Couch 229 - Acetominphen and

Fingers crossed you hear back soon. Have you submitted to them before?

No, but they are focused on women writers, and the theme for August is Grief.
I've submitted this essay to five other places, and it would be really nice to have it out in the world. At first I was desperate to have it in print, because an essay about the same experience was online, and then the website went down.

Now I just want it out in the world.

Glad your cats have a safe space to go to if they get scared.

Have you met any of your neighbours yets?

Have you thought about also publishing on your own blog or using instagram as a platform too? Or you could self publish a collection of your essays.

I saw R at 2pm then Louisa at 5pm. I don't feel like there was an overlap between the two as she was focused mainly on the physical symptoms I was experiencing . She was super nice. We did breathing exercises at the start and at the end she sent me a personalized hypnosis recording I'm supposed to listen to before bed .

I felt like Rob was much softer then he normally ever was too, but I left it open with him.

Not yet. There's never anybody out and about like in their yards, except for kids (it's been so hot) and neither h or I are the type to go knocking on doors and introducing ourselves. I have met a few people out walking though, none of us thought to ask where the other lives. actually i lied h did go across the street one day before we actually were living here and introduced himself to a lady who was pulling her weeds, to find out who the garbage company is here. But that's it really. If people are out over the holiday, I'll venture forth. Probably. We'll see.

I'm glad that Rob was softer than usual. That's been the most helpful thing in some ways about L I think is her warm/soft approach.

I've been curious about hypnosis for a long time. Let us know how the recording works if you decide to try it. I'm glad Louisa was nice, were the breathing exercises helpful? I hope they were and that the recording is too if/when you try it.

I feel like it did help even if I could find the info online. She taught me a modified version as I need more practice and I wasn't very good at it. You breath in for four, hold for four and exhale for four seconds.

I'm playing the recording in the background now too, as you need multiple listens for it to sink in.

There's some freebies online if you want to have a look. Paul Mckenna has his own channel on youtube .



I also like this guy too but he does have a strong accent.

I'm sure you'll meet the walkers again as you settle in more. Especially if it's a small town.

Have you started painting the home?

Yeah, some people self publish zines on Gumroad (think it's not free though), and some publishers on blogs with a option to tip via PayPal. Maybe it could be an option

Pdoc appointment was alright. Did open up about recent life stressors. Apparently I was quite obviously depressed. My friend goes into hospital next week and she had asked me if I'd be OK with a mutual friend staying over so I'm not alone while struggling. I'm OK with that, said friend is not intrusive and honestly needs a break from her current crowded living situation. I'll care for the cats.

Talked about how pdoc being so perceptive unsettles me although I really appreciate her openness and how she volunteers explanations of her thought process. I remember we discussed diagnosis, just don't remember if it's official.

I talked a bit about my old psychiatrist dismissing some painful experiences I shared, referring me to conversion therapy. Vaguely remember she was understanding why I'd be cautious. She said she's friends with my T - small world of professionals treating complex trauma and dissociative disorders I guess. She suggested maybe I feel exposed, as they've consent to talk to each other and I wouldn't know if they have or what information is shared, especially as they don't have to inform me. Assured me she hasn't felt a need to talk to my T. See her in another 3 weeks, I'm quite surprised because I know caseloads there are huge.

I got really bad motion sickness trying to commute home.

Tw: sickness on public transport, asking for help & ashamed of it.


I'll have to go see what helps with motion sickness since I really don't know why that particular 25 minute bus trip consistently triggers motion sickness.

Hugs, QM, the motion sickness sounds miserable. Do you have the equivalent of Dramamine there? There are two forms, Dimenhydrinate and Meclizine HCl. Other options could be these wrist bands that use acupressure or these things that stick behind your ear (forget what they're called).

I'm glad you got to see someone today and glad R was softer. I hope it helped some.

QM, that sounds like a nightmarish journey. I hope you're feeling better now that you're not moving.

QM - is it the same driver? I had this one bus driver who was just the worst, she drove very herky-jerky. I wanted to scream, it was so upsetting. I had barely a five-minute ride, i am sure i couldnt stand 25 minutes.

Thanks Cake,

One of the courses I am signed up for is a self promotion one. Turns out that I have not posted on my blog since October 2019.

Got an update from P yesterday on his plans. In case you don't remember, the date he's planning on leaving keeps changing from the original Jan 2021 to the last update of Jan 2022. Now he's told me that there's a 50% chance of him leaving in Jan 2022 and a 100% chance of May/June 2022.

The other day when he didn't call for our phone session and didn't respond to my email, I was a little anxious so I googled him to make sure he hadn't died or something (please don't laugh, I was feeling anxious). I found a newspaper article that said he'd won a scholarship recently. The article talked about his program and indicated that they were permanently changing the program to be available via distance learning. That wasn't anything he had mentioned before and I was wondering if he would ever say anything to me about it. He still didn't say anything, but I guess if it's 50/50 he's leaving in January, he's considering continuing the distance learning.

I think I had kind of hoped that since things kept getting pushed back that maybe he'd just never actually leave. Hearing him say he's definitely gone by end of next spring felt really hard to hear. I guess I should feel lucky and glad that we're getting so much extra time. Learning about his scholarship and a guaranteed end date just makes it all feel so real. I'll try to stop whining about this. I know some people get zero notice that their therapist is leaving and I've gotten several reprieves already.

I hope you can rest properly after your trip QM. The journey back does sound like a super hard experience.

Talking about something isn't whining. It's not easy leaving a long term T even if you have had a lot of notice. Also googling to make sure he's safe makes perfect sense to me.

Would you be open to working with someone else in the background too?

QM, I have used something called Sea-Bands to help with nausea from morning sickness. I guess they are useful for seasickness on cruises too. You can buy them at drug stores and big box retailers like Target here.

Yes, that's what I was thinking of with the wrist things, just couldn't recall the name.

Hey everyone so I’m new to this thread. I see it’s a psychotherapy forum so I’ll try to keep it related .
My ex bf does not believe in therapy for himself or for couples, it’s one reason he’s my ex. He has depression and refuses to see a therapist (or take medication).
I realized I feel kind of sad about having to end the relationship over irreconcilable differences. It’s hard and sad when you realize the person closest to you is a liability . This is the third relationship I’ve had to end in 15 years.

Welcome to the thread! Hugs, if wanted. It's difficult to end a relationship, even if you know it can't work out. I dated a guy in college (many years ago!) who kept insisting I get therapy, yet he refused to get it for himself, even though he clearly had issues with depression (telling me things like I was the only thing keeping him alive, for example).

My cat peed on my bed last night and i cant work out why. Nothing has changed. I wish he wasn't so sensitive. Its fold and overcast and my quilt will take forever to dry.

Yeah that sounds like my ex fiancé , he used to say something like that, saying I was the only thing that mattered and now he only communicate through text .

My ex husband “accompanied” me to therapy when it was supposed to be couples therapy .