Dumbfounded. Astounded. Overwhelmed.

Pinksoil: I sure hope you never shut up.

To those of you worrying about "red flags": Please please please start your own thread about this topic. It's not applicable to Pinksoil's.

Sidony

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If you are uncomfortable with a therapist who discloses, then seek one who does not.

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I am not uncomfortable with a therapist who discloses. My therapist discloses too. In fact, I'll bet she discloses much more than most do. I know all about transference and countertransference. I have a deep connection with my therapist.

I see red flags. If you don't, that's okay.

Pink please don't ever shut up! Ha ha!

Again, I said this on an earlier post, no two clients are alike. We are like fingerprints. My T was smart enough to know that I need a connection with him to trust him and allow my intimate thoughts to be shared. It has taken me a year and half to be able to cry a little bit with him. That happened last session.

I brought my husband once and he cried in 10 minutes. I knew then I had major issues.

He has disclosed a feeling here or there. It is the reason why I have some awareness now as to what I do outside of the session.

I'm amazed my T has stuck it out with me. This post is making me go back in time and think about how he and I both used to be.

He was very business-like and sometimes would show some emotion. And just when I thought forget therapy it isn't working,everything changed on his part. It wasn't long before I started to open up and make some progress.

I am so lucky to have my T and Pink is lucky to have hers.

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Whatever people want to take out of that is fine, but please trust my judgment and my relationship with my T.

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Though I know rationally that I should drop this thread altogether (since it's turned into a flame-war and I don't want to rekindle it), I do have a suggestion that I think might help:

Pink, maybe you could use the trigger icon on the threads where you describe your sessions? The emotional intensity of your sessions is clearly triggering for some readers. For some, that level of intensity is associated with a threat of physical violation, even when you've been clear that no such threat exists. And in the facelessness of the Internet, it's hard for everyone to remember that you're an adult, that you're well-versed in psychology/therapy/ethics etc., that you're more than capable of making judgments about whether or not therapy is healing for you. Maybe if you state that the thread may be triggering, that could help avoid an off-topic argument where your judgment/relationship with your therapist is being unduly questioned.

I guess I'm worried that you'll stop sharing your experiences because of how this thread has turned out, and I sure hope that you won't. Your experiences are amazing to read about, and the sessions sound so intense. I look at some of the things you manage to talk about in session and try to come up with some bravery of my own. It's hard to discuss some of the really intense feelings (they're scary, they're politically incorrect, they're embarrassing, etc.). I'm trying to learn to express my feelings more.

Sidony

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Though I know rationally that I should drop this thread altogether (since it's turned into a flame-war and I don't want to rekindle it)

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Oops! I've just learned that I didn't really understand what the word "flaming" means on the Internet. I thought it just meant arguing, though I looked it up and learned that the definition is much more hostile than that. So that was a bad word-choice on my part -- I wasn't trying to imply anyone was being insulting or hostile to one another. It's all very civil, but I did think it was an off-topic argument. I'm trying to drop it myself but realized I better clarify my bad choice of words....!

[On a side note, I wonder why a busy thread always shows a flame next to it if flaming has such a negative connotations.]

Dropping it,
Sidony

Thank you for taking the time to clarify your intent sidony.

I wanted to quickly respond to my interpretation of the "fire" beside a larger thread. Once a thread gets so many views and replies, the icon will appear. To me it doesn't read negatively and I feel that's strictly coincidence regarding the word flame. When I see the icon, to me it says, "that thread is ON FIRE...HOT!"

KD

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If you are uncomfortable with a therapist who discloses, then seek one who does not.

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I am not uncomfortable with a therapist who discloses. My therapist discloses too. In fact, I'll bet she discloses much more than most do. I know all about transference and countertransference. I have a deep connection with my therapist.

I see red flags. If you don't, that's okay.

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I think the reactions of people who see red flags should not be dismissed. Although their reactions may be more related to themselves than to pinksoil, they merit serious attention. As much as (not more than) the reactions of those who do not want to see them. IMO.

Then if it's not related to me, it deserves a separate thread.

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it deserves a separate thread.

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Your wish has been granted.

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Then if it's not related to me, it deserves a separate thread.

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Yikes!