Couch 251: The Matrix Recovered

ex hankster would have been throwing flower petals at ATAT, trying to freudianize the guests, and eating real sugar = we would have had to put her in the flower girl crate within 5- 10 min max

It does tend to ruin a wedding when there’s a flower girl in a crate. Emily Post would have vapors over it.

So this is the first Christmas I “observed” since my mother’s death—putting up stockings, opening presents on the morning itself, having dinner (at a friend’s). The past two years I’ve made sure to be traveling on Christmas to distract myself from her loss.

It was surprisingly pleasant while still being painful.

FG crate/ baby playpen - same thing with different toys and one latches with a lid so she can't escape and run amok.

Congratulations, SD!

Hope you had a wonderful day!
In time you will get used to the ring.

Oh, we would have had reasons why these 2 shouldnt be married! I thought you promised me! Crate my patootie! How about a soundproof booth?

congratulations, sd!

Congratulations. (Exclamation point omitted per your preferences.) I think you'll get used to the ring fairly quickly.

That sounds really nice, the hug. I'm so sorry you only have one regular session left. That seems like a good idea to think about the sessions, see how you feel then.


Hugs if wanted, NP.

Oops. I forgot to not use exclamation point. Well at least I restrained myself from adding a blinkie thing...

Congrats, sd. That's delightful news.


I'd volunteer to take una outside and run her around with a ball to get some of the bounces out.

I am a little excitable at times. And prone to leaks.

Wow, my former boss used to tell me that I had a tendency to bury the lede in my writing, and he wasn't wrong. But I don't think I ever buried an "I got married" announcement in a post about getting used to wearing a ring!

This is not "mainstream media." This is... definitely something else! You gotta read every word or you'll miss the flying squirrels!

The post was about the ring because it is taking time to get used to - not the wedding itself. The wedding was only mentioned as a reason for the ring because otherwise I would have no reason to wear one at all. The wedding itself didn't change anything for my day to day life. I am normally against marriage as I think it is an institution based on misogyny and women as chattel with a bit of religious oppression thrown in as well. I was convinced though by the practicality of it, concerns over Obergefell, and a need to get things established before we become totally outlawed in the place I live at the moment -hoping to get out of here before that happens but some of the timing is out of our hands

I get it! Lesbian married to a lesbian here. I told my spouse early on that marriage was the primary unit of the currency of patriarchy. She said, "You'll marry me if I want you to." And dear reader, I did.

Which is not to say we didnt know what was between the lines.

Looks like the "person taking up as much space as they want" has broken SD of her double negatives? It had to be done.

I am waiting on a drug delivery and a grocery delivery. I cant throw out the garbage because they are painting the basement hallways. Every year i make the same joke, that eventually the paint on the floor will reach the ceiling. Nobody ever laughs. Its tough being a woman of leisure.

Eta: chores done, poops done, even a shower done. I need an hour glass for my showers with something scary to happen if i dont take one in time. Its not like im gonna melt.

You put poops on your to-do list?

Out of curiosity, do you work in journalism or some other form of writing/editing? Just reacting to your correct spelling of "lede" here. I'm a copy editor with a journalism background (no longer work in that particular field).

To the extent I am not confused by your statements (never not a source of contention), let me see if I can make it less unclear to you. I don't doubt my spouse's inability to control my syntax. Litotes have not fallen into disuse.

Stodog congratulations on your union regardless of your reasons for entering into that union. For what it’s worth-I never wore my wedding band. Eventually the engagement ring and wedding band went missing in a move about 10 years ago but even when I had them I barely wore them. The ring is simply symbolic and part of the formality. Before I moved I lived next door to a very lovely same-sex couple. Seriously they were the best neighbors ever and I miss them. Anyway she was public defender and she only wore her ring when she had to be in court because she wanted to seem relatable to her clients.

I count five negatives.

Did I need 6? Was the second one not un-implied?
I edited the earlier reply

No, I’m in academia, a faculty member at a university. My former dean, however, had a journalism side hustle. Hence his use of that term, which I learned from him. He was a bit of a polymath, and I learned all kinds of other things from him, such as the history of the French horn, obscure baseball trivia, and various other topics entirely unrelated to our shared field.

Sorry yours got lost. I don't mind the idea of wearing one - just that I wish it would hurry up and just become not unusual feeling. I have tried wearing it on my right hand and it feels less unusual there but I hit more stuff with it. I knew several women who wore rings when seeing clients regardless of orientation or marital status. One common ploy amongst clients was to try and hit on their female pd. A client once asked me why I always acted like a man because I didn't ask about his feelings (I did not do trial work and his feelings were completely irrelevant to my job).