good about it, that would be it.

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Old Apr 20, 2016, 01:27 PM
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I wrote another poem today about how i felt in there the other day. She suggested i come back this week instead of waiting 2 weeks like i wanted. I may email the poem tonite and say yes to coming this week but cancel whats already scheduled. This @$!# is expensive. I hate money.

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Old Apr 20, 2016, 03:15 PM
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The desire to 'save' others is, at its core, not very altruistic. It's an avoidance mechanism that makes you feel better about yourself, or attempts to at any rate. If you're taking care of someone else's problems you are not the one with problems - 'look how helpful I am! How could I be the problem?!' Or better yet, 'I'm solving your problems, you need to come and solve mine for me now'
It takes a lot of strength to be able to admit that *I* have problems, and *I'm* going to fix that.

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Old Apr 20, 2016, 03:24 PM
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I'm so stupid. I emailed t to chg to this week instead of next week. She replied she wants me to keep both. Ack! I need to but i don't want to. I told her ok. Ack. This is not going to be good. I feel like I am in trouble. I do have the $ for both of them, but that's it. Why do i feel like i am in trouble?!

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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:04 PM
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Why do i feel like i am in trouble?!

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Transference. And you're not stupid
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:35 PM
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Quite odd but strangely compelling.
That's how I feel about you.
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I should get my mam to make pavlova when I go home this summer. I don't think she's made it since I was a kid... Which is the last time I had it. Omnomnom.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:42 PM
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Okay - gin and dubonnet is delicious. Try it now - all of you who imbibe.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:43 PM
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That's how I feel about you.
I am as normal as blueberry pie.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:49 PM
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i am as normal as blueberry pie.
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Mam is an Irish language diminutive. Though a lot of the kids at home seem to be using 'mum' now, which wasn't the case when I was growing up.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:51 PM
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I am as normal as blueberry pie.

Yum.

(Curse you minimum post length)
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Okay - gin and dubonnet is delicious. Try it now - all of you who imbibe.
What ratio of gin to dubonnet? I hid my gin but may just find it again.
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Mam is an Irish language diminutive. Though a lot of the kids at home seem to be using 'mum' now, which wasn't the case when I was growing up.
For some reason I think of Ardal O'Hanlon. He refers frequently to his mam in his stand up.
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I am tired but need to do the school run and other chores. I just really want crawl back into bed. The other chores can wait. I'll just do the school run.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:57 PM
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What ratio of gin to dubonnet? I hid my gin but may just find it again.
Dubonnet 2 to 1 gin with a lemon wedge or (since I had no actual lemon) a few drops of lemon juice.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:58 PM
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Can i use dubonnet in cooking instead of marsala or sherry?
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 04:59 PM
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Can i use dubonnet in cooking instead of marsala or sherry?
It is closer to port or vermouth than sherry
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But physically invincible only, right? The guy has the emotional self-control of a feral cat.

I always thought the heel thing was a giant gyp. Who dies from an arrow through the Achilles' tendon?
It was a poisoned arrow.
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Old Apr 20, 2016, 05:01 PM
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I am sure one could be psychically dipped and become emotionally invincible. Besides plate armour and chain mail are physical protections if we are suddenly becoming literal.
Being emotionally invincible is what made him such an arsehole.
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