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Old Jun 30, 2021, 01:47 AM
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My advice is dont push thru it, eat soup and tea and rest rest rest. I feel like i lost almost a full two months in recuperating from the vaccines. You dont want to complain, but man my 2nd shot hurt so bad. My mind is just coming back to normal. And as my dad said after his stroke, too bad that wasnt better to begin with.
I'm sorry you struggled so much with the after effects. You're allowed to talk about things without it automatically being seen as complaining, even if it was so what?
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 01:49 AM
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I feel terrible guys. I had my first covid vaccine 6 days ago and had a sligth fever for about a day but now i am soo tired and my hearing has got worse. I rang the vaccine hotline and they said it was a possible side effect but get really tired just wlking to the front gate and back. I will mke n appointment to see my doctor when the lockdown is over.


Like una said rest, rest and rest as much as you can.
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 01:59 AM
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Nothing can truly prepare you for the day you walk into your therapist’s office and they tell you they are moving out of state and will be ending therapy. It was like a punch in the gut today when he told me. It’s been 9 years… today is hard, but right now I can’t imagine saying bye at out final appointment.

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I'm sorry you're going through this. healed. It does seem a crazy amount to deal with.
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 02:35 AM
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Thanks for the advice Una and Lemoncake i have been resting and trying to drink more water.
I just remembered a possible reason my cat would have been upset and peed on my bed. I replaced their dishes with low walled oval serving trays to reduce whisker fatigue to see if my daughters cat would be less angry using them. My cat didnt know how to eat out of the new dishes and was so funny trying different angles

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Old Jun 30, 2021, 02:37 AM
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 06:03 AM
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Thanks for the advice Una and Lemoncake i have been resting and trying to drink more water.
I just remembered a possible reason my cat would have been upset and peed on my bed. I replaced their dishes with low walled oval serving trays to reduce whisker fatigue to see if my daughters cat would be less angry using them. My cat didnt know how to eat out of the new dishes and was so funny trying different angles

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Old Jun 30, 2021, 06:55 AM
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Well, my visa to join my fiancé got declined. They claimed I did not submit a document, but I'd argue I did? There's no "we confirm this person isn't married" (I called my relevant governm body to check) but you have to apply for a notarised "official search result of no marriage records for this person" for visas. Just because different countries have slightly different but essentially the same thing...

Second claim is that they contacted my fiancé (he has power of attorney) twice on 2 specific dates regarding my "missing" document, but did not receive a response. He checked his email, his government inbox thing. Nothing! So maybe physical mail but then he's supposed to get an SMS notification from the government informing him they sent physical mail - no SMS or calls.

They threw out the entire application based on that 2. We're going to appeal.
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 07:20 AM
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Ugh, I'm so sorry, QM. I hope your appeal is successful...
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 08:58 AM
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Dramamine/Gravol (dimenhydrinate) apparently causes nightmares?

And my nearby pharmacy doesn't have meclizine, though I will see where else I can try.

Did pick up a Sea Band though. Couch 229 - Acetominphen and
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 09:36 AM
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Well, my visa to join my fiancé got declined. They claimed I did not submit a document, but I'd argue I did? There's no "we confirm this person isn't married" (I called my relevant governm body to check) but you have to apply for a notarised "official search result of no marriage records for this person" for visas. Just because different countries have slightly different but essentially the same thing...

Second claim is that they contacted my fiancé (he has power of attorney) twice on 2 specific dates regarding my "missing" document, but did not receive a response. He checked his email, his government inbox thing. Nothing! So maybe physical mail but then he's supposed to get an SMS notification from the government informing him they sent physical mail - no SMS or calls.

They threw out the entire application based on that 2. We're going to appeal.
It might be a bit more expensive, but would it be possible to pay someone to deal with your visa application rather then trying to do it on your own?
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 11:50 AM
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OK, that's clear enough. There's going to be a family feud and you don't want that on your birthday.
Yes, exactly!

And there wasn't. My parents are going to wait to talk to my sister until the weekend maybe. I told them to do it on the phone where it can't be overheard by the children. I don't want any part of it. My part to play is to support my sister, even when I disagree with her.

But my day yesterday, my actual birthday, was very nice. It was awkward because sister's BF was there and I don't know him so we had a lot of getting to know you type conversations instead of just a relaxed kick back day. But it wasn't as bad as I envisioned. We had pancakes for breakfast, pizza for lunch, and then spaghetti (my choice) for dinner. We didn't watch any movies or anything which I would have liked to do, but I did get to hang out with my nieces some and that was nice. I also bought some baby clothes for my sister's roommate and going baby clothes shopping is always fun. I also ordered a few things from her baby registry on Amazon so she'll have that. I'll probably take a box of diapers when I go up to visit in July.


My parents sent me a huge thing of flowers for my birthday. Blue roses! I had never seen blue roses, and a huge bouquet of balloons. It was so nice. And a friend cross stitched me a flamingo patterned picture. It's so cool. I love it. I need to find a place to put it but I love it.
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 11:51 AM
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I'm actually kind of missing Dr. K, my therapist. What is wrong with me? 20 days until I see him.
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 11:59 AM
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It's OK to miss people in your support system, Kit. Nearly three weeks is a long time. Happy belated birthday, by the way!

Speaking of support systems, part of mine is going haywire. I paid to do another round of the grief writing course that I have completed a couple of times, to maybe help me deal with what I am trying to deal with.

