Couch 191: The Lazy Caterer Couch

That sounds awful, @@. Did you have any warning before it happened? I mean, obviously you can't have had much warning or you would have made it to the bathroom - but maybe there are subtle signs you could look out for?

Edit: For example, I sometimes suffer from vomiting seemingly out of nowhere. I've noticed that the first sign that this is about to happen is feeling really hot all of a sudden.

i leave in 15 mins pocket riders would be nice. i have flip-flopped all morning about not turning up but i talk to my D about being brave and doing things you dont want to do so i feel i cant be a hypocrite

ATAT -I am sorry you are dealing with this sort of thing. One of the oral chemo's did this to my person. She wore depends and took a change of clothes to school for when she was teaching - not because the clothes ever got messed up in actuality, but because it made her feel safer just in case. The depends worked and one could not tell if she had experienced difficulties but it was horrible for her nonetheless. She would not eat before teaching and took immodium.

I am glad she is doing well.

Blessed - I hope it goes well

I was actually thinking a couple days ago that I might borrow one of my dog's favorite toys to take with me. He is partial to very soft stuffed toys. His favorite right now is a bunny. Then again, I sometimes have separation anxiety in relation to him, and maybe having his toy would trigger that.

I’ll come along if I can hang with your dog! ok, I’ll ride either way.
My T has a corner of “comfort items” that we can use... I don’t like anything over there... I want to sew a quilt, heavy and dark to hide in/under with just my nose sticking out... so don’t feel bad about the dog

Why aren’t Harvest Snaps as healthy as the packaging makes them look? I really want eating veggies to be this addictive...

Thanks everyone. My mom emailed me back and calmed me down.

"Sometimes in my bed at night
I curse the dark and I pray for the light
And sometimes, the light's no consolation."

ATAT...I’m sorry that happened and must of felt awful. Can you wear some protection underwear to work tomorrow to make you feel a little more secure? I hope you get some rest tonight. My check ins during this marathon work week will be sporadic but feel free to PM or email If you need some extra support. I’m here for you. I’ve had what you experienced once last year.. for me it was just a fluke but it still felt awful. Hugs.

ATAT - I have the exact same problem. I plan everything around where the bathroom is. I just started a new job and it is literally so inconvenient to use the bathroom that I am looking for a new job

People always talk about gas station sushi, for me it was snack store pea soup. Geez it was probably 25 plus years ago now, but some things you never forget. Plus one of the older secretaries where i last worked used to commiserate with me that when we got colds, sneezing was dangerous because you never knew what end was gonna let fly.

Plus you always take your chances with sugar free products.

I used to make my t hold this doll. I swear the doll would react to stuff he said, like roll his eyes, or look up at him, and i would be like, "see?! Even the doll knows youre lying!" Or whatever. I found it very helpful, and i SWEAR the doll was really doing stuff. Maybe it was just reacting to t's arm twitches? Like a lie detector? But it was hilarious. And TRUE.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. My pharmacy sells disposable underwear like pads by Tena I think, there are other brands but they offer protection and can they can be worn discretely under clothing.

Pea soup and sugar free food do not pass my lips.

You better watch out your sweetie doesn’t try to feed you pea soup!

I know I shouldn't worry yet, but I am about my nieces. I think the baby will be easier than the one year old. Baby will eat, poop, and sleep for the most part. Yes, I know they need touch and interaction too, and I'll need to know her schedule, but she doesn't need as much as the one year old. The one year old is mobile and can get into things. She also has the "terrible two's" attitude and loves pushing boundaries. I don't know what to feed her, what calms her down, what puts her to sleep, does she still take bottles, how much do I discipline her (I think I may be more strict than my sister). My sister had 9 months to plan for a baby, and has spent 1.5 years bonding with my niece and has experience on exactly what to do. I'll be, in a sense, dropped into parenthood...with two!

My H was reading that judges normally place the kids with family. I think I'm the only one my sister listed. So there's a high probability I'll get the girls. My sister said the paternal grandma can't have custody because she's not cooperating, the paternal uncle has a felony, the paternal aunt has lied to the police and courts, I don't think my older sister could take them (idk?), and my mom can't take them because she lives in a 55+ community. If it's not me or my older sister, then the girls won't be able to stay in the family.

And boy, the boyfriend is going to be upset. One, my sister said she got the CPS report and read everything that everyone said. I told CPS the truth. Then on top of that, he does not want me to be a guardian to the girls. He thinks I'm trying to steal his kids. He doesn't understand that it's not about him, it's about the girls. And he doesn't realize that I only want the girls for them to be safe; not to take them away from their parents.

All the parents on here: I might be asking for the some advice!

i remember that. they were the best stories

with this written narrative thing i have divide my life into 7 epochs. my dad died when i was 5 and i have always divided my life into before dad died and after dad died. they want periods like primary school, high school etc and i have to write sbout at least 4 significant events in each one. i find primary school hard to remember i dont know if i can complete this but T did acknowledge it might be challenging for me.

Cheesy that sounds interesting. When i was writing the story of my life, i kinda did it like that. I had broken it up by epochs and then just listed major incidents as i remembered them, just flying around from epoch to epoch. Computers do make it easier than typewriters to skip around and cut and paste.

Holy carp scarlet. I wouldnt know where to start. I hardly even babysat.

Hi couch,
I've been lurking lately. Since Valentines day I've been dealing with 2 kids having the flu (separate times). That's taken up a lot of my time and has messed up my schedule. Then this week we had a blizzard and my kids school was canceled half the week.
I've been trying to stay busy. My mom and stepdad took me to a NBA and NHL game which was nice. I also got my tattoo for my youngest daughter last week. Really trying to make it through and not act on any too stupid thoughts. I hope everyone is okay-ish.

Apparently I won’t be sleeping tonight.

I can’t get No. 1 out of my mind. Went to her website, thought about filling out the appointment request form...eh. There’s nothing more to be said there, it’s just nostalgia. She was a better therapist than Info, especially when I was sick.

It might be good to start reading up while you're waiting (because you won't have time later!). I like Elevating Childcare and No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame, both by Janet Lansbury. (Her podcast is great too.) Some of the RIE stuff is a little bonkers when taken to the extreme, but I really like the philosophy of parenting from a place of connection and setting boundaries that work for you and the kid.

You might also Google "therapeutic parenting." Foster parenting is a whole other level. I don't know if the kids have any trauma in their background already, but if they don't, then being taken away from their primary attachment figure(s) and sent to live with somebody else will be traumatic in itself.

Some parenting books that have been recommended to me about how to build secure attachment in children:

Parenting With Love and Logic by Foster Cline (Author), Jim Fay (Author)

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel (Author), Tina Payne Bryson (Author)

Raising Human Beings, by Dr. Ross Greene

Parenting Without Power Struggles: Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm and Collected by Susan Stiffelman

The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering our Children

ParentSpeak: What's Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children--and What to Say Instead

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind

The Parents We Mean To Be: How Well-Intentioned Adults Undermine Children's Moral and Emotional Development

The Attachment Parenting Book : A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby

No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

For more basic advice that you can reference quickly, I'd also suggest Baby 411 and Toddler 411, both by Ari Brown and Denise Fields.