I am challenging the PC staff !

My X makes the Terminator look like an alter boy. I want some relief. Is there any remedy? Is there anyone with the answer? Is there one single person with the guts to stand up to Family Law in California and say "Your honor, this person is clinically ill and is causing great hardship in the live of others. She has habitually lied to and manipulated this court in order to act out her fantasy."
Where are the doctors? The results of a psychological evaluation given by a licensed psychologist whom we were receiving marriage counseling from revealed;"Elevated levels of dysfunction, Axis 1, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder" followed by in depth descriptions of her tendencies and the results from specific areas of behavior, and much more. All citing dysfunction.

Five years of oppression..financial and personal destruction after giving her the best 20 years of my life. There has to be a solution. I need some help.
It's a long story which I have and will share, but it is critical that I get help soon. I've lost too much already! I've been here on PC since '07. I put my trust in the good that is served here, God bless you all.

Wow sounds like a really hard battle you have been having. I guess having been here for so long, you know there are great people on here to share things with, when you are ready to tell your story. Take care - Soup

What ever you're dealing with sounds very hard and painful. How can we help? You're amoung friends.

Im not the psych central staff but I can tell you, no one here staff or members can do anythnig for you. we dont tell eachother what to do and how to do it. we listen and say whether we have been in the same situaiton as you are in.

I have never been in this situation but as a crisis center therapist I have clients that have.

some have chosen to get a no fault divorce (basically this is where you go to the clerks office, file the paperwork, pay the fee, place an ad in a newspaper giving notice that they have filed for divorce then on the court date the judge signs the divorce decree)

others that decided not to leave their mentally ill spouses had their spouse involluntarily committed to a mental facility due to their being a danger to their self or others.

others choose to leave their spouses, enter a domestic violence shelter and obtain a protection order so that if the spouse comes near them they can have them arrested.

Some chose to move out on their own and obtain a protection order.

some chose to stay with their mentally ill spouses.

only you can decide what you want to do. only you can decide whether you have had enough and leave or stay.

if this person really is as mentally ill and dangerous as you say then call the cops when they are a danger to yourself and others. and get yourself a restraining order barring the person from coming near you. depending on the household situation she will be removed from the house or you will be removed from the house the day the police serve the restraining order.

in the USA you dont need medical reports, psych reports and all that to get a restraining order. you just need to state you feel you are in danger and why.

by the way this is the dissociative disorder boards how does what you posted fit in with Dissociative disorders does she have a dissociative disorder that is affecting this problem..

Also I just went back to read some of your past posts.. your past posts say shes calling the relationship off, she wants to leave in your words "during the best part"

I dont understand what the problem is here she wants to leave and you are not happy with her anyway, other wise you wouldnt have posted such a hateful post about her lying, acting out a fantasy, being mentally ill, and all that other stuff..

Im totally confused here you need to decide what you want.. do you want her to stay or do you want her to go and leave you alone.

what do you really want from psych central staff and members.. we cant fix this problem for you only you can.

have you a therapist you can consult? i've found that in therapy many of my life challenges can be better understood. then i have learned coping skills and tools to work thru my obstacles. it's like being on the fast track to healthier living for me. perhaps you'd benefit with this approach too. the support of friends, perhaps a clergyman are options too. another thought is to keep the focus on you. your ex's behavior is beyond your control.
we can offer support and listen to each other here. or share what helped us as individuals. we care and hopefully you can find solutions about the things that concern you.

Thank you all for your replies and input. I am traveling out of state shortly . When I get to my destination and get settled (approx 24hrs),I will respond to each of you. Thanks again Ledz

Feel free to friend me and we can arrange a chat for a brain storm session if you wish. I have no legal skills nor therapy degree but I have a few notions.

Leds this is not the dissociative disorders board, you are well within your right to post this here.
you really need to decide whether you want the rest of your life to be as it is at present, if not then what do you want, once you decide on this you will be clearer as to how to achieve it. It is a difficult situation giving up on twenty years of your life, but sometimes you have to consider the next twenty plus, you will never change the past but you can definitely shape your future.

sorry my post confused you yellowted. this thread was first in the dissociative boards. the moderators moved it to the relationship boards. it was quite confusing to me when I read it in the dissociative boards. I couldnt figure out what the posting had to do with dissociative disorders. Im still under moderation by choice so I posted what I did knowing a moderator would help get this thread placed in the right place

thanks mods for moving this thread out of the dissociative boards and into the relationship boards. now the original poster may be able to get the kinds of posts they need.

SoupDragon...thanks for the encouragement. I know how right you are about the people here as I've experienced many first hand and found them to be as personable and compassionate as any I've met anywhere. So...I will continue on here...