Two relationships

Shirley, thanks, Hon. I truly appreciate your sympathy!

But foremost in my mind is the knowledge that she'll probably read when they get back from Okla and twist this, too, to suit her. ARGH! She's taken a whole lot from me, not just my son.

Squeeze a little tighter, Hon.

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Ok, well good luck to you. Wi_fi said it best - your pain is palpable. I send you and your family positive vibes in hopes that someday, everyone involved will find it in their heart to let go of their convictions and do whatever it takes to move toward a reconciliation.

I am just going to butt in here and say something. I have known you for a long time (((((Tomi))))) and I will probably be thumped for saying this...I am going to point out a couple of things that stood out from your post....

......"I'm sorry, PC is well within my boundaries. I have a right to be here. She doesn't, especially when the intent was there from the very beginning of their relationship. This isn't an assumption on my part. It's fact."......

I have a problem with this...why does she not have a right to be here?

I also have to mention the words you are calling her Dad...I know if I were her and I read what you are writing about her Dad...I would be a tad bit upset...

I guess what I am trying to figure out is that John is with her...bottom line. When it is just the 2 of them - they may have a terrific relationship...in all honesty - no one knows what they have except them. I had a peek at her myspace.com site and all I read there is how much she loves her kids and John. It just makes me wonder about it all.

I hope I didn't hurt your feelings Tomi....I have been following some of the posts and started thinking back to when we first met If you want to know ...alot of this is reminding me somewhat of Karla. Do you think there could be some connection between it all? Just some food for thought.

Thanks for your input, Hon... but...

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If you want to know ...alot of this is reminding me somewhat of Karla. Do you think there could be some connection between it all?

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No, not at all. Karla is borderline, Christina is not. Karla KNOWS that the problem lies with her because she can't keep from being enmeshed with me. Christina is hardly enmeshed with me. She's enmeshed with her dad.

I had totally forgotten what I said about C's dad. I had started to respond to Lee Ann through PM and forgot to delete that small part. Things can't get any worse anyway. I'm not worried about it. He can't stand to be in the same breathing space with me, anyway, so... And that's because he's fool enough to believe that I actually told Autumn that I hate her!! Give me a break!!

Christina was here telling lies about me. You won't find the posts because Admin deleted them. *I* didn't suggest she get banned, Amin took care of it when they found out SHE was here. Ask Admin why she doesn't have a right to be here.

She could have very well read everything I have to say from the OUTSIDE, but no... she had to come in here as a member and post about me. Ever hear of "stalking", Heather? Her intentions were not honorable. As far I as I know, she doesn't have any dx of a mental illness. So what was her reason, do you think?

She claimed to be "a little down" since the birth of Aiden. I'm sure there's better support groups than here that deal expecially with post partum depression. She came HERE because she knew *I* was here. Don't forget, it's not the first time she's done this!

Ok... I'm done defending myself. I've done it for too long already and I don't feel I should need to, to those that know me well.

Hey

No need to defend yourself...I thought you wanted some insights that's all.

I think what I need to do is remove myself from this situation for as long as it takes me to get back on an even keel. Maybe I'm not seeing the forest for the trees. Maybe it's the other way around.

It just feels so invalidating when someone could think there is anything good in that relationships besides the kids, after everything that I've said here. Just the fact that she became a member here for the second time, AND was bath-mouthing me, proves that her intentions are not good. In one of her emails she said "We have everything we need to know how you feel." If she wasn't gathering ammo to attack me with, then what was she doing?

Anyway! Enough is enough. I want and need to put this on the back burner and let it simmer for a while. Maybe it will cook down all the extraneous stuff and leave the truth standing on it's own.

Thanks anyway.