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Jan 10, 2014, 03:10 PM
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I just met a married man at a hotel and had sex with him. We met online and it was the first time we have ever met. If I had met him for lunch first I don't think I would have went through with it but we met right at the hotel.
Now I feel awful. ughhh. the other married man I am seeing would probably be mad, but he hasn't seen me since October. We still talk all the time online. And there are so many more that I could meet also. What a way to start the new year. ugh |
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Jan 10, 2014, 03:23 PM
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you feel bad after you do this? and if you don't mind me asking, why you chose married men?
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Jan 10, 2014, 03:40 PM
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1. The other married man has NO right to be angry. He's cheating on his wife. He needs to just shut up and sit in the corner.
2. You don't need to be around those losers. You deserve someone who is going to treat you right and isn't going to just use you as a mistress. Be true to yourself. |
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Jan 10, 2014, 03:45 PM
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ex, while he wuz married, but they were gonna seperate at the time. we just kissed, still u really dont want to screw w a married man, do u?? I mean is it the risk u like, and u get a rush? Ur better than that.  ur cheating uraself... think about it.
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Jan 10, 2014, 04:22 PM
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I relate so much. I could have written this myself. I've slept with many married men and dated one for about a year. It's so sick but it was the best relationship I've ever had. It sounds like I did the same thing as you- I would meet men online and talk to them for awhile, and then meet them either at a hotel or their house to have sex. When I was dating the man I saw for a year I would sleep with other guys in between seeing him, but he knew about it. He felt bad that he couldn't see me more often because of his wife, kid, work, and he lived far away. He told me I should get a boyfriend and have sex with him on the side.... but the problem with that was that nobody wanted to be my boyfriend.
I loved finding out about their life and wishing I was in it. I loved the attention. I loved knowing that I was doing something "bad" but that felt so right. Plus, if they were married, then they had to be good guys- because someone loved them enough to marry them. I'm telling you all of this because I am wondering if you have pinned down your reasons for choosing married men? I think that if you do choose to stop (totally up to you), its really helpful to ask yourself HONESTLY why you are doing this and what it is you are looking for. I haven't slept with anyone married or even in any sort of relationship in about 4 years. I haven't even wanted to. Sometimes I do think about how much easier it would be then actually trying to date. Because dating for real is F-ing hard! And painful. It's so much easier to be wanted. I've never felt more wanted then the moment right before he knew I was going to have sex with him. But in reality the only reason I felt so wanted is because they were so DESPERATE. They are all fake, desperate, **** heads. bueno
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Jan 10, 2014, 05:06 PM
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Bueno, I think we ARE a lot alike! That is exactly why I do it- because I don't want to deal with SINGLE guys. If they don't call you again, then you feel bad about yourself and get mad at them and wonder who else they are with.
With married guys, you KNOW you can't have them. And I DO like the risk taking and the feeling of being wanted. I know I have low self esteem. I recently went on an actual dating site for SINGLES but did not feel ready to go and meet them. someday I will. I am also not where I want to be in life and want more for myself. I don't like who I am right now. |
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Jan 10, 2014, 06:27 PM
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I feel like I should of gotten paid for today. I feel like a hooker now.
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Jan 10, 2014, 06:30 PM
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Jan 10, 2014, 06:41 PM
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quote: I know I have low self esteem. I recently went on an actual dating site for SINGLES but did not feel ready to go and meet them. someday I will. I am also not where I want to be in life and want more for myself. I don't like who I am right now.
As hard as it may sound, have you ever considered Not dating for awhile? Actually do something for yourself, do some things for You that will help You. I did this when I was young & single, took about a a year off, really did a lot of work on myself, then felt better prepared to get out there again. I think I had more to offer & it showed. Just a thought...
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Jan 10, 2014, 06:44 PM
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NWgirl, I know what you mean. I am in my 40's though and I have ALWAYS been single, even when I was married!! I have been divorced for years and have not dated anyone really. just some married guys for sex only. That is all I know how to do.
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Jan 10, 2014, 07:39 PM
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You are at a fantastic age because you have the resources from living longer, to dig a little deeper. Your age is a Good Thing Sure it's hard. I was single 10 years, took my time, still didn't learn a damn thing in that I was too trusting. I still fell for the wrong guy. I married a liar & a cheat who won't even own it. But if I had known a little more about what I was getting, my polar opposite, that would have been helpful. Now I know. If I could have a do-over, like you could be having right now...I would explore my personality type, meyers-briggs comes to mind. Find out more about yourself. There are many tools out there, at your fingertips. I would start exercising to keep my mind & body fit & ready...for myself! because it would make me feel better. I would go to Meets Ups that are doing things I want to do. I would start taking classes in things that I want to learn. I would remember that today is the youngest I am ever going to be, for the rest of my life. Yes, I can and am doing some of this myself, but to me, you have a golden opportunity to take this self examination to the next level. I know, I sound too chipper, but I truly believe this. I believe women need to stick together. We are not like men... I wish you only the best and I am rooting for you to decide to make better choices and decide that you are lovable. When you love who you are & you are who you want to be, it will be better. I promise...
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Jan 10, 2014, 08:10 PM
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I've always had a lot of trouble with relationships and getting a guy to call back for even a second date. It always makes me feel so horrible about myself, but I don't want to be alone forever so I keep trying. Something that helped me switch from married guys is having a FWB. I tried doing online dating (the "normal" type) and met a guy who I went on a few dates with but it didn't work out. I actually didn't like him at all as someone I would date. But we stayed friends (with benefits) because he is great to talk to, I respect a lot of things about him, and he is always there for me. He is single, and I know him well so I don't have any guilt attached like I did with married guys. I don't know if that would be right for you at all, (feel free to ignore me if it doesn't!) but I thought I would share what worked for me. Sending you strength! bueno
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Jan 11, 2014, 06:38 AM
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At least, lesson learned, it's more than just sex you need. Sent from my LG-MS910 using Tapatalk 2 |
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