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May 06, 2008, 11:17 PM
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I've been mostly lurking awhile and I've read alot about statements made by our T's that we interpret as negative. So I was wondering.....
What are some things your T has said to you that made a positive impact? For me it was my first visit to my Pdoc. I was embarassed about having to see a pdoc. I was trrying not to disclose my work because I feared being judged. Mr. Stoneface-no-personality-pdoc says: Pdoc: "do you like your job" Me: "yes". Pdoc: "what do you do" me: "I'm a nurse" Pdoc: "oh do you work at a hospital" me: "yes" Pdoc: "oh which one" Me: (slightly under my breath)_____blank_______Hospital (which of course he knew was a local psych facility) Pdoc: "do you feel bad that you need a pdoc because you work there?" Me: "yes" Pdoc: "well, even pdocs see pdocs" I instantly went from being full of fear and anxiety to being completely relaxed in his office. So five little words changed my outlook on my illness that day. Anyone else have something positive examples? |
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#2
May 06, 2008, 11:20 PM
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That was awesome!
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#3
May 06, 2008, 11:28 PM
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This is a recent one that I really liked:
"First, let's talk about what made you mad at what I said. I don't mind that you are mad. I want to understand what happened to help us grow and connect." I went from being, well, mad, to feeling like everything was going to be OK again. It was like instantly disarming. |
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May 07, 2008, 02:03 AM
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with my ins cancelled, t said "Kiya, I want you to come to your appnt tomorrow and we'll figure out how to go from there." The office called me and said nearly the same thing "I want you to go to your apnt, fill out new paper work, and we'll figure things out. I do not want you to stop therapy, ok?"
small voice... ok. i was feeling like i didn't care, screw the world. now things are a little brighter. ppl still care. there's reason for me to care.
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#5
May 07, 2008, 02:27 AM
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I saw my therapist the first time and felt a strong connection, sense of hope, and like he was going to be the key I had been looking for, to moving forward.
Unfortunately, I was unable to see him again for a month. It was really hard because I felt I had finally found something/someone who was going to help. He called me during this time and left a message on my cell phone. I remember it said, "I look forward to helping you heal." I must have replayed that message a gazillion times. Someone wanted to help me heal! I hadn't even known that was my problem, that I needed healing. And here I had a found a man to do it. It was incredible. I had instant hope.
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May 07, 2008, 10:52 AM
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There are a lot of them, but there are two that stick out above the others:
Me: I'm so attached to you that it's ridiculous. Him: The attachment is mutual. and Him: But you aren't like any of my other patients. I've never met anyone like you before. |
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#7
May 07, 2008, 11:12 AM
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When I first started therapy, I was falling apart and let my kids sit in front of video games all weekend. I limit their screen time and was feeling bad about it. I told T that my kids had been in front of video games all weekend, and he replied "So?". That was HUGE - it gave me permission to not be perfect ,and just let things be sometimes. I'd never given myself that permission before. Silly, but that "so?" really stuck with me. At my last session, I was talking about being too dependent, and he was reframing it, saying that I'm "attached" and that's good. And then he said "and attachment goes both ways - I'm attached to you as well". 
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May 07, 2008, 11:15 AM
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"It's not like that" helped me the most. I could let go of whatever I was thinking and look elsewhere for how things were/worked.
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May 07, 2008, 04:03 PM
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I get small quick challenges to things I say. Stuff like "Who made that rule?" , "Why Not?". Sometimes she interjects little things that I dismiss, ignore, or simply do not register when I am in therapy mode. Then later when I am alone and replaying the therapy dialog, they mean a lot to the inner me.
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