Couch 161: The Hexagonal Pyramidal Couch

I learned last fall that there is a event in Chicago where they show the Sound of Music (movie) and have the lyrics to all the songs on the screen and everybody in the audience sings along. People even dress up for it. Apparently it is quite the thing!

I, however, can't help but compare that event to showings of the Rocky Horror Picture Show.

PS: I like both movies

I like them both too. I like musicals

The only Rocky Horror style experience I am intrigued by is a screening of The Room (written, produced, directed by, and starring the mysterious Tommy Wiseau). That movie is just... there are no words.

I have a co-worker who talks about that movie more than he should. Wasn't there just a movie about that movie? I haven't seen either.

You're tearing me apart Lisa!!!!

Lol that movie is terrible. Fun with friends though I'm sure.

Think of the worst movie you have ever seen. Then multiply it by five and that's The Room. It's repetitive, nonsensical, weirdly sexual in the most unsexy ways, has characters that don't make sense, has plot lines that get brought in then immediately dropped, and has mostly terrible acting. The whole movie is so bad that it somehow becomes fascinating. Here is a . (That weird dog is the finest actor in the whole film.)

Anyway no, I can't recommend that you watch it because it is not fit for consumption by humans or other living things.

I read The Disaster Artist, which was the book about making the movie (written by a perplexed co-star) and it was actually quite good. I haven't seen the film adaptation of that yet, but I really want to.

Hugs. I find it hard to trust myself too. While I wish T replies to messages, I'm sometimes glad she never does because I would analyse the messages A LOT...

It's OK to want validation.

I kinda cringe about some graphic violence stuff about my experiences which I posted because I wanted validation, when still in a stage to not realise my stuff was triggering.

Not saying your posts are triggering, they really aren't to me. Just talking about the urges to post.

Not criticising you, unaluna,just wanting to chime in on how ruh roh's post accurately describes a friendship I have.

She's so...fixated on believing that forgiveness and other CBT-type reframing stuff is the right way forward...for everyone, and never seems to register others might have different paths.

I haven't even begun to grieve trauma, and that I struggle with denial and minimising my pain, and she's telling me I should forgive my parents, my abusive brother who molested me. That I really should reframe X trauma to something else. Like really, not everyone wants to reframe a sadistic beating. And I definitely don't want to hear variations of my "poor abuser brother. He molested you as punishment because he was being physically abused..."

I'd tell her again and again that I'm wary of "spiritual bypass" via premature forgiveness isn't something I want. And that one doesn't NEED to forgive to heal. And that some stuff CANNOT be reframed without deeply invalidating the person.

...bit she forgets. Every few months. Because she can't imagine I've my own path that's just as valid.

And yes, she's a great person and I like her lots. We're trying out me saying what kind of support I want, and what I don't want to hear...because I know she really really just wants to help...

(Not a comment on your relationship with your friend or you, QM, just borrowing some very apt words.)

I would just like to say that this description applies to una too. I don’t always understand what she’s saying, I’ve gotten mighty pissed off at her for advice to me in the past that hit me the wrong way...but sometimes later when I’ve calmed down, I’ve seen that she had an insight that I’d missed that helps me move forward. Sometimes I need someone to smack me upside the head when I’m being willfully obtuse. Plus she’s been there for me at a couple upsetting moments, one just last night.

Is she always right? Nah. Does she always express herself clearly or diplomatically? No. Does anyone have to listen to her? Nope. But I don’t think she would say anything if she didn’t care.

Yeah una, I know you care you've been very insightful about my parents *hugs*

I think that settles it. 1. I keep seeing my t every week, twice a week. 2. I ignore my aunts phone calls from now on. Otherwise i get too too. Thanks you guys.

The parts I understood, I did not disagree with.
Just as an FYI.


I am trying out a new thing with the second one where I write to her to tell the story of my person and I and then go to an appointment. Just writing was not helping - so I thought I would try it as telling the story to someone else. We will see. The second was never contentious like the first woman. Trying to get the writing down right now - but the story lines are too confusing right now. It really helped last week and I am sure it will help this week once I get hold of the right one.

We are having a thaw - the dogs are muddy messes.

I'm almost finished watching the Broken Brain series and finding it so affirming. I 100% believe that many of the symptoms ascribed to mental health are caused (or worsened) by what we ingest, and that the worse of it is medication, all of it causing inflammation in the body and brain. People can go round and round about who said what to whom that was awful, and what happened when we were small to cause X problems today, but if our brains are sick from what we eat and ingest, it's all just hamster wheel running to me.

There's an alternative date available for my internal exam in February which I've chosen to take instead of doing it this friday on the 26th. I had a very bad weekend and really struggled to keep my head together.

Ive started not eating (except like a light snack) in the evening, and it has improved my sleep so much. I can feel that i do two full sleep cycles, and i wake up pretty darn calm.

I believe big pharma has screwed up a lot of people. When the list of side effects is worse than the thing the drug is supposed treat things have gone awry. I also believe the earth has become so poisoned that it is a bit futile to fight against it. What good is organic gardening when it is watered by acid rain?

The concept of what were they? carbon points? kinda got blown all to heck with the BP florida gulf disaster. How long did that go on for? That was pre-Gore. I think that accelerated global warming geometrically.

I guess it wasn't just gas. Sitting in urgent care with h right now waiting for doc. I called our Dr and they told me to bring him here. He thinks he has a kidney infection on top of all the gas. He's miserable and I feel helpless. I left work early to bring him. At least my boss didn't sound mad when I called him and said I had to leave. I'm trying not to be too worried. But I am. H thinks the worst out of any ache or pain and I so take on his fear and upset. We are quite a pair huh.

I hope it is nothing serious.

I hope he's okay Artie.

It's time to go deal with the drunken, pathetic email I sent last week. What are the chances that he won't bring it up? Basically all I said was please don't call me this horrible thing my husband did.

Hope he is in Art!

Hugs, Art. Hope it's nothing serious and that he feels better soon...

So far all we know is it's not a kidney infection. Doc said some kind of gut infection and gave him antibiotics and said to follow up with his doctor about further testing. He asked if he should go to the emergency room and she said he didn't appear to be that sick, but it was his decision. He said for now he will try the antibiotics and we're gonna try to get him into his regular doc soon. She said the antibiotic should start working by tomorrow already. So we'll see. He wants me to take tomorrow off too in case he decides to go to the hospital so I suppose I will, that way it just counts as one occurrence instead of 2 if I work tomorrow then have to leave early again. I know I shouldn't care about my job it's just work he's more important and I feel so guilty about that.