[hoping4best]

he has sent me a msg on facebook saying that i shouldnt send him friend requests time and again.... phew!! so finally he has told me straight away...

[lynn P.]

((jiakhan)) - sorry you're sad. Are you going to abide by his wishes?

[hoping4best]

Yes. But i have crossed the line. This time i added him from my original account.

[hoping4best]

When he msgd me this,i apologized to him for contacting him anonymously before. He didnt say much.

[lynn P.]

Do you have a therapist jiakhan? How do you think this is going to end?

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

Do you have a therapist jiakhan? How do you think this is going to end?

lynn i have wrote the detail in another thread..

[hoping4best]

no i dont have a therapist

[lynn P.]

If he said not to send him friend request anymore - why did you send him one again? What would you like to talk about here?

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

If he said not to send him friend request anymore - why did you send him one again? What would you like to talk about here?

i dont know........

If you persist in sending him invites he will block you, if you try to contact him he would be within his rights to inform the police.

I am sure you do not want this to happen to you.

Please for your sake and his stop trying to contact him .

Hugs to you I know this is not easy for you to do but you really must stop this before it gets out of hand.

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by Tishie

If you persist in sending him invites he will block you, if you try to contact him he would be within his rights to inform the police.

I am sure you do not want this to happen to you.

Please for your sake and his stop trying to contact him .

Hugs to you I know this is not easy for you to do but you really must stop this before it gets out of hand.

m so worried now that he will make fun of me with his friends

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Originally Posted by jiakhan

m so worried now that he will make fun of me with his friends

Dear ((((jaikhan))))

You know that he has done this before. Can you tell us why you continue to do this even after all the support and help and friendship you have had to support you not to do it?

I suppose I am asking for explanation because there are so many threads with this same theme. You contact, you tell him how you feel he ridicules you and youback away then you contact him again when the dust has settled.

It seems that you are a glutton for punishement keep going back when you know he is so nasty and will continue to be; telling him it was you trying to contact him before is a mistake. I don't see anything good coming from it. The only thing good is that you don't ever contact him again.

It really is frustrating watching all of this every few days. Please for everyones sake don't contact him again

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon

Dear ((((jaikhan))))

You know that he has done this before. Can you tell us why you continue to do this even after all the support and help and friendship you have had to support you not to do it?

I suppose I am asking for explanation because there are so many threads with this same theme. You contact, you tell him how you feel he ridicules you and youback away then you contact him again when the dust has settled.

It seems that you are a glutton for punishement keep going back when you know he is so nasty and will continue to be; telling him it was you trying to contact him before is a mistake. I don't see anything good coming from it. The only thing good is that you don't ever contact him again.

It really is frustrating watching all of this every few days. Please for everyones sake don't contact him again

rhainnon...i was unable to move on without doing this. i should have had the courage to contact with my real id in the very beginning...and i should have told him that i admire him,instead i told him that i loved him. that was a mistake. if i'd told him a bit differently may be he would have considered being friends with me is ok. but i messed up big time! he said to me repeatedly that i should have the guts to tell him my name if i like him. i didnt tell him straight away...but i gave him so many hints and he got me. he knew that it was me all along.
now,by telling him it was me i wanted to restore my personal dignity....i thought why should i hide myself. even if im not good enough for him why should i hide myself. why not tell him straight away that hey it was me and im sorry. lets see what happens. atleast my consciounce is clear now. by the way,i havnt told him all about the fake ids,and he hasnt asked either. i have just told him that it was me who contacted him several months ago.

[Belle1979]

Hey everyone, I know its frustrating to have a same threads posted time and time again. I've done it myself after all, so I understand Jiakhan's reasoning.

She is hurting, we all know what that is like, yet she keeps putting herself in the same situation over and over.
Damn I contacted Mark when I shouldn't have.. mind you he didn't ignore me or tell me to go away.. I contacted Louis and he did ignore me. It doesn't stop the pain.

Blunt and hard truth now.
Jiakhan, block him from your facebook so that you cannot even access his profile or make friends requests. You are a bright woman, you know that the infactuation you have is unhealthy. He has never made any suggestion that he wishes to befriend you in life or online - not when he knew it was you.
Write what you feel, you will always get support here... but what Rhiannon has said is true, you have asked for advice and then disregarded it - that's fine you have to make your own decisions.

It is time to be true to yourself.

Heartbreak hurts (I KNOW) but beating yourself up over the "If I had done things differently" (If you said you admired him rather than loved him etc) wouldn't and wont change anything. I have gone over so many different scenarios in my head about both my ex's - If I'd acted differently, said something differently.. the outcome would have been different... IT WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN... Mark still would have left and Louis would still have broken my heart - maybe not when it happened but eventually as I would have been playing a game and not being me.

Cut your lossed darling heart.

Not everyone gets along with everyone. You can't change a persons mind once it is made up.. thats life.

Now take a deep breath and realise that I have said all of this for your own good and not to make you feel bad xxxxxxx

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by Belle1979

Hey everyone, I know its frustrating to have a same threads posted time and time again. I've done it myself after all, so I understand Jiakhan's reasoning.

She is hurting, we all know what that is like, yet she keeps putting herself in the same situation over and over.
Damn I contacted Mark when I shouldn't have.. mind you he didn't ignore me or tell me to go away.. I contacted Louis and he did ignore me. It doesn't stop the pain.

Blunt and hard truth now.
Jiakhan, block him from your facebook so that you cannot even access his profile or make friends requests. You are a bright woman, you know that the infactuation you have is unhealthy. He has never made any suggestion that he wishes to befriend you in life or online - not when he knew it was you.
Write what you feel, you will always get support here... but what Rhiannon has said is true, you have asked for advice and then disregarded it - that's fine you have to make your own decisions.

