[AnxiousGirl]

Hi all. It's me again.. So I usually have these episodes where I don't want to go to therapy. Sometimes I'll be excited to go and other times, like now, I dread the upcoming session.

The only reason I could think of not wanting to go is because I finally have the nerve to tell her what it bugging me and do some exposure to help me get over the fear I have been living with for years.

I am thinking of cancelling but again, I know that won't help the situation.

Any words of encouragement you can give? Have you guys been in a similar situation and how did you force yourself to go to the session?

Thank you and happy mothers day to the moms out there !

[skeksi]

Going and getting T's support always makes me really glad that I went instead of cancelling.

[Nammu]

You'll feel a huge relief and like a monkey is off your back when you finally share with your T

[Chimney]

Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl

The only reason I could think of not wanting to go is because I finally have the nerve to tell her what it bugging me and do some exposure to help me get over the fear I have been living with for years.

There is your own encouragement. Seems to me that something inside you is ready for this.

[Waterbear]

You can do it. You will not regret it.

[AnxiousGirl]

Thanks everyone. I know the right thing to do is to go but I'm just feeling really nervous about it. I dont know how to talk to T about it but I want this to be the session where I FINALLY open up and be authentic with T.

[Waterbear]

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, it will happen when the time is right and maybe not even in one hit like you think. Just do your best

Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl

Thanks everyone. I know the right thing to do is to go but I'm just feeling really nervous about it. I dont know how to talk to T about it but I want this to be the session where I FINALLY open up and be authentic with T.

Hey, if you're too scared to open up to your therapist, you can always write things down or send an email! You don't have to speak if you're uncomfortable.

I think it's important to remind yourself that your T will not judge you either way. Your T just wants to help you the best she can.

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

Hey, if you're too scared to open up to your therapist, you can always write things down or send an email! You don't have to speak if you're uncomfortable.

I think it's important to remind yourself that your T will not judge you either way. Your T just wants to help you the best she can.

Thank you! My T allows emailing so I have done that last week. It's just last session we didn't really talk about the email in depth and that's what I want to do tomorrow. It's just scary

[Gavinandnikki]

You can do it.

In KNOW you can❣

[AnxiousGirl]

My session is in a few hours and I am getting worse and worse by the second. I really really dont want to go today I just dont want to deal with anything related to therapy anymore because its so much work and its so hard

[Waterbear]

I keep telling myself the day I want go to T and can go with my head held high and talk to her confidently etc is the only day I may consider finishing. You can do it, I know you can, even if you can't open up fully. Baby steps, don't expect too much. Let us know how you get on?

[LonesomeTonight]

You can do it--definitely go to the session. You'll get through it--just tell your T if it becomes too much. Let us know how it goes!

[SoConfused623]

Hope that your appointment goes well today and that you are able to share what is troubling you! Hugs!

[AnxiousGirl]

Thank you everyone for your encouraging words I'm actually in the waiting area now and my session is in a few minutes. I'll keep you all updated.

[AnxiousGirl]

Just left. Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. We didn't talk about the thing I fear a lot but we were able to talk about feelings and learning to slowly relax and feel more comfortable. I guess these things just take time. Thank you everyone !

[ruh roh]

They do take time. And learning to relax and slow down is a lot more helpful than becoming a ball of stress over wanting to get everything out. The later is approach is counter-intuitive to reaching your ultimate goal: lessening anxiety. I would think that's why your therapist wants to known when you get stressed--so that she can help you learn ways to lessen your reaction to fearful situations and thoughts.

It's taken me a long time to learn that dumping data on a therapist doesn't resolve my panic or stress. It only risks increasing my distress. Going slow and taking it easy is how you learn to get your sea legs in the world, where there are stressors everywhere (as you already know).

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by ruh roh

They do take time. And learning to relax and slow down is a lot more helpful than becoming a ball of stress over wanting to get everything out. The later is approach is counter-intuitive to reaching your ultimate goal: lessening anxiety. I would think that's why your therapist wants to known when you get stressed--so that she can help you learn ways to lessen your reaction to fearful situations and thoughts.

It's taken me a long time to learn that dumping data on a therapist doesn't resolve my panic or stress. It only risks increasing my distress. Going slow and taking it easy is how you learn to get your sea legs in the world, where there are stressors everywhere (as you already know).

Thats what my T said too. She said that learning these tools will help once I finally open up. Things should be going well, I'm glad my T is really slow and patient with me because it lets me build up more trust with her.

[Waterbear]

Good for you for going. Learning to trust is hard and a lot of forwards and backwards and.....patience....something I guess a lot of us struggle with!! I am trying just to enjoy the journey, it could be fun (so I keep telling myself!!)

My therapist would often remind that therapy was like a wagon wheel. We circle around, and then we circle back a little, yet eventually we get there. Take care in your progress, and don't be your self up when your wheels slip a little backwards.