Ack. Having second thoughts.

<font color="purple">So yeah, I made the mistake of telling my mother that lately I've been feeling depressed. This is a mistake because she tells this to my father. I have...alot of difficulties trying to talk to him, so when he brought it up, it's not like I spilled my heart out or anything (or told him about the incident when I started pulling my hair out with tweazers) so he basicly gaveme the message of "Well, okay, that's your choice...but I REALLY THINK THAT IT COULD JUST BE TEEN PROBLEMS AND YOU OVER OVER-ESTIMATING YOUR PROBLEMS" well, not in all caps, but once you de-vague-ify it, that's what it boils down to.

It's just frustrating now, because I'm begining to doubt myself. What if it really IS just a little bit of teen problems, and I just created all that hype for nothing? I don't think I could stand the thought of making myself look like some over-dramatic, hypochondriac, idiot.

..of course, I don't think pulling hair out with tweasers falls under the classification of "generic teen issues" but that was an isolated incident- so I wonder if all this crap has any meaning to it.

I'm also worring if the guy/girl I'll be seeing as a therapist will see it like my father does, because I just have a hard time opening up to people (unless of course, it is online) and that maybe I DO have real problems that are dissmissed too quickly.

I think my dad has issues too that are very similiar to mine, but he's the kind of person who would just brush them off and never seek any kind of help for them.

Oh, and this would be a good time to mention that my concious normaly has this nifty little ability to console itself. (internal therapy?) of course now I try to do that and my internal therapist puts me on hold because it doesn't know what the hell is going on either. (which is actualy kind of sad because it's the voice of reason fo well...everything)

I'm really hating this feeling of self-doubt when before I seemed so conident that something was definately not right with me. </font>

Do not doubt yourself.

Everyone can benefit from therapy. If it feels overwhelming to you the therapist will help it be not so overwhelming. Whether it's "typical teen problems" or not, how you feel is how you feel. If you want help and guidance with your problem I think that's wonderful. Not all teens will get the help you will to face issues and work through things such as depression. And yes, the hair pulling is a potential problem that should be worked on.

There is no criteria you have to meet to be in therapy. It's an open door for anyone who feels they need a little guidance in their life. You can use it however you like - to vent about school, parents, life. Or you can set goals to work on (like the hair pulling, depression, etc).

It's okay to feel anxious about beginning something new like therapy. You can do this while feeling doubt and apprehension. You want to feel better, you're very introspective and express yoursefl well. Teen problems are like any other problems and they can be helped with therapy, having someone to confide in who isn't a close family member and is there just for you.

Give it a chance to happen and see how it really feels versus your thoughts about how it might feel. An adventure where you get to explore new things and learn about you!

parents hate knowing something is wrong with their child and they cant fix it.
mebbe he denys it cuz he doesnt want to admit that he cant help?
idk
tweezers?
never heard that before. i know a few peeps who are trichtilliomanic (sp?), but with the tweezers... idk
take care
my ears are open
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<font color="purple">What if it really IS just a little bit of teen problems, and I just created all that hype for nothing? I don't think I could stand the thought of making myself look like some over-dramatic, hypochondriac, idiot.</font>

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People tend to dismiss problems teenagers go through simply because it's a tumultuous time in eveyone's lives. This is a bit backward, in my opinion. Because it's a difficult time, it's the perfect time to get help. Teen issues or a mental illness, who cares? You are struggling with something, there's a person out there who may be able to help you, so why not use them?

As for your Dad, he's responding the way a lot of people do to mental health issues, he's dismissing them. People without these issues tend to believe that we should be able to just change our thinking and we'll be fine. This is sometimes true but often, it takes more than that.

Good luck and do what you have to do to take care of yourself.

Cyran0

I agree w/him^