Who has the power? You or T?

I feel very alone like I'm walking into a pitt. I don't think my T can reach me anymore. I'm not sure I can depend on her. I like her but im scared she is going to hurt me. Do you all feel like your T has all the power in the relationship.. when you are so dependent on them? She could walk away or deny a session and not feel anything.. whereas you are so impacted by everything. I don't like being dependent.. or attached

I agree with you EV, there's a huge power imbalance. To me that's very scary sometimes. It hurts feeling dependent on someone and caring about them when they can just walk away.... maybe without missing us at all. It's easier to walk away before they hurt us (more). Do you want to share more about what's going on? (only if ok)....

Here and listening,

(((((((((((((((( esthersvirtue ))))))))))))))))

OF COURSE THE T HAS ALL THE POWER.

Not really...

T has as much power as you give them.

I just hate that I need her. Several times over the last month over and over. I'm supposed to keep engaging in the relationship even though she has all the power to deny me. I don't like that. Especially right now when I need her. I'm not sure whats wrong with me.

Is ther something you want to tell us...........(((((((hugs to you))))))) I hope you feel comfortable enough to share what is going on. My T has as much power as I let him, there is always fear that anybody can walk out on you, but if you have built up the trust, your T will not abandon you. My T knows me enough to know my limits, and he knows enough not to push to far on somethings, but I also know that if I am going to hurt myself and he can't get to me that he will do what ever is necessary to stop it.........I still have fear about him leaving, I ask him straight out when these fears pop up, he always tells me he is in it for the long haul and will not abandon me!!!

i totally understand how you feel... i hate the power imbalance... T does have all the power... i think... but with a good T they dont impress it upon you... unless you force them to...

when you have a good relationship with a T... a trusting relationship... you can find a place where you know they have all the power... but you trust them not to hold it over you...

i have struggled with this issue for so long... but at the end of the day i think we have to just accept that T has this power... whether we like it or not... but it comes down to whether they use it against you or not... a good T will not use it against you...

its something that is hard to live with... really hard... i am so sorry you having a hard time with it... from my own experience, and maybe i am just lucky... it has been a great lesson in trust... to feel so vulnerable... and yet have T make you feel so safe...

i hope you are able to make it through this rough patch and come out the other side with a stronger relationship with your T...

very best wishes Nikki x