Couch 208: The Practical Couch

Morning couch,

I'm finding myself to be really anxious this morning. I'm supposed to meet with my son's vice principal this morning but she didnt specify an exact time. And I have T this morning, so I wouldn't want to the meeting to go long. And I'm anticipating I'll get a call sometime today to schedule the team meeting for CPS.

God I’m so bored today—I’m just following this doc around watching everything he’s doing. He’s great but it’s boring. I just want to go home. Sometimes residency is real stupid.

So I was going to return to work today but started running a fever yesterday (I never, ever run fevers). Then my throat got sore and my glands swollen. I have a doc app't at 2:30 today but everything points to strep. Not sure how I would catch that when I've been home for weeks on antibiotics. Hopefully it's just viral, I'm drinking lots of tea and water.

I talked with my director today and he's being really supportive about all the absences (and I'm a new employee just off probation). It seems I'm going to be entitled to some short-term disability benefits so I can just stop worrying about pushing myself to return to work.

Ugh, I hope it's nothing serious Polibeth and that you recover soon. That's good you may be able to get short-term disability and that your job is being understanding.

So sorry Polibeth that you have more stuff going on. I’m glad your boss is being supportive.

The 4 year old is being okay today. (Knock on wood) there’s still 2 hours left in the day.

Hey couchies, hugs and head-nods all around. Today was definitely Monday, sigh. Hopefully you're all going to rest well tonight.

So I definitely have strep. I was telling my doctor my symptoms and she kept nodding and saying "I'm sure it's viral".

Then she looked at my throat - and said "Oh yeah, that's definitely strep" but ran the rapid test to make sure. It's one way to keep everyone in the family from coming near me!

Oh @Polibeth, first pneumonia and now strep!!! That's horrible! I'm so sorry you are so sick! Please take it easy, rest, and take care of yourself. HUGS Kit

I am not sure if he thinks he needs it more, if he thinks it's no big deal? He said he would just give me free sessions until I caught up. The mistakes started 7/28, but he told me i was making a big deal out of nothing. However, Anthem redid claims from 7/28 until November; he took several thouand dollars either without knowing or caring he was overcharging 2x week. anthem told him to write one big check back to me, but he prefers to have free seasons for a while. i'm uneasy if he taking advantage of me or just doest understand nee d that money .

Wow, that would shake up the dynamic, and also end therapy

Meeting with the principal was a joke. All she wanted to know was if I talked to my son about his behavior and then asked him if he thought about his behavior. I talked to T about it and he seemed upset that they're not trying to help him when this is the 2nd or 3rd time this year my son's been suspended.

I did end up rescheduling pdoc for after Thanksgiving. My medication hasn't been filled so I'm not in anything to check in in how it's doing and I didn't want to tell him about

Would that be so bad? (In the long run. Obviously it would be painful in the short run.)

Uh, oh! I was looking at my portal for my clinic. My Pdoc wrote several times that my H is emotionally abusive to me. H has access to my records... I hope he never sees them.

So I talked to the owner today via email to see if she had any more thoughts on the employee conflict I'm having. She said one of the managers would talk to me about communication training they are going to implement. Okay. Whatever. Hopefully that is helpful. He said if the problem continues to talk to him about it. And then I just found out that the insurance is changing again this year. Ugh. Seriously?!! Plus it sucks because the GM keeps saying I'm the HR manager but I am not even given the information on the changes, nor am I given the opportunity to give input on the changes. So I was like, we need to have open enrollment as the Health Insurance renews on 12/1. The owner and the CFO were like, really? We need to do that. I was like, yes we do. So I finally got the okay to schedule the open enrollment, which isn't until Friday, which gives everyone 4 working days to get their paperwork filled out and submitted before 12/1/19, which is really pushing it because the brokers will need time to make the changes. They are changing the base plan so I'm assuming if I want to keep the insurance I have which is pretty darn good, I'm going to have to pay a whole lot more. Sigh. I'm trying to get information from the CFO so I can begin to prepare people for the changes but I don't have answers yet. What a pain. =( Kit

I try to say Good morning to the controller and Good night to the controller via Skype every day and then we converse throughout the day as needed. She usually responds to the Good morning one, but she rarely responds to the good night one. I send it when it is 4:30 PM her time approximately. She's three hours ahead of me. I think she gets off around 5 or 5:30 though based on when I usually still get emails from her. I don't know if it is annoying her or she just doesn't think it is important but I say good morning and good night to the workers in my physical location so I think it is the same thing. But if I stop doing it all the sudden, she might find that strange too. So I don't know whether to keep saying it or just never end the conversation for the day....so weird. I tried to Google what the etiquette is on something like that but I can't seem to find the answer.

I was having audio hallucinations yesterday which I rarely get. I usually get the visual ones. It was so disconcerting. Even though the voice was just saying my name over and over and wasn't saying anything bad or anything. I still was pretty freaked out about it.

Personally, if someone IM'd me at work "good morning", I'd think that was a prelude to ask me a question, so I'd respond back to them. A "good night" would feel different to me and I likely wouldn't respond to that. I guess I feel like work IM's operate under a different set of social norms where you don't need to be so formal. But that's just me. If you want to stop sending them, I doubt she would think anything of it.

I worked somewhere wehre another employee sent a good morning and good evening group email, but he was the morale guy. Even if iit was from one person i wouldnt feel i had to reply

That's really messed up. Whether or not you need the money is irrelevant. He has money that he should not have that is yours. When I have hit my out of pocket limit and there has been an overpayment, I am given the option of a refund or a credit to be used towards sessions.

He has now been paid by both you and your insurance. He should have used the money from insurance to pay you back. He should have used any funds he has to pay you back. You are not Bank of America. This is not ok and is an unethical business practice.

Do you think he's using this so you will stay with him given the ruptures due to his horrible behavior? He sounds so stupid. This is just more ammo if you wanted to report him. It's so inappropriate to hold your money hostage and even more so due to the context.

ETA - 2 or 3k?? Wow. What an ***. I bet he's just scared to tell his wife about his **** up and that he'll be withdrawing a large amount.

SE, that's pretty messed up. It's unprofessional and probably unethical.

It doesn't really matter whether he's taking advantage deliberately or unwittingly, or whether he understands any piece of it. You were overcharged. You should get your money back to use as you choose instead of (essentially) being forced to use it to buy his services.

I think it depends on the agency/team but in my experience there is usually a meeting the same day at the end of the evaluation process with a preliminary report, recommendations, referrals.

Hope the day ended well.

So theoretically, if one had a therapist who can’t book appointments properly, and who then offers the next session for free to make up for her lunkheaded mistake, do you think said therapist would charge for a no-show for the free appointment?

Asking for a friend.

There is no way to contact facebook about the disabling of my account. I dont even know why and now i sent them my edited id and still nothing. I have tried to make a new profile but i have to use my mobile number and then that gets disabled. I either need to give upon fb or get another number just to get a profile. It would be easier if Fb just comunicated with you.

They might. With therapists, there is no rhyme or reason.
Was the no show accidental or on purpose. And if on purpose, why not just call or email to cancel?