Couch 171: Scams R Us

@@, I learned how to do a Google image search on my phone but Google thinks your cat toy is a flower called banksia. Disappointed. Searched Amazon through my photo gallery, also disappointed. Where did you find this magical, one of a kind toy?

Ouch, Art.

You do you. Your woo-woo, consider all the angles, kind thoughtful self.

Letting go of needing to be whatever the person next to you thinks you should or shouldn't be is pretty freeing.

Ack - what would ever make you believe they might be?
Just the idea of them gives me the willies.

In fact, when I told him I was emailing a therapist to set up an appt, he told me he didn't want me to go. So I went for the first 2 months or so without telling him. Once I told him, I decided he was never to know my therapist's name. I highly suspected that he would eventually call him up and be terrible. All he was allowed to know what that it was a male therapist. I even went so far as to clear the GPS cache in the car and hide my parking receipts from him, which is why I now have every parking receipt for 2 years worth of sessions.

I’ve thought of that—it’s some kind of stiff twine, but I’m sure Lowe’s would have something suitable.

Chewy.com had some similar - theres a couple of caterpillars, and a 3-balls one. One of the caterpillar choices is 4-balls, i think that was on petlink or petsupplies.

My gf's cat has like a big dark brown dildo like toy, she showed me a picture of him going at it, and im like, your cat is a size queen

Eta - geez how long have i been looking at cat toys?!

Good thing you had the call of nature right when you did and not a minute later! And good thing you were home. What a bizzare happening.

AY—notice how una has very cleverly circumvented the prohibition about off-color jokes?

You know female cats are called queens, right?

AY—notice how una has very cleverly circumvented the prohibition about off-color jokes?

You know female cats are called queens, right?

When will you know the results?

I am rooting for you to be the one to prove that the elusive insanity clause should totally apply and we’re all saved from further insanity.

Thank you. They can't get me in until next week. I just had the mammo last Friday, so when I got the message today from the breast center, I thought oh s***. Their lack of urgency might bode well, however, except that my health care has been horribly mismanaged and I've had to connect the dots for everyone along the way. I love your idea about an insanity clause.

Hugs, rr, I hope everything is all right.

I had to go through callback/ultrasound twice. The tech told me that they tend to overscreen to avoid making mistakes.

When is the appointment?

Thank you. They can't get me in until next week. I just had the mammo last Friday, so when I got the message today from the breast center, I thought oh s***. Their lack of urgency might bode well, however, except that my health care has been horribly mismanaged and I've had to connect the dots for everyone along the way. I love your idea about an insanity clause.

I want so much to email my therapist, but she left town suddenly to be with her child who had just had her first grandchild.

I think you’re forgetting two other functions of those organs...

Go ahead and email her, I say.

The amount of stuff you’re dealing with is just....

I don’t know your insurance situation but for my stuff, I went ahead and got two different “second” opinions (so on total three opinions) from not just specialists but very specialized specialists.

Two of those places are actually ranked among the top places in the country but I was like whatevs, it is my health.

A couple of the docs got super pissed and like grade-school sulky that I’d gkne to other docs (they could see it from the common medical software system) but I basically just ignored it — turned out that while the overall broad assessment was pretty similar, the specific nuances on how they wanted to treat me were crucially different.

If at all you can do it, I highly recommend the practice of getting second, third or even fourth opinions (assuming you haven’t already done it — in which case, totally ignore the above soapbox piece).

Well, I like pineapple. And I like coconut. And I like white chocolate.I just apparently don’t like them all together.

At the ER again for H. 9th time in 2 months. So tired of this. So far every single test comes out normal. Some of it has to be anxiety, but he won't admit to it or even take the anxiety meds.

H just called to let me know he will be home late cuz he's up north a bit. I told him "I'm going back to therapy briefly". He laughed. Then he said the same person? or someone new? I said no the same person. I do NOT want to start over that would take forever. He said well I hope it's not for another 6 years. I said no it will not be. That after I had the panic attack over the weekend I knew I had left too soon. He said something about I need to do what I need to do. But I could hear disdain in his voice. Damn it. I should have waited til he was home before I told him but it just kinda came out before I could stop it.

Now I'm questioning myself. Maybe I can still go in there Thursday and apologize and tell her I made a mistake calling her and I should not have come back. I don't know what I am doing.

Why can't I just stand up to him and tell him this is what I want?!

How do others with spouses that don't want them in therapy deal with this? Am I wrong to want both? Am I wrong to want to be the best me I can be for him, for our marriage, for our son?

Why do I feel so defective right now?