Couch 166: The Un-hex-hexed Couch

I don't think a roommate would know someone just died or that someone coming in had blood on shoes etc. I think it is fine to set boundaries, but I disagree that the room-mate should consider their stuff petty minutiae. I don't think either one is more important than the other.
I was doing death penalty work while my person was getting tenure. When I would come through the door, it was mostly hearing about her day at school. For me, while I certainly thought the stuff she was describing was sometimes silly spats between faculty members, it was stressful in terms of a livelihood - no tenure- no job. Sure my guy was going to be dead, but the truth is I did not get him there and there were limitations on what I could to save his life. So in some ways, her situation was more stressful than mine. And to be fair, I would not have talked about my stuff much anyway - so she might as well talk about hers. I think the trick is not listening all that closely. We did have an agreement that I would have 30 minutes after I got home to not have talking.

Stopdog, I'm sceptical about your Oscar Wilde quote. Sounds like an American to me.

Stopdog, I'm sceptical about your Oscar Wilde quote. Sounds like an American to me.

. Sense of impending doom? Like always wear nice underwear in case you’re in a car accident?

Tomorrow is the intake at the DBT place followed by normal session an hour later (and then a haircut which is long overdue). I'm not sure I can do this. I kind of wish the therapist would send me a note of encouragement before I go. Maybe I should just ask him to do so, but it would mean so much more if he did it of his own accord..

Geez, always raising the bar. First it was, WEAR underg's. Then it was, wear CLEAN underg's. When will it end?!

I always did picture you a bit like Mercedes Ruehl!

What would it mean?

It would mean I didn't have to ask someone that supposedly cares for me to do something kind and supportive for me.

I know the feeling—but sometimes people don’t know what to do or what is needed.

It would mean I didn't have to ask someone that supposedly cares for me to do something kind and supportive for me.

You're right. I should just ask for what I need.

Tomorrow is the intake at the DBT place followed by normal session an hour later (and then a haircut which is long overdue). I'm not sure I can do this. I kind of wish the therapist would send me a note of encouragement before I go. Maybe I should just ask him to do so, but it would mean so much more if he did it of his own accord.

And he did respond. He thanked me for asking for support.

Two hours until appointment. I'm so anxious. I was chewing gum and I was chewing it so vigorously from anxiety that I bit my tongue so hard it bled for a few minutes. Now I can't get the taste of blood out of my mouth.

This is the time of year I wish I had a tiny flock of sheep to keep my grass in check. It keeps raining so cutting it with lawnmower is a giant pain.

This is the time of year I wish I had a tiny flock of sheep to keep my grass in check. It keeps raining so cutting it with lawnmower is a giant pain.

Just hire someone?