Couch 208: The Practical Couch

I used to hit the roller rink around 1989-91 or so. Rolled up jeans, not too much hairspray, but I'm sure plenty of other questionable trends.

Ah, good point. Like if he didn't do it now, I wouldn't say anything. And when we discussed that conflict recently, he said he was confused by how much it had bothered me, because I hadn't mentioned it before. So, yeah, maybe it wasn't so much that it was an unreasonable request, but how I asked and pushed for it. The fact that I've back off, he's more OK giving it to me. Because I'm not demanding it.


It actually seems similar with email replies since I've been back. I email him less often and have been throwing him softballs, easy things to reply to (he's said this--not the softball part, but that they've all been easy replies).

1967-68 for me. I never did learn how to stop. Or turn, or anything fancy. Like bend my knees. But i could go around and around for hours. On the spectrum?

Oh, I'd just grab onto the wall to stop, I think? Never really learned anything fancy.

I learned how to stop after quite a while but what I really wanted to do was skate backwards.

I never mastered that.

I’m sorry you’re doubting yourself and your reaction, which is totally valid by the way. This is how I feel with my husband a lot. I was actually just laying here thinking about how I feel really alone and like no one understands how he hurts me, because I worry I’m just being too sensitive about everything. It sucks and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it too.

Thank you. I worry that I'm being sensitive and over reacting about it. It wasn't towards me or the family, just a random person. I found it to be very immature. The whole situation really angers me and I wasn't even there to see it, my son told me because he was in the car when it happened.

I'm really struggling writing this last paper for my class. It's not due until the 11th but I really want to get it out of the way. It's also the longest one we have to write for this class and is a group theoretical framework proposal. I can't seem to figure out what to write for each part. I think I'm overthinking it and it's not supposed to be as hard as I'm making it.

I must find something to do for today. I’m babysitting my twin friends at 6pm but need to keep myself busy until then. I’m not sure what I’ll do today. I was out all day and night last weekend.

I'm surprisingly feeling good.

Got my washing done at 3.45am because I couldn't try to sleep anymore. I went to bed at 7.30pm the previous night.
Gym
Then studying at a cafe for around 3 hours. I was following the rule that said you had to buy something. So I did buy the cheapest item which was a pretzel for £0.57p. So i've found my teeny loophole. i would have gone back down to buy a coffee but I didn't want to leave my laptop unattended.

I don't feel bad for staying for so long because they're a big chain and have three stores in my area super close to each other and they're billed as a "study cafe". There were lots of other students too mulling over their single cup.

I was on the second floor and it was still half empty which is better since they opened the larger shop.

Maybe the library.
Window shopping.
Documentary on netflix?
Cleaning?
In bed chatting with us?
Trip to your fav bar for lunch.

What do you normally like?

Maybe you could find examples online which could give you an idea for structure?

Can you email other students?

My take is that often other blame us for being too sensitive when it's not our fault, but rather their behavior which causes the reaction which is perfectly valid.

Thanks Lemon. There's a forum for asking the instructor and other students can respond too. I might do that once it gets closer to week 6. I've been trying to find examples online but no luck so far.

Edited to add: I posted on the instructor forum to ask to clarify some parts of it even though week 6 doesn't start for 2 more weeks.

Thanksgiving week, woooo!

My wife took the week off and decided she wants to Marie Kondo her stuff, which I fully support. I was a little disappointed that my sister-in-law decided not to host Thanksgiving dinner this year, but now I'm feeling relieved that we won't have to drive a long distance with a one-year-old. We're having dinner with some local friends and one of their moms instead.

Anybody else have fun plans?

I have thanksgiving day off only. Just going to my moms that day then home since I have to be in work by 7:30 am the next morning. Remind me never to take another nanny job with doctors.

Yesterday they said to me Jersey! We both have work on Christmas Eve during the day.

Well, sorry to hear that. I’m not coming. They will have to figure something else out that day.

I'm off Thursday and Friday because I keep forgetting to request leave for Wednesday. My oldest is hosting this year's feast, should be amazing because she's an awesome cook. A friend invited me to go shopping with her but I don't think I can stand it. Probably let the youngest talk me in to putting up the tree, although I feel my eye twitching right now, because I despise decorating and dealing with the cat vs. tree drama for the whole month.

Happy Saturday couch! I'm being more productive around here than I have been for ages, I credit walking up the stairs a million times a day at work.

I have class on Wednesday, but I have Thursday and Friday off... although I think I may have some assignments due on Friday.

The festive music has started. I am not a fan.

Wish I liked to clean house.
Did I mention, my application for low cost housing has been accepted and the tentative move in date is Feb 1st!

This looks like a lovely, safe apartment complex. The rent is cheaper, it’s smaller and will be easier to clean, my dog, Emmy, can go and since she is my emotional assistance animal, I won’t have to pay an extra damage deposit or extra rent, and Housing will pay for her food, vet and flea protection medication as long as I save my receipts. No more paying for grass cutting, weeding, or any of that.
And I have a ground floor apartment!

I have tons of items to sort through (I think I’ve told you that) ..tons of gardening items to sell or give away that are still in great shape.

All of this is happy news. I’m trying to motivate myself to sort through this by playing ‘The Waltons’ and ‘Little House On The Prairie’ on TV. Those families could clean! Just let me see Esther Walton get a broom in hand and I’m off to blow the leaves from my back porch!

Ugh. Cop schedules are like that too. You can sometimes get Christmas Eve off or Christmas Day off, but not usually both.

SheHulk, I don't know if your school has a writing center/lab, but sometimes they can be helpful when you just don't really know where to start or can't get your thoughts together. The one at my school has online appointments as well as face to face. I went one time because I just couldn't get started on a paper. The person I met with was really helpful. She basically just asked me questions that helped clarify things in my mind and assisted me in coming up with ideas for how to structure my paper. It was funny because she didn't actually tell me what to do - but through answering her questions, everything became clearer and less overwhelming. I'm not a bad writer at all but in the past couple of years, I've had increasing trouble organizing my thoughts due to issues with maintaining focus and my trail of thought. Anyway, I left the appointment with a concrete plan for the theme of my paper, and what I would specifically discuss in each paragraph. This was incredibly helpful and I was able to knock out the paper easily. If you have such a resource at your school, I would look into it.

I agree with what @@ said. I also don't really see it as him not holding to his word. From my perspective, this could be him choosing to be considerate. That is not the same thing as him just having done it originally - because like I said, he voiced how he felt and that he isn't going to be directed to do this sort of thing. That means he is choosing to do this to be considerate rather than doing it because he basically fears the impact it will have on you or because you're the client and your needs/wants must always take precedence.

Of course, it could just be his back got better. However, if that were the case, I doubt he would have said the thing about being controlled. That was a theme of the string of ruptures that led to the brief termination with him - so I wouldn't discount it.

I slept for 12 hours last night. But I woke up with a migraine. I took some medicine and it's starting to be better which is good because I'm going to the movies with my parents. The Mr. Roger's one. I want to see Frozen 2 but my parents not so much. Oh well. My Dad is paying for the movie today so it will still be fun. I feel like I have so much to do to get ready for the holidays. It's a bit stressful. Hugs. Kit

So, I just got this "feelings" poster from Amazon with kids' faces on it as D's T suggested. I said it was just like Miss P has. She then said she's going to play Miss P and teach a few of the animals. So she's up there asking things like, "What are you feeling today?" So...I guess my D instead of playing school is now playing therapy.