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My ex wouldn't go to couples therapy with me. He was in therapy with a psychiatrist, but when I wanted to start therapy told me I was too stupid and child-like to do therapy. Although I can't be sure what his actual thought process was, I have a vague notion why he didn't want me to go to therapy.

Nothing can truly prepare you for the day you walk into your therapist’s office and they tell you they are moving out of state and will be ending therapy. It was like a punch in the gut today when he told me. It’s been 9 years… today is hard, but right now I can’t imagine saying bye at out final appointment.

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Wow what a thing to say , and he didn’t want you to go to therapy because he didn’t want you to figure out what was going on.

I'm so sorry, Healed. How soon is he moving? Hugs, if wanted.

I'm so sorry, Healed.

H asked if I wanted to go to Phoenix to watch a Giants game on my birthday. I was thinking to myself what are you high?!?! I guess I should have told him sooner what I do want to do on my birthday - so he wouldn't have to ask ridiculous questions like that - I want to sleep luxuriously late, spend some time reading and crocheting, then go out to dinner, have a fancy-schmancy drink, and actually order dessert for once. I told him I honestly don't mind if he wants to go to the game, but I am staying home. He gets a pass this year, because I told him for my 60th next year I expect a party!

How right you are. It felt like a sucker punch for me as well. I'm so sorry you'll have to go through this. How long do you have?

Yeah, likely that. He probably didn't want to have to confront his behavior with someone impartial who might point out that he was abusive, although he didn't think he was abusive, so maybe he wouldn't have been worried about that. I think he was probably afraid if I went to therapy, I might change in ways that wouldn't benefit him, that I might be less inclined to put up with his crap.

My ex bf wasn’t opposed to me going to therapy only himself , putting down therapists as stupid.

Buy them in winter when they are cheap. ;-)

Down here heat pumps are very popular. (We have two) You get air conditioning in summer and heating in winter. Mind you, the heating would not be up to Canadian standards.

Timeline is kind of up in the air- the goal is around Labor Day, but he said it could be extended to the holiday season. I think whenever it ends up being I am going ask for a termination right around labor day so we don’t have to do the guessing game of when we will be done if it does take longer than that.

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Or it could the other way around. The crisis might be due to the inadequacies of her familiar T. If she feels desperate enough to try someone new, that might be exactly what she needs.

What do they say when you make it clear you don't trust them?

OK, that's clear enough. There's going to be a family feud and you don't want that on your birthday.

That doesn't seem excessive. Good luck!

That's like saying, "You're too sick to go to the doctor." I bet he was wrong about you, anyway.

Thank you, I wish I could say I’d been married for 21 years but that was not to be. I wish I hadn’t found out after 3 years that my ex fiancé still hadn’t filed for divorce or that after 6 years he was divorced, but living in a homeless shelter after abandoning the apartment I had found for him. I said the next time a man asks me out I have three questions for him “who do you live with, are you sober and do you believe in God?”

I feel terrible guys. I had my first covid vaccine 6 days ago and had a sligth fever for about a day but now i am soo tired and my hearing has got worse. I rang the vaccine hotline and they said it was a possible side effect but get really tired just wlking to the front gate and back. I will mke n appointment to see my doctor when the lockdown is over.

My advice is dont push thru it, eat soup and tea and rest rest rest. I feel like i lost almost a full two months in recuperating from the vaccines. You dont want to complain, but man my 2nd shot hurt so bad. My mind is just coming back to normal. And as my dad said after his stroke, too bad that wasnt better to begin with.

I'll check! Fairly certain a pharmacy would have that or something similar.

Took me a while to recover. But I'm better now.

Not the same driver but I think it's partly due to the bus being a particular model. I honestly don't understand why some models rattle so badly, for lack of a better term. Standing or sitting, you can feel the engine shaking the bus through the floor. Plus the driving being all jerky with sharp turns, as the driver was rushing to be on schedule.

Usually I avoid sitting right at the back or taking the seats that face backwards. I was standing as that can help but I definitely got stares as I barfed in my bag. No, no one offered help.

Hugs. I did Lying down and a nap helped then I managed to eat a bit.

Oh cool!

Hey NP, you're in a tough boat. Hugs. Of course it sucks to be in your situation even if someone else has it worse. Pain is pain, and you deserve support.

Hugs if wanted. I'm so sorry, healed.

Thanks for the reply CE, but I had stopped seeing R for almost 18 weeks before. Think they familiarity helped.