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Mar 05, 2008, 11:23 AM
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For those of you out there who reached adulthood without making a deep interpersonal connection, but have since managed to bridged the gap with someone (i.e. spouse, parent, T, friend, etc):
Do you now regret it? Would you go back and change the person you first connected with (assuming the choice was totally up to you)?
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Mar 05, 2008, 03:14 PM
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I don't think I understand you. Why would one regret making a connection?
I remember my first knowledge of someone truly "caring" about me and my welfare in more than just an intellectual way, my group therapist when I was around 30. It amazed me and once I knew there was connection for real and what it felt like, etc., I never looked back.
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Mar 05, 2008, 03:34 PM
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Just ignore this thread. I'm in a weird place today. I'm communicating now with my T and I just trying to figure out how far I really want to take it. Sort of like that first sexual encounter, should it be with a stranger at the bar while wearing beer googles, a acquaintance whom you are comfortable with, or the guy you are absolutely going to (or already have) married regardless of the outcome? I can't explain what was going through my head when to started this post. I think I need to look for directions for deleting threads and get out of PC before have the urge to post so other nonsense.
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Mar 05, 2008, 05:35 PM
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mckell sweetheart... no regrets ok? not here.
i think the question is not whether to make connections, or even with whom.. but more about learning the skills to handle the depth an breadth of those connections dont live a whole lifetime locked inside the cell you have made... |
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Mar 05, 2008, 08:00 PM
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yeah - i regret the "connection" with my former youth counselor. It seemed like she cared about me and was concerned about me.... but really she just wanted me out of her hair and in "professional care". Before i stopped having any connecting with her at all, and i was "an adult", she would only talk to me if i appeared to have it together. So i started pretending to be all chipper and she'd pat me on the shoulder and walk off. If i was myself - gloomy and sad, she'd completely ignore me and not even make eye contact. I wish now (sort of) that I had never met her. SHe makes me really uncomfortable. I don't go anywhere near her and dropped that church. I even took her off my resumes because i didn't want to have to "bother" her any more. Evidently she "knew" something was wrong for years and all she did was tell me to go into counsleing - for which i knew my parents would kill me. SHe didn't get tha tmy family wasn't safe - and hoped all would be forgiven and I could then have a happy relationship with my family.
Kiya
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