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#451
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So glad you found your ring!
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#452
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I lost my rings for the longest time. I was so scared they were gone forever. They have a wonderful story although somewhat mushy behind them. Turns out one of my inside friends hid them because she doesn't like my husband and figured if I didn't have my rings then we weren't married anymore.....
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**the curiosity can kill the soul but leave the pain and every ounce of innocence is left inside her brain**
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![]() LonesomeTonight, unaluna
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#453
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Can someone please bring me pancakes
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![]() Ellahmae, ruh roh
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#454
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Wish I could! I so totally would! I love to make pancakes. Specially blueberry ones.
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#455
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My mom has been trying to nail down my plans for an upcoming holiday. I usually attend the family dinner with the person who traumatized me (and T spends several weeks picking up the pieces). It will be at the person's house this year and for the first time ever I said I would probably be out of town. She tried to push me into saying that if I was in town I would attend because "we" had decided that, and I said, "I decide if I go. But I will probably be out of town." She got very quiet and made an excuse to end the conversation.
The guilt is killing me. I know she is probably hurt and angry that I am not participating in the "happy family" play she envisions. I feel bad about that. But jeez, I have been a mental disaster for 25 years because of this and isn't it time for me to suffer a little less? I say that, while I dissolve into a panicky mess here in the corner. |
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#456
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![]() anais_anais
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#457
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Pancake party! I was just saying the other day how good a stack of blueberry pancakes sound.
Skeksi, I think it's wonderful that you're setting that boundary with your mother. The relationship with my biological mother is what I spend at least 60% of my time in session talking about. RoboT says that guilt is normal when you're testing boundaries. At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you ![]() |
![]() anais_anais, Ellahmae, LonesomeTonight, skeksi
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#458
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(((skeksi)))
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#459
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(((Skeski))) i have an rsvp to attend to also. Party in a month. Im trying to figure it out. Its so easy to just always go (except for those of us who see a t). You just say, anything anybody does is fine - we're family. Maybe that should apply to us too.
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#460
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Thanks, guys. It is so hard to break a pattern of sacrificing my feelings and sense of safety for her happiness.
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![]() anais_anais, LonesomeTonight, unaluna
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#461
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One of the things that keeps me playing the rules of the game is to avoid becoming that dissolving panicky mess in the corner. There is too much fear caught up in breaking the rules, too much uncertainty, too much at stake. So I just want to say I see your panicky mess in the corner and I acknowledge you for your bravery. It is brave thing you do and it is also a good thing. I see you there. |
![]() anais_anais, kecanoe, skeksi, unaluna
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#462
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Oh my gosh, THANK YOU for articulating this so well for me. You are right, we all are keeping the charade going, and breaking out of our parts is terrifying. Thank you for seeing me, too. |
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#463
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Have been in a total tantrum-crying-rocking-panicking shutdown over M leaving for the past few hours. I feel so stupid. I used to stay up every night when I was little crying and wondering why I was born so bad that everyone hated me. I remember the feeling and this feels like that.
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#464
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I can't decide if I should let myself cry it out or take a lorazepam and kill it
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#465
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Do you have to go to work in the morning? That would make the decision for me (work in the am =lorazepam). Sorry you're feeling this way.
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#466
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I've got the urge to get my hair cut again. Shorter this time. Like, shorter and spiky on top or something. I dunno.
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#467
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I don't know where else to put this and on top of all the other stuff this week I can't deal. Duchess said she would be mad if I didn't call her before I thought about it so I did and she hasn't responded and in a mess and feel sick and this sucks.
My mother just called my work phone (which she always claimed she didn't have) and left a voice mail. I listened because it came in through work and I didn't realize who it was from. I wish I could post the audio here. I am crumbling and trying to not go to dark places but I'm so confused and feel like I'm betraying her and ruining her life.
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**the curiosity can kill the soul but leave the pain and every ounce of innocence is left inside her brain**
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#468
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Do you mean like, do it yourself? I got that urge the other day. and followed through. It didn't turn out too bad. Could have been worse!
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![]() unaluna
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#469
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Hange in there, Ellahmae. I hope the Duchess gets back to you soon.
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#470
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I am remembering one time when I was probably 13 or 14 I got so pissed at my hair not "working right" that I took scissors to it and cut out a big chunk. I was a mess as a teenager! (well, i'm still a mess now, just a different kind of mess.) |
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#471
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(((Ellahmae)))
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#472
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If you want a distraction, I could regale you with the exploits of my fantasy baseball team? ![]() |
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#473
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Please do. I'm trying to o do grounding whatever I can. Baseball will help
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**the curiosity can kill the soul but leave the pain and every ounce of innocence is left inside her brain**
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#474
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Baseball always helps
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**the curiosity can kill the soul but leave the pain and every ounce of innocence is left inside her brain**
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#475
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I started out in last place, am now in first by a mile. Credit George Springer, Chris Sale, Alex Wood, and Justin Smoak. |
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