[silentwhisper]

I got really frustrated with some colleagues today. They did not follow through with what they said. When I tried addressing it I walked away in tears. They did not seem to be listening to me or at least validating my concerns. I know you shouldn't take things personally, but it very much feels like a personal rejection/slight. Part of me very much wants to shut down. I feel like not saying a word when I go back tomorrow and only reacting when I must, but then is that right? Idk. I really suck at true communication. I have not had the best of role models either.

[Gus1234U]

dear SilentWhisper,,, anytime you walk away from a conversation in tears, it was not all your fault. there is no compassionate person who could let it come to that~! so, i have to suspect that your collegues have some serious personal failings, too. protect yourself from your own bad opinions, and just try to get past the ditch in the road as best you can. also, if you have not heard of DBT therapy, it is supposed to help you learn some better social skills,, wishing you all the best,, Gus

[silentwhisper]

Originally Posted by Gus1234U

dear SilentWhisper,,, anytime you walk away from a conversation in tears, it was not all your fault. there is no compassionate person who could let it come to that~! so, i have to suspect that your collegues have some serious personal failings, too. protect yourself from your own bad opinions, and just try to get past the ditch in the road as best you can. also, if you have not heard of DBT therapy, it is supposed to help you learn some better social skills,, wishing you all the best,, Gus

I know DBT. I was a skills coach for awhile. I just struggle with staying calm enough to go thru all the steps. I actually was trying DEAR MAN but when they did not respond very positively to my I messages, well I never made it to the request part...but that was my intention. ty

[silentwhisper]

I just wanted to say that they followed thru today. I tried refusing but ended up accepting and I really learned alot.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Dearest Gus & silentwhisper

Gus it is too blanket to say that if someone walks away crying it is never their doing. I have been in situations where it was and was not my doing and to be very honest with you my friend unless we are there, it is impossible judge that

silentwhisperer your expectations obviously did not match what your colleagues fealt you to expect. When something like this happens frustration is the bound result and with that comes tears, whether they be internal or external

Unless there is a contract it is difficult to bring things to bare and as such those colleagues of yours do not wish to be burdened with things other than in their own classrooms. This is of course unfair when they have made promise to do certain things

The most appropriate actions are deepening breaths to regain compsure and then explain to them what they promised and how it affects those they promised it to

I do hope you are able to manage this situation and bring it to conclusion

Morgana

[silentwhisper]

Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon

Dearest Gus & silentwhisper

silentwhisperer your expectations obviously did not match what your colleagues fealt you to expect. When something like this happens frustration is the bound result and with that comes tears, whether they be internal or external

Morgana

You are right, Morgana, and thanks for reminding me of this. I really struggle with matching expectations correctly to people or situations. I either expect too much or nothing at all.