Letter

I'm writing a letter to my pharmacist. Should I mail it to the store or hand it to him in person?

What is in the letter hope?

It's a thank you for being so patient with me and I'm sorry if I've been annoying lately type of letter. I can PM it to you, if you'd read it for me.

This is the letter that I'm going to give him. No edits. I want him to know how I feel.

I'm sorry for bothering you so much lately. I know you're really busy so that's why I try not to take up too much of your time. However, it's always a joy to see you when you're there and you're so wonderful to talk to and be around. You have a very caring heart, a brilliant mind, you are a wonderful person, an extremely compassionate person, and you're a handsome guy.

You always make going to the pharmacy a good experience.

I know that I've annoyed you lately and I'm truly sorry for that.

I've been going through a hard time. My sadness is trying to take over and I'm losing the battle with my anxiety.

I've been deeply sad lately and I haven't been able to find a Dr. to help me with that. Sometimes, I just feel like giving up.

I'm sorry for being so annoying.

I personally don't think it is appropriate to give him this letter.

Why not?

It is simply stating how I feel. I've known him for a long time. I don't think he would mind.

Well he is your pharmacist and nothing more. You're basically pouring out your heart to someone that you have no personal relationship with, just a professional one. Plus calling him handsome implies that you are possibly interested romantically and that is very forward for someone who just gives you medication. I wouldn't be surprised if this letter actually made him feel uncomfortable.

You have a habit of pushing boundaries with people and I worry that you may end up doing the same with this pharmacist.

You have said that you have a crush on him and you mentioned trying to connect with him on Facebook. This seems like an attempt to connect and not really an apology. This doesn't feel right to me. I worry that you are being inappropriate too but it is your choice to see this through. But if you are asking advice- don't do it.

I also don't think it is appropriate for a pharmacist and may actually end up intefering with the good service he provides. I find the content overly personal, intrusive, even the idea of giving a personal letter to a phamacist. I would encourage you to remember how your damaged relationships previously with invading the personal space of other professionals. Hope, there is no way that sort of approach is ever going to serve you well even if the actual content of what you say to them seems positive. Your decision of course but since you are asking for feedback, mine is that I would not give him the letter or would approach him in any other way except what his work involves. Maybe I would express in a few words when I see him in the pharmacy that I appreciate his service, but that would be it.

Neither? I don't think it's appropriate.
It seems more like a way to connect to him rather than an apology.

I think he already knows that I have a crush on him.

But I know you are all right.

But I still wish I could tell him that.

I'm not looking to connect with him.

Maybe I should bring the letter to my therapy appointment on Tuesday and talk to him about it.

I'm not going to give it to him. You all have excellent points.

I think showing the letter to your therapist instead is a very good idea

When I was researching on Google, there were even people who were talking about asking their pharmacist out. So I'm sure there are other people with the desire to say how they feel also. One of the threads was on the Student Doctor network forum.

That would be an excellent move, I think! It really belongs to your therapy more than anywhere else.

People initiate and form relationships in all kinds of places, but it does not mean it would be appropriate and would serve you well.

I 100% agree. That way I can process those feelings.

I'm so glad that I have therapy on Tuesday!

I just care about this pharmacist so much. He is very sweet and knows my brother and I so well.

But, I'm trying to get a job in that pharmacy after my exam and I wouldn't want that letter to jeopardize the current situation since he may be my boss in the future.

How do I get over this guy?

I want to go back to before these feelings started.

Thanks everyone!

Could you maybe go to a different pharmacy for a bit?

While you are picking up meds there is nothing wrong with small talk with your pharmacist. Keep it light!! I would not mention your struggles as it might scare him or make him uncomfortable. Keep the small talk short too so he can do his job. That is a more appropriate way to get to know him better

This^ strikes me as a very, very bad idea. It's like setting a trap for yourself that would needlessly complicate your life. I hope you'll talk this plan out with your T, too.

I think this letter and the feelings and motives within you surrounding it would be an excellent discussion with your therapist!!