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Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Last edited by Anonymous58205; Apr 19, 2016 at 05:38 AM. |
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Mine asked weird questions twice. They weren't even prompted by anything and didn't make sense to me. She also repeated same questions several times even though I already answered. Fishing for something. That happened when I first started seeing her. She never did it again
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I agree. The discouraging thing is that he is in therapy and supervision and still does these things. Yes, I am still seeing this therapist, at least for now.
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Has t ever crossed my boundaries? Yes. On five separate occasions. I still haven't forgiven him, and we still haven't talked about it
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Wow - some of these really shock me! It's never ok for a T to touch a client without permission. They might say "can I give you a hug" and you feel obligated to say yes, but without any mention of it first?
As for prying into questions like the mention of CSA or sex with the boyfriend, I think it's fair for them to ask once, but if you're not answering them, then they should know to back off! Especially in the first month or two of sessions. IMO. Sorry so many of you have gone through these experiences. I've never had this happen - at least as much as I can remember. My current counselor gives me sooo much leeway when it comes to anything I want to avoid. |
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I agree with what others have said about a T having to know about a boundary in order to violate it. I mean, I'd expect some basic level of tact, here, but other people can't be expected to just intuit what may be very personalized boundaries 100% of the time.
I've been thinking about it, and the only weird boundary things I've run up against have been (what seemed at the time) out-of-the-blue phone calls to check up and see if I wanted an appointment. Turns out they were agreed upon before hand, but my T sucks at getting back in a timely way and so by the time he called I'd completely forgotten he'd said he would. It's strange, because you'd think it would be sort of nice to get a pro-active phone call, have your T contact you for once, but I found it to be an odd intrusion on the rest of my life to just get a random phone call I wasn't expecting. There you are, elbow deep in manure for the garden, and you get this call from a private number. You answer, expecting to tell some unsolicited sales person that, no, you don't want to go on a fabulous Caribbean getaway so kindly **** off, and it's your bloody therapist who answers. Kind of like getting whacked over the head by those personal problems you normally compartmentalize.
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Mmm, not sure how I would feel about that! For me it would be nice but then it is intrusive on some level too. I am not sure if it would cross everyone's boundaries but it would feel invasive to me.
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I guess my T has some strong boundaries and therefore won't cross mine easily either. Although making me to keep her updated on my eating habits on a daily basis kinda was... Although after all it was a question. So I had the right to refuse.
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My counselor will let me know if he has a cancellation if he knows I'm having a hard time with something by email. I don't do very well with phone calls. That feels safe to me.
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Of course the client's personal boundaries is a different matter, as they can be very individual and specific, and sometimes the therapist has to discover them by crossing them. Some of the examples here sound more like violations, though, like repeatedly asking intrusive questions when the client is obviously uncomfortable with it, or distressed by it. Any therapist should know not to do that, in my opinion.
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She said it was something that should have been negotiated, and that she had been a bit worried after I'd left the session because she realised that she'd just let it slip out in what turned out to be a very emotional moment. She thought I might have an emotional reaction to it. I have never seen her get defensive about anything, and she always tells me that she is strong enough to hold all of my feelings while I'm working through them. I really trust her and we have a great relationship, even if I'm still trying to accept those scary feelings of love and attachment. ![]() I believe it was actually good for me to go through this whole thing, because we've had some really healing sessions as a result of it. I mean, I have discovered that I'm scared of love - that's useful, right? ![]()
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I guess it depends on what you mean by crossed, but no I don't think so. Of course I'm still figuring out what my boundaries are.
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