The Couch 146 : The Untouchable, Nontotient, Octahedral, Composite Couch.

And you're not hurting us. Don't worry about that.

(((Jdna))) some thoughts. So youre probably having a transference reaction to his vacation. Leave him before he leaves you. Leave your dad before he leaves you.

In my town, they put the preschool kids on chain gangs - as they walk them around downtown they are tied to a rope. This always just gets to me, im like, this is such a liberal town, how bad ARE these kids?! Now im thinking it symbolizes the new connections we have to make in our brains by seeing t. And also, maybe we are your chain gang.

Around here, the children are not tied to the rope but they must hold onto the rope when moving from place to place - it keeps them from getting squashed by cars etc. It makes sense to me.
Not that I would object to children being tied to ropes -but that is not what is happening.

I laughed so hard!

I'm sorry too JD. I think your t can handle being worried, I don't think you need to worry about him. I hope you continue to post here.

LOL Stopdog.

I'm sorry too JD. I want to be here for people in whatever way they want/need. I respect you. Sometimes I respond with my heart instead of my head.

I worry about you jdna. Please take care and keep posting here. You don't have to protect your t or any of us from your feelings.
How can we help you?

No I am still working

Thank you for this clarification. This is just the narrative i have formed in my head of this peculiar phenomenon.

That's good.

Ok now I'm crying. I'm hopeless and no one can help. I'm alone.

(((captgut)))

You have us.

They're teaching them to be good little socialists!

But seriously, tied TO the rope? What about a breakaway feature? Say a runaway driver plows into one of them, they'll all get dragged and hurt, whereas SD's kids on a rope can let go and jump back out of the way.

The socialists would've first formed a multi-year committee to discuss and produce a voluminous report with recommendations on a number of important topics --
- whether a rope is the appropriate method
- if indeed the rope is to be considered,
-- can it be sourced entirely outside of the evil influence of Western imperalists / capitalists?
-- what precise measurement / thickness should the rope have? (This topic by itself will require a completely separate sub-committee deliberation)
- as for the children, how will the inclusion of the rope affect their ability to understand and propagate the wonders of public sector manufacturing innovation
- etc

No, such hasty and ill thought-out ideas can only be a product of the evil West.

Hi couch peeps, just popping my head in to say hi. I've been a little out of the loop so I'll have to catch up if I can at some point. I skimmed the pages I missed on the couch but don't know if I read enough to really comment-except very general.
Art, I hope you can work it out with T.
ATAT-glad you are okay from shattering the shower door.
JDNA- please keep posting as you want and need.
BCM- hope you get to go home and away from EX
That's really all I got to for now. Hello everyone. Hugs to those who want them.

I'm going to be working 8am-6pm every day next week again so lots to do around the house this weekend. Get errands done, clean the house (Jersey 3.0 style), do all the laundry, give the dogs a bath and carve out time tomorrow night to get in a head space for those long days next week. My father is ill and we spent the 4th of July in the hospital. That happens often and why I haven't been present here much lately.

Oh-unrelated-I watch all 10 episodes of that show Gypsy with the unethical therapist. It didn't do anything for me and I slept through a lot of it. I was hoping for a big ending to make up for the season being so slow...but nope...nothing. Others may like it. I didn't care for it.

Okay, time to eat something healthy with the hubby. Clean eating brings some much needed calm to my world of chaos.

Hugs, love, handshakes, head nods from across the room...I think that covers almost everyone....

hey jersey! thanks.

So i'm home from the healing ceremony with my drumming group. Only, I'm so jacked because of this t thing that it wasn't very healing for me because I got my feelings hurt and felt so left out over something completely dumb.

I have never in over 3 years of hanging out with these folks ever felt anything but loved and accepted but today I felt judged and had to get up and leave before I started crying. And it was so stupid!!!!! I know it was just a simple oversight and no one had any bad thoughts about me but because my heart isn't right over this t thing, I took it all wrong, felt left out and hurt, and left before I started crying.

What happened was at the end after the ceremony was over the facilitator had brought chocolate rose cake, and she was cutting it and passing it around you know how you pass it around to the person next to you conveyer belt style until everyone after you has one and then you get the next one? Well when i handed the piece to the gal on my right that she kept because it was her turn to, and then turned to accept my piece, the gal to my left looked at me and then started eating the piece instead of handing it to me. I kinda shrugged my shoulders like "what?" and by this time the people on the other end of the circle had finished theirs and were asking for 2nds and i just sat there drinking my water trying not to cry from feeling left out, feeling judged, feeling like the gal who didn't hand me a piece to eat was thinking "You don't deserve any because you are so fat." She didn't even know me, we'd never met before, and the folks who come there are not the type to judge people, we're a loving bunch, you know? so i know it's all in my head and because of this thing with t. and besides it was just cake, who cares, right? i can make my own and eat the whole damn thing if i want.

Ugh. I just wanted to dump that out of my head so i don't start hating on myself. i'm stronger than that. right?

Meh.

eta: I am just going to sit here and be proud of myself for realizing it's this thing with t that's got me messed up, and has nothing to do with my drumming folks.

Jersey - I hope your father is doing better.

(Art) I know you're all out of sorts from t but also, if someone didn't hand me a cake slice amid people asking for seconds I would be PISSED AS F*** and probably would have cried too

What aa said. Not every emotion is due to the fact that you're upset at someone/something else.

It's another way of blaming yourself, art.

Thanks SD-he actually has end stage liver disease and the symptoms were really flaring up last week to the point where he couldn't even lift his head so I took him to the ER-they gave him some meds, ran his blood work and then we left. It's really just treating for quality of life. He has good days and bad days. When he has good days-they are really good-he can go to work and also participate in other activities hat he really enjoys. When he has bad days-they are really bad.
He's feeling okay today and plans to work tomorrow. He's retired but has a part time job that he enjoys that doesn't require hard physical labor.

well #$&#$(_#!!

(not at you, but because it's the truth.)

Also, to be totally honest, it would've been near impossible for me to resist asking them, "And, how is that cake?".

Repeatedly.

After every couple of bites that they took.

While bestowing them with my best beatific smile.

And, potentially adding "I'm so glad you're enjoying it so much. Bless your rosy heart".

Faked people out with my ancient undated student ID for a free day at the museum of fine arts

I was so excited to see the Matisse cutouts that I cried. Which felt silly. But I didn't think to take any pictures til I got to the American abstract expressionism gallery which is my favorite room.