[Butterfly_Faerie]

This pisses me off!

Why does he always tells me to stop talking, because I repeat myself sometimes, or BABBLE big Whoooopie %#@&#! DOO!

It's embarrassing, he does this all the time with people around, did it tonight to. Don't care when he does it at home etc, but when we're out ... makes me feel like %#@&#!.

Ya thanks for that.

[Lexicon78]

That would really upset me, too.

It's not cool to do that to someone, either in public or in private.

[hillbunnyb]

yukky behavior, rude, unnecessary. phooey.

[Butterfly_Faerie]

Thanks for the replies, I he came upstairs and apologized after some time, I think he did really feel bad about it, and it's not too often that he can say how he feels (he sucks with words) so I know he meant it. The thing is will he remember to stop?

[razeljenny]

B. never quit doing that to me. I don't recommend leaving him, but I left after 9 years of that and more emotional abuse. Mostly I grew and need more time to focus on a project that I got into and I am too tired for a relationship. So I don't think he is going to stop, but you can tune out when he is rude and not get upset, trying to not let him get under your skin. LIfe is short, enjoy the good points in the relationship. There must be several to appreciate, so dwell on those things mentally.

[Butterfly_Faerie]

razeljenny, that's the only thing he does once in awhile that bothers me, he is not abusive, never has been. He doesn't like hearing things being repeated over and over again, that irritates him, but once he realized that it was hurting me he was upset.

So we'll see, I think i'd have to remind him but then again maybe not.

[Rhapsody]

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

Hang in there.... and YES, you might need to remind him, lovingly, that this hurts you - one day it will sink in.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[(JD)]

Sounds like you both need some couples counseling. imo Good wishes!

[Rhapsody]

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Sounds like you both need some couples counseling. imo Good wishes!

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Hmm -
Not for sure if counseling is necessarily needed here..... maybe just some good old communication and acceptance skills - for all relationships go thru the rockies at one time or another.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[desirae]

Uh, sorry he does that. I'd tell him how you feel, and then if he don't respond or respect that, then do something him to make him feel like crap around other people so he knows how it feels. That's what I would do personally.

Sorry he wasn't very nice to you; it's good that he recognizes it, just make sure you keep a clear head about it; remain objective and follow your heart and the advice you would give. If this is a pattern of his behavior, then you know what to do...if this is how you allow him to treat you, with no retaliation, he knows what he can get away with. I'm so embarrased for you that he spoke to you in this manner in front of others.

[Butterfly_Faerie]

No we don't need that sky lol, we have a terrific relationship.

Thank you Rhapsody....

He hasn't done it since, little things bug me, but i'm sure there are little things that I do that bug him as well.. Well I know I do lol... but I guess that's just how it goes... Communication skills he lacks, but he tries that i've seen.

I don't want to turn around and do something like that to him, to make him feel like crap in front of others, he doesn't show emotion, so even if I did something low like that he wouldn't react. I don't want to do that either....

((((((jon))))))

Thanks, he is the best relationship i've ever had, compared to the others that have been abusive etc. I wouldn't be with him for 5 yrs otherwise.

Thanks guys.

[Rhapsody]

Maybe you two just need to better understand each other as MALE & FEMALE..... gain knowledge into the needs you personally have as who you are as a man and a woman.

I love these two books and do think they will get the ball a rolling.... they will open your eyes and soften your hearts to the irritations that once made your relationship troublesome with the WHY's to his (and your) doings - - from each others side of the fence.

LINK: http://4-womenonly.com/index.aspx

LINK: http://formenonlybook.com/index.aspx

BOOKS (as a set): http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/159...lance&n=283155


LoVe,
Rhapsody -


P.S.
There is EXCEPTIONS to every RULE.... so use the book as you would any manual - as a reference, then talk it out with your spouse / significant other.
BTW - - - I got both books and I totally agree with the one on women and my husband and two sons love the book for women to read and learn about their man.