It is time to be true to yourself.

Heartbreak hurts (I KNOW) but beating yourself up over the "If I had done things differently" (If you said you admired him rather than loved him etc) wouldn't and wont change anything. I have gone over so many different scenarios in my head about both my ex's - If I'd acted differently, said something differently.. the outcome would have been different... IT WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN... Mark still would have left and Louis would still have broken my heart - maybe not when it happened but eventually as I would have been playing a game and not being me.

Cut your lossed darling heart.

Not everyone gets along with everyone. You can't change a persons mind once it is made up.. thats life.

Now take a deep breath and realise that I have said all of this for your own good and not to make you feel bad xxxxxxx

thanks a lot Belle (hugs)..... i know that u understand the pain im going through.it means a lot! others also know that its hard to get over somthing like this..the point is that i asked for advice and didnt act upon it when i was given advice by so many wonderful ppl believe me,i tried to! not hard enough enough may be..but i tried.

as for this guy...i have decided that when i will get to see him after a month or so i wont try to hide may face or something. i've made my apology to him and that should be enough!any reasonable and decent guy wouldnt judge me by my mistakes...because at the end i apologized! i have blocked him on facebook.... now he cant prove 100% to his friends that i messaged him on fb. only my name will be showing in the thread. and i wont approach him from my fake ids aswell. i deserve better than that. i hope i stay strong.

[LittleForgetMeNot]

Originally Posted by jiakhan

thanks a lot Belle (hugs)..... i know that u understand the pain im going through.it means a lot! others also know that its hard to get over somthing like this..the point is that i asked for advice and didnt act upon it when i was given advice by so many wonderful ppl believe me,i tried to! not hard enough enough may be..but i tried.

as for this guy...i have decided that when i will get to see him after a month or so i wont try to hide may face or something. i've made my apology to him and that should be enough!any reasonable and decent guy wouldnt judge me by my mistakes...because at the end i apologized! i have blocked him on facebook.... now he cant prove 100% to his friends that i messaged him on fb. only my name will be showing in the thread. and i wont approach him from my fake ids aswell. i deserve better than that. i hope i stay strong.

Good job!!! I know what it feels like to have those little relapses and wanna return, I've felt that quite a lot recently! You're right though, you do deserve better. I suggest setting some short term goals? If you fall back into a relapse it would be good to have things you're working for. Right now I'm just trying to get through 48 hours without checking up (only 15 more hours to go until I can reblock them). Maybe something like that would help keep you in check??

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by LittleForgetMeNot

Good job!!! I know what it feels like to have those little relapses and wanna return, I've felt that quite a lot recently! You're right though, you do deserve better. I suggest setting some short term goals? If you fall back into a relapse it would be good to have things you're working for. Right now I'm just trying to get through 48 hours without checking up (only 15 more hours to go until I can reblock them). Maybe something like that would help keep you in check??

actually thats a good idea thanks. im gonna try it. i NEED to avoid contacting him for about 2 months as i have got really important stuff to concentrate on at the moment. lets see.

[hoping4best]

Fake account- deleted.
Eric- blocked from my fb account.

[LittleForgetMeNot]

good job!!!

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Originally Posted by jiakhan

rhainnon...i was unable to move on without doing this. i should have had the courage to contact with my real id in the very beginning...and i should have told him that i admire him,instead i told him that i loved him. that was a mistake. if i'd told him a bit differently may be he would have considered being friends with me is ok. but i messed up big time! he said to me repeatedly that i should have the guts to tell him my name if i like him. i didnt tell him straight away...but i gave him so many hints and he got me. he knew that it was me all along.
now,by telling him it was me i wanted to restore my personal dignity....i thought why should i hide myself. even if im not good enough for him why should i hide myself. why not tell him straight away that hey it was me and im sorry. lets see what happens. atleast my consciounce is clear now. by the way,i havnt told him all about the fake ids,and he hasnt asked either. i have just told him that it was me who contacted him several months ago.

I should have used the emoticons again. There was nothing but gentle concern in that post dear jaikhan. My concern is for the way you are treated and the pain it causes you. You are worth so much more and deserve so much better.

You have done really well over the time, and I think I pointed that out to you at one stage hon. You deserve much better than the way this guy has treated you, and the one thing that keeps hurting me is feeling your intense pain and worry when he hurts you again without even thinking twice about it.

I really only have genuine care and concern for you dear jaikhan. You're such a special person who has never a bad word about or for anyone and that is such a very special trait that so few people have.

Sending you lots of hugs and an apology if what I wrote came out wrong,

Rhiannon

[hoping4best]

Oh its allright Rhainnon! i know that u care. Thanku for the support, u have always given me gud advice. U and few other ppl on this site have really helped me a lot when i was hurting. I really appreciate it.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

((((((((((((((((jaikhan))))))))))))))))

Things must be so difficult for you when you are trying so hard to do things the right way and they still don't go right.

There are some really unkind people in this world and this guy is one of them. He doesn't and never has deserved you.

I know that when you meet the right guy and he appreciates you you will make the best partner. You will appreciate him because of what you have been through and what you have had to endure.

I do respect you jaikhan and I want you to know that and I'll support you no matter what. I shall just be more aware of using emoticons which is something I have vowed again and again to do but always for get

[hoping4best]

Almost a year has passed since i posted this thread and oh my God, i still like him a lot! :P idiot heart.