Couch 198: All the Countries Couch

stopdog · Jun 16, 2019, 10:08 AM

I was going to smoke some pork belly today but we have thunderstorms and my smoker isn't covered. I am a fair weather bbq-er

downandlonely · Jun 16, 2019, 10:13 AM

Too bad you can't smoke the pork today. It sounds good.

atisketatasket · Jun 16, 2019, 10:31 AM

This economics chapter is on aggregate supply and demand.

I don’t like the sound of that “aggregate.”

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 16, 2019, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

4 trips is excessive. Not taking sides, but his trips had quieted down for a bit. Maybe all the moving has triggered this.

Maybe. I was actually thinking that the moving distracted him from himself. Now that we're settled in, he's bored again and is focusing on his health again.

Jun 16, 2019, 11:26 AM

Just got word my brother and his wife have picked up my son at the airport! I'm so excited for him having this adventure.

Lemoncake · Jun 16, 2019, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Can someone tell me what is considered suitable swim wear for an over weight woman? I hope I’m not framing my question rudely. I don’t know how else to ask . I haven’t owned swim wear in years. My current nanny family joined a swim club. I have to take the tots. I’m overweight and don’t want to be seen in a bathing suit. I’m very self conscious. Any bottoms that do not have at least a 7 inch inseam are unacceptable for me to wear. Maybe not others, but it’s unacceptable for ME to wear. Am I reaching for the stars that I want to find board shorts or quick dry shorts with at least a 7 inch inseam? When I take them I won’t be submerged in a pool. They will just use the waddle pool. The water will only come up to my calf-if that. And I don’t want to spend a lot of money as I will only need it for my remaining time with them. I won’t have a use for swim wear after that. I don’t care for beaches or pools as I don’t know how to swim.

Anything you feel comfortable in.

Lemoncake · Jun 16, 2019, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I miss my Dad. I wish I could call him and listen to him ramble on for a while.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I think it is possible your mother simply doesn't know exactly what to do. Have you tried asking specifically for what you want - not general like I want more support, but like "Mom, when (daughter) does X, it would help me if you did Y(specific Y).

Maybe it wouldn't work, but I wouldn't know what someone wanted from me in the situation you described. I would probably see laughing as the least harmful thing I could do in the situation.

Thanks, I should probably give that a try. I think I've tried to tell her stuff before about how to handle a meltdown, but it didn't take. She had another one at their house while I was there, but I managed to get her out of it using some distractions.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

LT

I can relate, while I don't have kids, being dismissed/ignored is my biggest trigger in life. It is because it's something my mom has always done. I've always been forgotten. The thing I've realized since therapy, nothing I say or do or wish can change her. She has to decide to change if she wants but I can't force it. What I can do, is be the best version of me I can be. I can like myself, and try to be around the people I do find in life who don't ignore or dismiss me. I also keep in mind that everyone handles things differently, for their own reasons, even though it seems personal, it might have nothing to do with me.

I wish things could be better for you but I don't know that it will ever change. Maybe finding some online friends who have children on the spectrum could help, it could give you a chance to have more support and people to talk to who understand. Even in person is better but unsure how to find them. Good luck

Thanks, DP. I doubt my mom will change either, like I could try to talk to her, but I just don't know how effective it will be. I am in some Facebook groups for parents of kids on the spectrum and actually have met a couple of them in person, and it's helped to be able to talk about shared experiences. And just talking to someone who "gets it" is nice. One of them I see every couple months for lunch--which reminds me that I should try to make plans with her again.

Polibeth · Jun 16, 2019, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

Can someone tell me what is considered suitable swim wear for an over weight woman? I hope I’m not framing my question rudely. I don’t know how else to ask . I haven’t owned swim wear in years. My current nanny family joined a swim club. I have to take the tots. I’m overweight and don’t want to be seen in a bathing suit. I’m very self conscious. Any bottoms that do not have at least a 7 inch inseam are unacceptable for me to wear. Maybe not others, but it’s unacceptable for ME to wear. Am I reaching for the stars that I want to find board shorts or quick dry shorts with at least a 7 inch inseam? When I take them I won’t be submerged in a pool. They will just use the waddle pool. The water will only come up to my calf-if that. And I don’t want to spend a lot of money as I will only need it for my remaining time with them. I won’t have a use for swim wear after that. I don’t care for beaches or pools as I don’t know how to swim.