First off, I started getting course emails on the 24th, four days before it was due to start. Then I managed to alert them to the problem, and they put me in the correct group.

Now I'm being told that some of the prompts have changed, and being asked to write to the 'correct' prompts, so that newcomers will recognise them.

Thing is, the prompts so far have been identical to the ones I've written about in the past.

I really don't understand what's going on, and it is putting me off sitting down to write to the prompt that I was going to do tonight.
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 12:15 PM
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Buy them in winter when they are cheap. ;-)

Down here heat pumps are very popular. (We have two) You get air conditioning in summer and heating in winter. Mind you, the heating would not be up to Canadian standards.

lol we are kinda snobby with that!!
But I also live in a country where everyone hates winter but everyone also hates summer.
Every year it’s the same complaints. Although right now we are in a heat dome with record breaking temps so complaints are welcome right now.

Lol when I picture heat pumps im assuming you live in a home without a built in furnace and you use space heaters?

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Old Jun 30, 2021, 01:09 PM
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lol we are kinda snobby with that!!
But I also live in a country where everyone hates winter but everyone also hates summer.
Every year it’s the same complaints. Although right now we are in a heat dome with record breaking temps so complaints are welcome right now.

Lol when I picture heat pumps im assuming you live in a home without a built in furnace and you use space heaters?

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Don't know about whether CE is talking about the same thing, but where I live, heat pumps are usually used in combination with a sort of large pin that you put way down into the Earth, and in winter you pump heat from the Earth below into the house, in the Summer you can give heat back to the Earth. It's usually done through floor heating.

Also not sure about the fact it wouldn't hold up with Canadian standards, Switzerland is doing fine with it buddy in Nova Scotia reporting similar weather temperature wise most of the time, so I think it would be fine.

Edit: The pin you put into the Earth is called a downhole heat exchanger.

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Old Jun 30, 2021, 01:10 PM
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 01:11 PM
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 01:12 PM
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Got an update from P yesterday on his plans. In case you don't remember, the date he's planning on leaving keeps changing from the original Jan 2021 to the last update of Jan 2022. Now he's told me that there's a 50% chance of him leaving in Jan 2022 and a 100% chance of May/June 2022.

The other day when he didn't call for our phone session and didn't respond to my email, I was a little anxious so I googled him to make sure he hadn't died or something (please don't laugh, I was feeling anxious). I found a newspaper article that said he'd won a scholarship recently. The article talked about his program and indicated that they were permanently changing the program to be available via distance learning. That wasn't anything he had mentioned before and I was wondering if he would ever say anything to me about it. He still didn't say anything, but I guess if it's 50/50 he's leaving in January, he's considering continuing the distance learning.

I think I had kind of hoped that since things kept getting pushed back that maybe he'd just never actually leave. Hearing him say he's definitely gone by end of next spring felt really hard to hear. I guess I should feel lucky and glad that we're getting so much extra time. Learning about his scholarship and a guaranteed end date just makes it all feel so real. I'll try to stop whining about this. I know some people get zero notice that their therapist is leaving and I've gotten several reprieves already.

As someone who has had a therapist the meant the absolute world to me disappear and put an end to my therapy with no notice...how you feel is important regardless if you have no notice, one month, two months ect. Ending with a therapist is HARD and especially if its been long term with attachment as it seems for you. if you can try to be a little easier on yourself. Your feelings are valid. You are not whining. I hope you keep writing here about it if it helps you.
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I'm actually kind of missing Dr. K, my therapist. What is wrong with me? 20 days until I see him.
There's nothing wrong, or even unusual, in missing your T.
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lol we are kinda snobby with that!!
But I also live in a country where everyone hates winter but everyone also hates summer.
Every year it’s the same complaints. Although right now we are in a heat dome with record breaking temps so complaints are welcome right now.

Lol when I picture heat pumps im assuming you live in a home without a built in furnace and you use space heaters?

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I doubt there is a home with a "built in furnace" in the whole country. (Schools generally have them, though.) But we do have fireplaces and wood burners.
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Old Jun 30, 2021, 04:37 PM
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Don't know about whether CE is talking about the same thing, but where I live, heat pumps are usually used in combination with a sort of large pin that you put way down into the Earth, and in winter you pump heat from the Earth below into the house, in the Summer you can give heat back to the Earth. It's usually done through floor heating.

Also not sure about the fact it wouldn't hold up with Canadian standards, Switzerland is doing fine with it buddy in Nova Scotia reporting similar weather temperature wise most of the time, so I think it would be fine.

Edit: The pin you put into the Earth is called a downhole heat exchanger.
Nope. Nothing like that.

There's an indoor box with a fan, an outdoor box with a fan, and hoses between them.
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Nope. Nothing like that.

There's an indoor box with a fan, an outdoor box with a fan, and hoses between them.
Do you mean a reverse cycle air conditioner? Or is this something different. I did try to google it and this was the best explanation
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Do you mean a reverse cycle air conditioner? Or is this something different. I did try to google it and this was the best explanation
Something like. Home Heat Pumps - Fujitsu General New Zealand Limited

Some homes have ducted heat pumps, which has ducts in the ceilings to multiple rooms. Ours are just straight through the wall.
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Something like. Home Heat Pumps - Fujitsu General New Zealand Limited

Some homes have ducted heat pumps, which has ducts in the ceilings to multiple rooms. Ours are just straight through the wall.
Yep thats what we call reverse cycle air conditioning, but heat pump is so much shorter.
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