The Couch - CXII : The Tao of Couchies

I get it. Wish she wouldn't. Blah. Hopefully I'll learn quickly.

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A question for theist parents: your atheist adult child (who has asked you many times not to discuss religion with her and withholds her views when you do bring it up) is quite upset and just wants to talk. Don't you think it's just maybe a tiny bit messed up to tell her to talk to God?

It occurs to me that this kind of shite is the reason I'm an atheist in the first place...

I will say that (if you are in the US), over the past decade or more, they DEFINITELY have made clothes sizes smaller, while putting larger labels on them, if that makes sense.
I am not a parent, but i am an atheist adult child. I actually only told my mom this a few months ago (i am 35), and that is only because she mentioned that my brother is an atheist, and i was like "Well...ME TOO!" haha.

That being said, if i ever went to her with a problem or was having a hard time, I would NOT appreciate telling me to talk to God, because i truly do not believe in him. It would feel dismissing of what I was going through. You can find out if there is something "greater than" your child believes in, like nature, or art, or something that soothes them, and suggest they turn to that. Or, just listen and be there for them.

(I am not criticizing you at all, by the way--just my point of view)

OH, I AM AN IDIOT. I mis-read your post...YES, i agree with you, it is a bit messed up, except parents probably are trying their best from what they know. My grandparents will never know i am an atheist, but even if they did, they would still talk about God with me, and I would just nod and go "mmhmmm," while knowing I am actually not going ot take that advice.

Really? I thought size inflation was the problem. For instance, there are some parts of me that have not changed in measurement, but I've gone down a couple sizes in them.

But clothes sizes aren't regulated in the US, which means it could go either way depending on the retailer.

I'm an atheist adult child and what you said is the exact reason I don't talk with my theist parents about anything emotional or anything I need guidance on. Because they'll just say I should pray...

Hugs to you!

Thanks to the pocket riders. we didn't talk about my brother today but rather my need for additional support between sessions my t suggested weekly ones but I am struggling to afford the fortnightly ones. Anyway it was unusually full of "feels" today.

Is it a full moon or something? the "feels" seem to be going around lately....

So true.

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Good lord, I hope it is not contagious. Luckily I never have feelings towards the therapist except rage and frustration.
But still.

My mother is a theist parent, and I in the past few years have come to identify as pagan/animist, and my son is athiest. I have not shared my pagan beliefs with my mother or siblings and likely never will. Likewise my son is not in any hurry to advise them that he is athiest, either, because his theist grandmother will not take it well. I think when my mother is here next month for son's graduation (eek!) we will politely decline to discuss the topic should it come up. Hopefully it won't, since they won't be here over the weekend, and her wanting to go to church won't be an issue.

So it hasn't been an issue yet, since they don't know. I just let it go on by when my mother goes all preachy on me. It's going to be a difficult discussion if I ever have to have it, especially with my brother being a Chaplain.

Hi. I've not posted here in a bit. No reason. I feel so out of sorts!

Last week I went to my trail. When I go, I put my earphones in my ears and basically "go away" and it's so nice. Last week I went and as I was coming through the woods I looked down and I had straddled a snake. . I froze and panicked at the same time. The poor snake was frozen too because in my state of mind I jumped over it and looked at it. It wasn't moving. Just staring straight ahead. It wasn't a poisonous one... but!! It was a snake and I almost stepped on it.

It's been kind of like they getting thrown off a horse thing. I wanted to go back but didn't because I was afraid. I went back today. Scanning. Watching. It was hard to keep myself there to watch because I go away there. It was work and felt like it took forever.

Coming back through the woods was ok. Then!! Then right out in the open, a snake jumps up in the air and runs away from my path!! Yikes!! How in the #ell does a snake jump??? They have no legs!! How is that possible??

Are snakes going to be worse this summer because we didn't have a had winter here? Just curious.

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I see it is afternoon and I declare it ice cream o'clock. My youngest should be back from camping today. I still can't believe my t works on public holidays this year.

Snakes a re one big muscle and when they coil themselves it s like a spring. ew snakes over here have that ability so I have never seen it. it might just all be heresay.

Anyway keep running the vibrations from the running should warn them and they will get out of the way. I love snakes, send them all over here.

Oh it's not hearsay!! I saw it and screamed like a little girl.

Snakes give me the hibby gibbys!! You can have all of them!!

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I'm going to keep running because that is my safe place!! It just feels really weird to me now because I don't feel like I can "go away" without having to keep the radar in that I'm trying to get away from.

Hope that makes sense.

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My parents were theists and I at best agnostic if not fully atheist. We just did not /do not talk about it and if they brought up praying or something like it, I just ignored it. I don't think one is going to change a parent who believes something like that and they are one's
parents so there is a difference, to me, in them and anyone else (with whom I would be a bit more vigorous in my don't put your religion on me stance)

I am not all that undone by snakes, but I don't like spiders.

I agree!! Snakes. Spiders. Roaches. The awesome fearful threesome!!

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When I am severely ill I believe I see spiders everywhere and that they have made their way into my brain and control what I do. That also explains the prickling feeling in my head as well.

Until recently my stress dreams involved snakes and spiders. Now they involve finding my own death certificate in a pile of papers.

On the whole, I preferred the snakes and spiders.

We had snakes as pets when I was in high school. We had a big black rat snake, that my brother found in our backyard one sunday morning. We also had a king snake. I don't mind snakes, having grown up with them in our house. When I worked at girl scout camp, there were lots of copperheads there which are poisonous, and we were required to kill them whenever we saw one on the road or something, and then burn them in a burn barrel. One day at the pool, we spotted 3 baby copperheads swimming, and had to very quickly get the girls out of the water without causing a panic, and then we had to fish them out with a net and dispatch them. I always hated having to do that, it bothered me no end. One evening I was riding my bike back to my unit from the dining hall, and I ran over a copperhead - I didn't see it in time to stop. Poor guy. I felt bad.

Just wanted to let you guys know.... Peanut butter cookie coffee with Cinnabon creamer rocks my world. Getting it ready for in the morning and can't wait.

Happy Monday tomorrow. It's going to be a great week!!

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I am more of a 4 shots of expresso or french roast kind of coffee drinker. Then I switch to black or green tea.

You have a very kind and caring heart!! Snakes just scare me. You were very brave to be that responsible for other ones. I admire you!!