How to say this without insulting people I do not know but I have a really hard time trying to understand and put things into perspective. Transference is a big one, keeping information from your psychiatrist or therapist, reluctance to break from one mental healthcare worker to another, not taking responsibility for one's mental healthcare. It all seems so illogical to me and counter intuitive to working towards improvement. I just find myself constantly mind boggled and even irritated.

[DP_2017]

Well for me, on the keeping things, its just a matter of when it feels right. Sometimes, I still feel I need more trust for certain things, so I wait... sometimes it is just too dang hard to say. I've nearly vomited a few times trying to say stuff.

as for Transference, I'm not sure specifically what you are saying with that but yes overall its very confusing and frustrating.

[NP_Complete]

There are a lot of different people on these boards and we are each individual in how we use therapy. Some of us seem to get something out of the more relational aspects of therapy, myself included, and some of seem to find more benefit from the more solutions-focused therapies. Some of us just use therapy to vent.

I can't speak to all of the items you mention, but for me, I don't view my therapist as an interchangeable part that I can just pull out and replace with another. We have a relationship that's unique to me and him and it works for me. I suppose that touches on transference also.

What exactly about these topics and other's views here on the board do you find mind boggling and irritating?

[ruh roh]

I'm not sure the point of putting this out there. Maybe learning how to not judge the way others do therapy is something for you to look into. Or, just focus on yourself without turning it into how others are wrong?

[toomanycats]

That's ok. That's normal. Everyone experiences the world differently. What is "normal" for you might be completely foreign to me. That's what makes the world go 'round - as they say.

Originally Posted by justafriend306

How to say this without insulting people I do not know but I have a really hard time trying to understand and put things into perspective. Transference is a big one, keeping information from your psychiatrist or therapist, reluctance to break from one mental healthcare worker to another, not taking responsibility for one's mental healthcare. It all seems so illogical to me and counter intuitive to working towards improvement. I just find myself constantly mind boggled and even irritated.

I'm sure there's a pill for that. ; >

I think it's one of those things that are hard to understand unless you have been through it yourself. I have a very hard time understanding transference, so I generally avoid threads of that subject because I am not sure my advice would be considered "supportive". From what I have read about though, it appears to be quite painful to go through, because the therapist/doctor can never be what the patient wants them to be.

Are you trying to understand or just expressing your irritation?

Here's a nice quotation.

[atisketatasket]

Is reluctance to leave one mental health care worker for another and posting about it here like a reluctance to avoid reading posts and threads that irritate you, then posting about how they irritate you?

[lucozader]

Reading your post, justafriend306, I find myself mind boggled and irritated.

[stopdog]

I don't understand 99% of what people report they do with a therapist. But I don't presume to tell them they are wrong about how they go about therapy for themselves. I don't understand wanting to tell others they are wrong in their journey. I mostly would not choose to do therapy the way others report. I am not irritated by how others do therapy or what they believe even when I disagree. I get irritated when someone presumes to tell me how I should be or what I should do.

I wonder if OPs username is meant to be ironic?

[Pennster]

Have you ever encountered anything about perspective-taking as a skill, justafriend? If it's often hard for you to understand the thinking of others you might find it helpful. This is just an intro to the concept, but there's a lot out there if you google it.
Perspective-Taking: A Tool for Building Stronger Relationships

[maybeblue]

It's simply way easier to make progress in therapy if you like your therapist and feel like he/she understands you. And once you have a therapist like that, why would you want to change?

As far as transference, I would say that everyone experiences that to some degree or another. When find yourself getting irritated with your spouse because something she or he said reminds you of your mother, that's transference. It's just more obvious in therapy because you really don't know much about your therapist...so it's easier to attribute emotions and traits to them that aren't really there.

And being able to directly understand and address the transference in therapy can really help you be able to resolve issues with people in your real life. And that is the opposite of not taking responsibility for your own mental health.

[precaryous]

I’m not sure I understand the question?

Transference hell is real. Trust me

[WarmFuzzySocks]

There are ways to ask questions (of yourself and others, online and in real life) like what I think you’re asking, without being insulting:

-I’m curious about...
-Can you help me understand...
-Would you mind explaining more about your experience with...
-I find myself having a strong reaction when I read about...and I wonder why that is.

I have found that coming from a place of curiosity about others helps me feel more open and compassionate and less irritated, which makes me more likely to be curious, which helps me be more open...and so on.

[Dimbha]

Even i do face same problem. I visited so many experts but every one says it is normal... That is why i thought to seek help online and luckily found this website and here i saw your post describing my condition. Hope to get some help here

[Fernwehxx]

Originally Posted by Runcible Spoon

Here's a nice quotation.

This is so true...

To a degree I understand where you are coming from, but I'm not mind boggled or irritated about things. I have a very business like relationship with my therapist. I have no attachment, I don't see her as a friend, I don't contact her after hours, I've never looked her up on the internet and I don't think about her outside of therapy. I still have very productive sessions and it works for me. However I love hearing about other peoples experiences. Its eye opening. The more I read, the more I know. I know a lot of people here won't understand my seemingly cold approach to therapy, but I hope they wouldn't judge me for it. The journey is so individual. I truly enjoy learning how other people feel and where they are coming from.

[smileygal]

Everyone goes to therapy for different reasons and every one has a unique story which brings out lots of different things. I have intense transference for my T and sometimes it boggles my own mind so I can understand how someone who has never experienced it might find it difficult to get their head around. That being said the fact that you find these things that happen to other people and not you so irritating might be worth exploring more. Perhaps there is something more behind the things themselves or maybe it’s just plain ol inability to step into anothers shoes

[crystaljeane]

I would want my psychiatrist or counselor to be my best friend. My mate