Couch 171: Scams R Us

susannahsays · Jul 10, 2018, 06:55 PM

I sent the therapist a second text. This one says: Do you hear me??? I'm very angry!!!

unaluna · Jul 10, 2018, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I have always thought you and Una were Laurel and Hardy.

“Well, here’s another nice mess you’ve gotten me into.”

Hardy never understood Laurel either, did he,?

susannahsays · Jul 10, 2018, 07:11 PM

I feel like the mood dropdown is missing some of my most common emotions. I would like to see obstinate, petulant, aggrieved, gleeful, enraged, smug, and disgruntled up there.

stopdog · Jul 10, 2018, 07:15 PM

I think of us more as the smothers brothers - I am long suffering D (this site won't let me write out his name) and exhankster is T smothers.

Or Exhankster is Lucy and I am Mr. Mooney

awkwardlyyours · Jul 10, 2018, 07:27 PM

I am reading Simone de Beauvoir’s book about her mother...........may not have been the best idea.

Deejay14 · Jul 10, 2018, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

I'm completely convinced. That is just wrong on so many levels to call yourself DR.

Could you go all in on a distraction - like you really need a female T or he just looks too much like your ( cough) Grampa Joe? That's all I can think of.

Could have earned a doctorate in social work- a DSW.

NP_Complete · Jul 10, 2018, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Aaaaaaugh couch I just found out that the therapist I've been assigned at this new program I have to do for the next year is none other than the dude who did my intake. I HATE THIS DUDE. After spending an hour with me he told me that I have borderline personality disorder. To which I said, "but I don't meet the DSM V criteria? And none of my other psych providers have ever suggested to me that I might have that diagnosis?" And he was totally uninterested in my thoughts on the matter, was 100% sure of himself--not even curious about why I might disagree with him. (I have a special hatred for people who don't have even the slightest bit of healthy skepticism regarding their own thoughts and ideas. It's not that I dislike confidence, it's that I abhor people who won't even entertain the possibility that they might be wrong.)

Also he's an MSW but the secretary that works in his office calls him Dr. so-and-so which makes me hate him even more--it's pretty ballsy to go by "doctor" if you don't have a PhD or an MD. (I am 100% sure he doesn't--I looked him up on LinkedIn/PubMed.)

I don't know what to do. He emailed me saying he'd been assigned to be my therapist. There was no, like, "how does that sound to you?" in the email, it was just a statement of how things were going to be. And since it's a program that has a lot of folks with personality disorders, they're probably suuuuuper effing rigid about boundaries and will be like "nope sorry you have to stick with the one you've got." (And also I'm afraid that asking them to reassign me will put me in the category of "demanding" or "controlling" and then they'll *really* feel certain that I have BPD.)

Why is it so freaking hard to find a psych care team that isn't sick or out of the country or abhorrent????

Does it matter if they think that about you? It sounds like you're not going to get much benefit from this therapist so maybe it's worth the risk of getting labeled. You shouldn't have pay to work with someone you don't like.

unaluna · Jul 10, 2018, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

I feel like the mood dropdown is missing some of my most common emotions. I would like to see obstinate, petulant, aggrieved, gleeful, enraged, smug, and disgruntled up there.

Nope, neither gruntled nor disgruntled

Lemoncake · Jul 10, 2018, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I bet you all found the three stooges funny.
None of you will ever be allowed into the inner library sanctum with this sort of puerile attempt at humor.
You kids get off my lawn.

Wise words.

Lemoncake · Jul 10, 2018, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I realize I'm acting out right now, but I don't really care. I cancelled tomorrow's and Thursdays sessions, but said I'd see him on tuesday. . He said he would have to reconsider things- because he assumed I would be done with my last exam before his break, but I'm not going to beg for attention or contact during his break.

S:"you wouldn't leave your daughter home alone."
R:"even if she was 26?"

My angers gone. I'm going to turn up today.

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I went to a bar yesterday and paid for drinks and desert for the girl who helped me get through my exam. I've known her a while, but I just actually told her how bad I was doing instead of saying that I was fine and she really was there for me.She didn't have to pick up my crying calls but she did, and I love her for it.

Lemoncake · Jul 10, 2018, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

I'm sure it gets annoying how touching I find your T for some reason through the forum filter, but there's so much charm and tenderness in that dialogue. Even is she was 26?

Ah I pretty much spent the session acting like a child, and calling him a promise breaker and telling him I didn't like him. I'm scared that something bad will happen to him and that he won't come back.

Jul 10, 2018, 10:41 PM

I'm missing ex-t, missing the relationship, the "us" that we were, tonite. Will talk to the little owl she gave me instead before I go to sleep. It's not sad or that painful longing stuff of the past, just a 'sigh' and a nod to the feelings kind of a thing, and a smile for the memories.

I think I shall always love her.

Lemoncake · Jul 10, 2018, 10:44 PM

Have you named the owl?

Jul 10, 2018, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Have you named the owl?

Not yet... haven't thought of a good name. I feel like he is a he. Still working on that.

Jul 10, 2018, 10:53 PM

I probably shouldn't see her again to get the pictures, should I.

Jul 10, 2018, 10:57 PM

Had fun earlier at dinner with my cousins and their mom. We spent lots of time together as kids. Great memories we share.

Jul 11, 2018, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

I probably shouldn't see her again to get the pictures, should I.

Get the pictures, imo. They would be a great closing gift and she did promise them.

Jul 11, 2018, 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

If we were in ancient rome - yes. But here and now and in English you are all lumped together. Not only are you capable of it - you are actually engaging in it.
Bathroom humor, stick poking, blinky pictures, etc.

The cats would be allowed if able to pass the mature cat test. Kittens, while adorable, are possessed by demons.

My Tigger would fail the mature cat test, physically she's 5 years old going on 6 years but the way she behaves you'd think she was going on 6 months

Lemoncake · Jul 11, 2018, 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

I probably shouldn't see her again to get the pictures, should I.

I don't think ending with a T has to be a "I'm never gonna see you again." If you want the photos I would go.

Lemoncake · Jul 11, 2018, 01:43 AM

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The cats would be allowed if able to pass the mature cat test. Kittens, while adorable, are possessed by demons.

My cat barely evens plays anymore and hasn't done for donkey years- she's just not interested in toys. But I think she's possessed right now. She's been attacking next doors cat, who just gave birth recently but I also found
out from my sister who went to see the kittens that the owners said she's also been going into their home and eating her food.

CantExplain · Jul 11, 2018, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Im an italian catholic, i dont have a favorite (heathen) roman emperor, i have a favorite saint.

In hoc signo vinces!

CantExplain · 02:10 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Im an italian catholic, i dont have a favorite (heathen) roman emperor, i have a favorite saint.

Saint Jude. (Patron Saint of lost causes.)

CantExplain · Jul 11, 2018, 01:58 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Theoretically only CE is capable of puerile behavior. Una and art and I are girls, puellae.

Etymology is a wonderful thing.

And my cats respect whisky. Are they allowed in the library?

Puellile behaviour, then.