Couch 225: 2+2=5, Sheeple!

I'm on another med known to cause nightmares, plus I also deal with ptsd nightmares which I think you might also have? Nightmares almost every night etc.

The 1st line meds treatment after psychological interventions is Prazosin but I can't take that. I'm on gabapentin 300mg which really really helps.

Hugs. Might be better off looking for a unrelated T.

I have already decided not go see her i am just curious to see if she would have.

My daughter takes Prazosin for her PTSD nightmares. She still has them every night, but it really does reduce the adrenaline response. She now wakes up with a quiet gasp every time she's startled, before she would come up swinging, screaming, and inconsolable.

NP I'm sorry you're having nightmares

Now watching an 18 year old Swedish guy building a log cabin in the wilderness using traditional techniques.
Eta matbe not completely tradtional techniques saw a tractor and crane thing

Wishing you all the best.

I found the anxiety towards going to the dentist much worse then the actual visit. Hopefully you will be done soon.

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Sometimes I want to do the same. My dream house at the moment would still look like one from Hobbiton.

Mercy... I woke up this morning with my sinuses seriously clogged up, can't hear in one ear at all. This is fun. No fever, no other symptoms, just a clogged-up head. Went to Walgreens on my break and got some decongestant, hoping that helps.

I am not much of a phone person but i didnt know apps could drain your battery. I removed a lot of my apps like instagram a mahjong app and a weather app and i now no longer have to charge my cheap crappy phone every day. I mainly had them on my phone when i was picking my D up from school it gave me something to do while sitting in the car other than that i only use it to book appointments. But the buttons are getting hard to press i have press multiple times to turn the stupid thing on. I wish i had an iphone again. I miht save up and one for my birthday.

Clogged up sinuses yuck. Hope you are feeling better Artie

Hope you feel better soon, Artie. Could it be allergies?

Super Late but just got out of the hospital......congratulations @@ on your story getting published! Well done!

Artie, I hope you feel better soon!

I imagine I know how some would respond to this, but I'm curious about something:
How would you feel if your T, who was fully vaccinated, said to you that he thought about resuming in-person sessions soon, but that his wife said, "No, you're not going back till I'm vaccinated, too"? And said to you that he'd like to return to in-person, but (in a sort of joking tone), he doesn't want to ruin his home life?

Note: This question isn't so much about his waiting for his wife, but about the presentation/choice of words. Just curious!

I think I would be puzzled. I guess I'm lucky that T isn't married and lets me see her in person anyway. It sort of sounds jerky to me.

It was so windy here a little bit ago that it was blowing sand. Then it was snowing (but the snow wasn't sticking, just coming down). I'm like wait, this is mid March in so. Cal?!! I think it was two years ago that I was still wearing a beanie in May at my bestie's birthday celebration. I was like wth? I'm wearing a hoodie but I'm still kind of cold.

This would be frustrating to me. But then again, L has been on the cautious side even though I've been seeing her on and off in-person. Like even though she's been vaccinated, she insists on us wearing masks when were in close proximity. She says that even though she's vaccinated, she can still pass it to me. If that's true, then I can see why your T is waiting for his wife to be vaccinated and wants you to be too in order to be in-person without the mask.

My last round of being suicidal got really bad. I was worried about coming back to work today and seeing all the work piled up on my desk from being away but it wasn't really that bad. I got through it all except for updating the credit card account which I will do tomorrow. I will see T on Saturday since I didn't see her last Saturday. so I am counting myself lucky.

I would not feel anything. I doubt I would have noticed the wording, but even if I did, it would not bother me. I am not sure what part is being questioned - what would be odd about it?

Hugs, Kit, glad you're out of the hospital. Hope you're doing better now.

ETA: Seeing your other post, that's great that you kept the streak going.

So, I initially felt fine about it, so I completely understand your response. But then I thought about it a bit.

The best comparison I can give is something with my H. He used to referee a particular youth sport (he's been on hiatus due to injury for about a year, then COVID hit--he may go back to it). Sometimes, he'd get offered a game at the last minute or with a bit of notice for, say, a Saturday night. And we didn't have any plans, but I'd hoped we'd do something. So I might say, I'd rather you not take that game.

So in his telling the person assigning the game, he could put it a couple of different ways. There's "Sorry, I'm not able to work that game." (Maybe an explanation of "I have plans," maybe not.) Or he could say, "Sorry, my wife isn't letting me work that game." And I never really wanted him to say the last one. Because it sort of made me into the bad guy. It's a way of shifting the blame--especially considering that he usually said to me he didn't want to work those games anyway, so wanted an excuse to get out of it.

Anyway, in thinking about it, it would have felt different if T had said, for example, "I talked to my wife about it, and we decided that I'd wait to come back until she's vaccinated." Or, taking her completely out of it, "I've decided to wait until most of my clients are vaccinated, just to be safe" (or until the local metrics drop a bunch, etc."

In other words, that it was more of a joint decision, or even that he's choosing to look out for her/his son's health, vs. "my wife isn't letting me come back." Like taking more ownership of the decision.


I doubt I'll say anything to him about it, as I'm not sure what purpose it would serve. Plus, maybe he even thought I'd feel better about it if it didn't seem like it was his decision? If it was more like, "Well, my hands were tied." More just processing it on here.

I actually think it's kind of funny. It's a very honest presentation of the reality, and the fact that he can have a bit of a sense of humor about it speaks to his acceptance of the mutuality of the decisions in his home and his respect for his spouse's say in their mutual lives.

Honestly, it sounds like something my dad would have said in relation to my mom. They were a hoot together for 65 long years. Sometimes you just know how things are to be handled in a relationship.

I honestly don’t have a problem with the way it’s worded. (He's not even being a douchebag for once.) I see your logic, but we all make so many verbal faux pas it seems like it’s best to give a pass when possible.

Is it so much the wording that bothers you (and what you might be projecting onto that from your own life) or the fact that he seems to be privileging his wife’s preference over clients’ preferences?

That's a good point, and probably why it seemed OK when he first said it--because it just seemed brutally honest. Maybe I just need to not overthink things like that so much, just accept them at face value.


And wow, 65 years!

Your last question is what I'm trying to figure out. Because I know logically that he should of course put his wife's/family's preferences and needs over his clients'. At least with something like this. I really do wonder if it's partly about his disclosing so much lately though, and this is some part of it? Because he mentions his wife frequently now, and he never used to. So maybe it feels more like she's in the therapy room somewhat (well, I guess that makes sense in a way, because the therapy room now is sometimes their house)?

Or maybe it's just that I'm projecting what his wording would mean if my H said it to someone. And times that bothered me (when my H did it). And he is not my H.


Or all of the above.