Couch 201: The Transformative Grammar Couch

I googled it, theres no inheritance tax for you guys. Only on the estate if its over like 5 million. If thats going to be a problem, i will be there next week to help you out!

They must have changed the law since my mum died because I paid inheritance tax with her.

Well i guess i dont know everything. Since 1993 i think. I was surprised you said that to begin with because we didnt pay.

I over did it today and my ribs hurt when I breath. I am taking pain relief and going to bed.

Spending his money is the best revenge.

I'm not a mother either yet, but my favorite speaker Les Brown was adopted.He spoke about before being angry at his birth parents because they were faceless and he never knew them, but a friend told him. That it was natural for a mother to automatically love her child when she felt them moving inside her. That he wasn't just given away, but also chosen with love as his adoptive mother never had that experience but accepted him 100%.

Maybe you tried to find your birth mother?

It makes perfect sense to grieve the end of your relationship and there isn't a set way for how you're supposed to act at all. It's okay to feel lost & confused.. I hope T can support you through this all.

Indeed I do!

I am an adoptive mom. I adopted my son out of the foster care system when he was 6. He had been removed at age 4. It was a “closed adoption” because is was child services so his bio family was not to know anything. I found his family and we did visits. No, they never forgot him. Yes, they wonder about him on his birthday and holidays. However, the family bonds were shattered by child services in a way that seems to have been beyond what could be healed. They have had minimal contact over the years even though they love him. When there is stress in the family he is brushed to the side because they know he is safe and cared for someplace else. It wasn’t the happy connection I had hoped for him.
I was present when my great grandson was born (my “step” sons daughter). I had only met my son and his family one other time before the birth. I will never forget that day, my son, my grand kids and especially not my great grandson even though I didn’t know them, or even that they existed 6 months before my great grand baby was born.

Hi couch. My stress/anxiety continues. Now son's gf's car won't start. We suggested they cal AAA and have it towed to our shop we use then she can use my car so they can both go to work but they opted to handle it a different way with son calling out. I hate this. They got it started with jumper cables and went to auto zone. Hopefully it's just the battery and they can fix it but if it's not, they'll still have to get it towed and it this morning will be wasted time. My shoulders are still up around my ears from the anxiety on our trip. I think I'm picking up her anxiety which adds to my own . I need to stop that. I want L

Sorry your anxiety is so high Artie. My anxiety is that hardest thing for me to handle when it gets high. I would rather deal with the CPTSD than the anxiety.

I've spent (wasted?) so much time pretending to be little Mary sunshine, now that I've at long last accepted and been able to admit I have anxiety it's like that is adding to it. I feel crushed by it at the moment... I am breathing through it best I can. Will drum on my lunch break in an hour or so.

WFS—for me there was a similar feeling because of the sudden release of stress once the divorce was final. It was like being outside when it’s cold but not starting to shiver till you get inside.

It takes guts to do what you’re doing, leave a relationship that isn’t working and try to bring it to as balanced an end as possible, instead of closing off the possibility of change and staying in the same old rut.

Hugs, WFS.

Just heard from son, gf car is fixed just needed a new battery. Now they can both go to work. I'm glad he was right. I need to chill the **** out.

So I turned in my 7 poems/7 edits last night. This is the first thing instructor has actually graded and didn't just award full points for doing it haha. I got 9/10. Probably because one of them I only changed a very tiny bit haha! I now have 89/90 pending what I get for my poetic statement (which i haven't finished or turned in yet). edited here: oops, she already scored the final video I got 3/3 for that. So I have 89/90 with only my poetic statement left that is worth 10 pts. I just have to finish it and turn it in.

I want to eat, but I’m not sure if I’m hungry. I’m having trouble identifying if I’m hungry today or if I just feel like shoveling food into my pie hole.

Today is going better than yesterday. I feel better. I think it was former T's email. It was enough to stabilize me. I'm getting a $200 visa gift card for a bonus at work. Pretty excited about that! I'll probably just save it to use at Christmas but still, that's pretty awesome. Plus we have a meeting on Thursday with free lunch and I got free Starbucks today. Yippee! My depression feels better (can't all just be this free stuff) at least for today. I feel more centered within myself. My anxiety is rising a bit but that may have been the coffee. I'm feeling pretty settled in myself. It's a good feeling. I forgot what it felt like because I've been in crisis mode for too many days.

I go by whether I feel the hunger in my stomach (real), or in my throat and/or brain (emotional).

The maybe was supposed to be have you.

I have no idea how you gets understand me 90% of the time.

EDIT: The gets was 100% unintentional and supposed to be guys.

Well dome artie,

I'm glad your feeling a smidge better.

I like where you work. I would have been sold with the free donuts!

I am a big comfort eater. I find chewing gum helps a bit or maybe sucking ice cubes.

Thanks. I took a walk in-between rain drops. Turns out I wasn’t hungry.

Thanks Lemon, I took a walk. Not hungry.