I'm exactly the same way. I'm way overweight and very self conscious. I wear a suit that has a lengthy skirt to cover most of my thighs. I haven't gone to a pool in years despite the fact I was on swim team throughout my school years (back when I was thin). Hugs.

Jun 16, 2019, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Polibeth

I'm exactly the same way. I'm way overweight and very self conscious. I wear a suit that has a lengthy skirt to cover most of my thighs. I haven't gone to a pool in years despite the fact I was on swim team throughout my school years (back when I was thin). Hugs.

I may order a pair of the ones in the link LT sent me. I’m still reading reviews about sizing. I’m not usually fond of ordering things like that online because of the return hassle if it doesn’t fit but I doubt I will find anything at least 7 inches long in any stores.

chihirochild · Jun 16, 2019, 04:41 PM

Finally have a day off--first one in seven days. I'm aggressively doing nothing. Maybe too much so because I'm starting to get bored :/

Jun 16, 2019, 04:46 PM

My son called a little bit ago from my brother's house in Germany, it's hard to believe my boy is more than 5,500 miles away from me right now...

Jun 16, 2019, 04:49 PM

Met someone who didn't believe in the international date line they have to go with the guy who thought that the fact that chocolate kills dogs was an urban myth he also didn't believe that earth had had an atmosphere

Jun 16, 2019, 04:50 PM

I have to finish cleaning my house for the inspection tomorrow

rainbow8 · Jun 16, 2019, 05:39 PM

I haven't posted here in a long time, but I have to drink 10 more 8 oz. cups of colonoscopy prep, so I thought I'd stop by for some sympathy! I had 2 already.

Jun 16, 2019, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by rainbow8

I haven't posted here in a long time, but I have to drink 10 more 8 oz. cups of colonoscopy prep, so I thought I'd stop by for some sympathy! I had 2 already.

Welcome back. Colonoscopy prep is the worst.

Jun 16, 2019, 05:46 PM

I have spent over 12 years in therapy and I don't feel much benefit from the different modalities but obviously I get deeply attached which I don't understand as I try to keep them at a distance. Is it worth it? Have I just had the wrong Ts? I have seen about 8 in this town already and only felt comfortable with my exT. From the very first session I liked him I haven't felt that before.
Nine years is long time and I want my clock.

rainbow8 · Jun 16, 2019, 05:49 PM

I haven't posted here in a long time, but I have to drink 10 more 8 oz. cups of colonoscopy prep, so I thought I'd stop by for some sympathy! I had 2 already.

JaneTennison1 · Jun 16, 2019, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by rainbow8

I haven't posted here in a long time, but I have to drink 10 more 8 oz. cups of colonoscopy prep, so I thought I'd stop by for some sympathy! I had 2 already.

All the sympathy your eay, that stuff is worse than the actual procedure

JaneTennison1 · Jun 16, 2019, 05:56 PM

I baked all day to deal with today. I also yelled at my OH a lot. Not a great day but I do have cake.

Jun 16, 2019, 05:57 PM

Hugs, rainbow. The prep is no fun that's for sure!! I agree it's worse than the procedure.

Jun 16, 2019, 06:00 PM

Started a new afghan today, this one for one of my Midwest friends whose first grandbaby is due in August. Yep, I am slightly obsessed with this pattern!
Couch 198: All the Countries Couch

NP_Complete · Jun 16, 2019, 06:33 PM

I really like those colors.

unaluna · Jun 16, 2019, 06:51 PM

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I really like those colors.

Yeah sooooo soothing.

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