[SingDanceRunLife]

I've been in therapy since January...And at my last appointment (which was two weeks ago because I was out of town last week), my T wanted to check in on things, and asked me what I wanted to do about continuing or not continuing.

I've definitely improved a lot since I started seeing her...And I like her...And there's certainly more that we could work on...But at the same time, I've felt kinda sick of going...Like I wasn't really doing anything whilst there.

She asked me to think about it and tell her what I wanted to do at my next appointment (which is on Wednesday), and I said that I would.

Needless to say...It's Monday night, and this is the first time I've even thought of it at all.

I basically have 3 options:

1) Continue with T through the summer and decide what I want to do in the fall.
2) Stop T just for the summer and start again when I go back to school.
3) Stop T all together (well, until I need it again if I do).

So now, I just have to decide.

The one option that I know I don't want is #3. I don't feel ready to give up T yet. Although I've been sick of it a bit lately...That just doesn't seem right. Because I've been kinda sick of it, #1 might not be the best option either...So does that mean I should go with option #2?

Thanks for the help.

[(JD)]

It's always a good idea to evaluate along the way, imo. I do think it's important to realize there's a difference between a lull in therapy, a natural break where only light topics are discussed, and a time to end therapy.

You said there's more to work on, so I wouldn't consider #2 an option.

If you stop, will you truly go back, or will you put it off and make excuses?
If you stop now and then go back, will you feel like a failure for needing to go back?
Is it easier to just continue to go, or is there an insurance issue?

If you can't decide, then continue to go, until you are sure about something. You can always take a 2 week break, like a regular vacation. When does T take vacation btw?

[SingDanceRunLife]

T already had her vacation.

[sunrise]

How about another option: going to less frequent sessions? How about meeting every other week instead of weekly? Then each session may seem fresher.

As for option 3, don't quit if you don't want to, and make sure you tell T you do not want to stop therapy just yet.

[SingDanceRunLife]

Going every other week could work...More time between sessions means that I won't feel like I'm constantly there, talking about the same things over and over...Especially since it's summer and there's a heck of a lot less stress than there was during the year!

[skeksi]

I think any of the options suggested might work for you. You don't have to have your mind made up and a schedule set when you go in for this session. If you tell your T that you don't feel quite ready to conclude but you do feel a lull, she may also suggest a schedule, or the two of you could discuss different ones until one sounds right.

[Christina86]

((((((((((SDRL))))))))))))))

I know I stop (usually) seeing a T over the summer because of the school thing... sometimes I like a break, sometimes I don't. But taking a break for 2-3 weeks before having an appt is always useful for processing stuff (and nothing says that you aren't allowed to make an appt sooner if you really need it either!)

[SingDanceRunLife]

I think I might try the every other week thing.