[lucozader]

Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.

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Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely.

This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means.

It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends.

We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("t") - we speak from experience...

Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread.

Grab a cushion and make yourselves comfy!

New couch! Yay!

[lucozader]

Sit on the untriquadium at your own risk, I have no idea what it actually is

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by lucozader

Sit on the untriquadium at your own risk, I have no idea what it actually is

Well, it doesn't exist...so theoretically aren't all Couches untriquadia?

The Couch is probably located on one of those hypothetical planets too.

We're all in space!

Just need to get this out. I'm feeling a lot of stress now that I'm home - work was super stressful, but that melted away on my drive home like usual, but now that I'm home, and h is here and son isn't home from work yet, the longer he doesn't come home the likelier it is that he's out with friends and h is going to be upset because that means he's not here writing out his budget or cleaning his room or doing his laundry and I am going to hear about it and my chest hurts and I feel like I'm waiting for a bomb to go off or something and i don't like this feeling and i wish i had asked t to come this week!! Ignore me i just needed to blurt this out.

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Well, it doesn't exist...so theoretically aren't all Couches untriquadia?

The Couch is probably located on one of those hypothetical planets too.

We're all in space!

I could go for a trip to a hypothetical planet right about now! Let's go!

[lucozader]

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Well, it doesn't exist...so theoretically aren't all Couches untriquadia?

The Couch is probably located on one of those hypothetical planets too.

We're all in space!

Hah, in that case it's a perfect material for the couch to be made from!

[StressedMess]

Hey new couch! Went out for dinner and just got home. I'm really thinking I could sleep right now. It's technically early but I don't even care.

[junkDNA]

My therapists 'response' was to email.me an invoice

Cool.

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

I could go for a trip to a hypothetical planet right about now! Let's go!

3...2...1...liftoff!

Art - your husband gives you trouble, tell him he'll have to deal with me. *scowls menacingly, cracks knuckles meaningfully*

Or, just tell him to go do something anatomically impossible.

[velcro003]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

Just need to get this out. I'm feeling a lot of stress now that I'm home - work was super stressful, but that melted away on my drive home like usual, but now that I'm home, and h is here and son isn't home from work yet, the longer he doesn't come home the likelier it is that he's out with friends and h is going to be upset because that means he's not here writing out his budget or cleaning his room or doing his laundry and I am going to hear about it and my chest hurts and I feel like I'm waiting for a bomb to go off or something and i don't like this feeling and i wish i had asked t to come this week!! Ignore me i just needed to blurt this out.

I sort of see how in H's eyes--he IS caring about son by worrying about all the logical/pragmatical things people need to learn to live life, and that is probably how he thinks. But, when son clearly was expressing his needs the other night, and he dismissed them...that is a different story.

Originally Posted by junkDNA

My therapists 'response' was to email.me an invoice

Cool.

Or, the invoice was just a regular thing he does, and has no bearings on what he thinks of you/how he will respond to your text? What did you write to him?

Honestly, art, your H sounds like my parents. Never wanting me to be out with friends because I should tidy up my room or do something useful.

Then suddenly dad would get mad that I was always home and that he didn't see me go out.

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

3...2...1...liftoff!

Art - your husband gives you trouble, tell him he'll have to deal with me. *scowls menacingly, cracks knuckles meaningfully*

Or, just tell him to go do something anatomically impossible.

I will picture that, and think that!! Thank you!! And, instead of worrying about it, I decided to go to the grocery store and buy a bottle of wine and a frozen pizza and hide in my room til it's time to go to bed. Pizza's in the oven now and I'm 1/4th of the way through my first glass of wine.

Originally Posted by QuietMind

Honestly, art, your H sounds like my parents. Never wanting me to be out with friends because I should tidy up my room or do something useful.

Then suddenly dad would get mad that I was always home and that he didn't see me go out.

omg! yes! he used to complain about son sitting in his room all the time and not socializing! y'know the more i think about it, the more i thinks, that hubby is just not happy unless he is unhappy.... and that worked well when I was unhappy all the time. But I'm not anymore. And he must hate that.

I was sitting in my car in the parking lot of the grocery store, thinking "t, I want you now, not next friday..." but i will be fine. I has youse guys!

[healed84]

Thankful it's march madness.. helps me keep my mind of unhealthy coping methods. I am so sick of myself right now, oh and of t.

Originally Posted by artemis-within

omg! yes! he used to complain about son sitting in his room all the time and not socializing! y'know the more i think about it, the more i thinks, that hubby is just not happy unless he is unhappy.... and that worked well when I was unhappy all the time. But I'm not anymore. And he must hate that.

I'm not fond of your H. Seems like his house rules and expectations change on his moods. It's not a good pattern, I feel. As a child and now adult living in such an environment, it's stressful and engineers a feeling that "I can't do anything right that Dad approves of". Because the rules always change and one ends up walking on eggshells.

You're trying your best for your son and yourself. Even blaming yourself because H yells at you and makes you be "the bad guy" nagging your son whenever he's out doing NORMAL things like socialising. It's normal to socialise after work with friends. Your H seems to be controlling and honestly I think he's bad for you and your son.

I say this out of concern and am not aiming to blame you or stress you out.

[stopdog]

PSA
Drinking or taking drugs and texting/email the therapist is generally a bad plan that does not make you feel better in the long run.

[lucozader]

Oops, it seems my copy-paste missed a bunch of stuff from the couch intro... Including the "don't drink and text your T" warning. Fixed it!

[healed84]

The one and only time I drank and emailed t- I said screw you in the email. I showed up next session and we talked about why I sent it and I admitted to being under the influence and he just laughed. We now refer to it as the screw your email. Fond memories...

[lucozader]

I just remembered a bunch of stuff my T said yesterday and it's kind of blowing my mind. I don't know what to make of it.

It's really weird how I'll remember so little of what's happened directly afterwards and then it'll come back to me in bits over the week... Maybe I should record a session at some point.

[lucozader]

Crap. I'm never gonna get to sleep now...

Originally Posted by stopdog

PSA
Drinking or taking drugs and texting/email the therapist is generally a bad plan that does not make you feel better in the long run.

thank you for that timely reminder as I am about ready for glass #2 and feeling all schmaltzy about t, i know, puke, right! ha

Originally Posted by lucozader

Oops, it seems my copy-paste missed a bunch of stuff from the couch intro... Including the "don't drink and text your T" warning. Fixed it!

I totally get how that happens. Every time I make a couch, I get all nervous that I'm going to mess it up haha one time I forgot to change the number even!!

[ruh roh]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

Just need to get this out. I'm feeling a lot of stress now that I'm home - work was super stressful, but that melted away on my drive home like usual, but now that I'm home, and h is here and son isn't home from work yet, the longer he doesn't come home the likelier it is that he's out with friends and h is going to be upset because that means he's not here writing out his budget or cleaning his room or doing his laundry and I am going to hear about it and my chest hurts and I feel like I'm waiting for a bomb to go off or something and i don't like this feeling and i wish i had asked t to come this week!! Ignore me i just needed to blurt this out.

Hi Art, you sound triggered, like in a ptsd kind of way, as if your h's chest thumping is setting off alarm bells from another time. Don't be hard on yourself, just call and ask your therapist for help if you need to. Maybe she can see you Saturday.