[drunksunflower]

Do you ever find you lie ... maybe white ones ... but still lies ...

to get out of things you don't feel able to do?

I just did a bad thing i told my friend I couldn't catch a movie with him tonight because I was throwing up.

I'm not well i did after lunch (seem to have a hanging around tummy bug) but rest of the day I have been mostly ok.

i just didn't feel like i could deal with going out and being social.

this is a close friend although as is my rule (bar one person) i don't tell anyone about any 'crap stuff' IRL.

so i feel like a %#@&#! person who can't handle anything and making up excuses ... is so NOT my style ...

does anyone else do this?

should this post be here ... maybe not ...

but i didn't know where else to put it.

*sigh*

to be back to normal would be so freakn great.

again i whine ... soz.

[January]

I'm telling you now, if I tossed my cookies, no matter what time of day, I wouldn't be going anywhere, period.

Don't be so hard on yourself.

Hugs,

Jan

[Bethsway]

Drunksunflower...yes I do that all the time...I am a liar...I never realized it before...Always thought I was so honest! but yes I always make up stories of being sick because I cannot go out into the world...I try sometimes but it always winds up bad and I keep getting worse and worse...I can't even shop now! But I am proud of one thing....last night I called my girlfriend and told her the real reason I cannot meet with her tonight for dinner...told it was not becasue I was sick...but because I was mental...You know what? She understood! I am glad I did that...but also know you can't trust everybody to understand...!!I have to go to work today and I am putting it off...I wish I had sick leave left so I could stay home...I will be sick all the way to work, at work , and on the way home...! I hate it!!!

[drunksunflower]

so so so glad i am not the only one

i didnt go to work today either. i really do suck.
thanks

[(JD)]

(((dsf))) No, I don't do bold faced lies... I do limit the truth I tell sometimes because not everyone needs to hear it all...

I hope you will realize that you don't need to tell a lie to be able to decide not to go to the movies...or do anything else. As an adult, we don't have to have a reason... and to be able to say, No, I don't want to go anywhere tonight. is good enough reason! (But I'm with Jan.. tossing cookies at any time is good reason to stay home and rest!) hehe

[hillbunnyb]

lies are the bane of my existance. I was so abused for truth telling in my childhood, that I pretty much just shut up. Now as an adult, who has lived close to many many people, I see the vast most of them BS their way through most of the time.
No attachment to the truth of their statements, they just wanna get through looking good.

I have to brace myself to say, "Nope, I can't" but, then it's better cause I don't have that aftertaste of lie in my mouth.
Finding people to have "clean" relationships with is difficult.
That's just life, I think.

[drunksunflower]

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(((dsf))) No, I don't do bold faced lies... I do limit the truth I tell sometimes because not everyone needs to hear it all...

I hope you will realize that you don't need to tell a lie to be able to decide not to go to the movies...or do anything else. As an adult, we don't have to have a reason... and to be able to say, No, I don't want to go anywhere tonight. is good enough reason! (But I'm with Jan.. tossing cookies at any time is good reason to stay home and rest!) hehe

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I wasn't bold faced lying, I just probably could have gone (I hadn't been sick for several hours).

And yet i used the excuse all the same.

this friend is VERY close yet i still can't tell him about the d-word.

hillbunny ... the way you say 'aftertaste of lie' ... that's exactly it.

[Bethsway]

Thanks for the tip...I will use it...You are right...just say no thank you...I really want to just stay home tonight...gees so simple...and so real...

[PasDeDeux]

Yep, I usually if I do not want to go out and it is a true friend say I AM NOT UP TO IT..ANOTHER TIME...But, I have told white lies to jobs for a day off , things like that. I think we all lie on some level

[wisewoman]

No you really don't suck. You are trying to be an honest ethical human and deal with mental illness. I have two thoughts for you:

1. Would going out have given you the oppurtunity maybe of getting out of a slump? Like you might have enjoyed self?

2. You were ill,

Just be aware of when you say no to going out as the more I isolate the worse off I am in the long run. Goodluck and you are not a lier or you wouldn't have posted the thread.

[Bethsway]

Wise you are wise...but that is my problem...I cannot go out..I am agoraphobic and social anxiety disorder...lol..I have to make excuses all the time...lol..so now I will just say..I am not up to it...thanks for the tips