Were you hugged as a child?

We discussed this in therapy today and whether or not it might have something to do with my anxiety or other problems.

I suppose I could interpret the answers a couple of different ways. If most of you say yes, then I could say that's why you are on PC, or I could say that yes, most normal people receive hugs from their parents

Hugged a lot by my mother ... almost never by my father (they eventually divorced). Don't know how you will interpret that one.

I didn't not receive hugs. I'm not a very huggy type of mom, however. Not that I don't give them, just not as though I'm hugging the boys daily. More randomly. Which makes me believe that childhood was random hugs, or appropriately placed ones.

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I have only been hugged 4 times in my life, Twice by the same person, (Never by my parents, they're not the huggy type, they don't even touch) and I've given away just one hug. I remember each and every one of them.

I was never hugged by either of my parents. Ever. I remember no warmth, kisses or cuddles, l was never touched apart from an occasional slap. So much so that I became 'touch aviodant' I would flinch if someone touched me, it felt alien.

I have friends that hug, first few times this happened I froze unsure of what to do. I have trained my self to hug back now.

All the time by both of my parents. My parents were pretty good about that kind of thing. My wife and I are also pretty huggy. We give hugs to our kids and grandkids all the time and our boys will still climb onto the couch with us and lay their heads on our shoulders when we watch movies.

(This can be a pain if they fall asleep because my oldest boy is 12 and around 100 lbs. It's dang near impossible to carry his heavy butt into his bedroom! )

Throw on top of it that Buddhists seem to be big on hugs anyway (seriously, and none of use really get why) and nobody is safe around us ...

I was hugged a lot by both parents but they otherwise had no idea how to nurture me or teach me safe ways to express my feelings. My mother is very mentally sick and all my fathers time was looking after my mum. Yes we got hugged but that doesn't make up for all the other stuff we missed out on.

No. I'd only get hugs from my mother if initiated it. And she'd often push me away or only hug me for half a second. My father never hugged me in my memory. I think my mom might have kissed me goodnight on occasion but I don't really remember. I remember the last time my dad kissed me. I was six years old and he kissed my head on the way to work. I complained and said his face was scratchy. He never kissed me or touched me in a non abusive way ever again.

This wasn't the worst they did, but it was hard because I highly suspect that even though I'm very sensitive to it and hate it when random people touch me, I think touch might be one of my more crucial "love languages". I respond to it very strongly either in a negative way or a negative way. It all depends on how close I feel to you emotionally and where/how you touch me.

I was hugged a lot by my mom; not so much my dad, he usually just tickled me(which I hated). My grandparents helped raise me and I got tons of hugs from them.

I rarely got hugged by anyone

I sure was, by my father mostly. He was a good man. I sure do miss him and his hugs.

A lot! Mostly by my eldest brother, father and sister. My mom hugged me too, but you can tell she's not huggy. It just doesn't come naturally for her, as she had very emotionally distant parents. I'm very huggy, and its strange for me that my daughter is a lot like my mom, she likes well timed or appropriate hugs, not random hugs left, right and centre.

No. I'm sure I was held as a baby, (they of course had to feed me), I remember mom always delegating the task of caring for me to my dad. He was almost never home anyways, but I was always looking for him. I remember a few times, that dad tickled me, and there is no pictures of them hugging me. No memories of them being affectionate to each other at all, (they were violent verbally and physically to each other, only a few flash memories of that too). The time he tickled me last, my mom was angry, said stop it (insert his name here), and he never touched me again, other than to spank me. He never hit me otherwise. My mom did, all the time.
I did grow up to feel an avoidance to touch, until a boyfriend got me over the fear. Then I became someone who needs that very much, and I also believed and felt my children deserved to be told they are loved, as well as hugged. It is routine, just comes naturally too, to hug my sons before they go to school, but I think its important too, to realize when they just need one, out of the blue, and some praise for things they do, not just picking at the negative things like mine did. Sorry, I get to talking and cant quit... it seems to help to let things out lately.

I was hugged only by my mom, and that was only when I was little. It stopped long before I was 10.

No, I was not hugged as a child and I'm suffering because of it. I know I have a lot of company.

Oddly, my father loved me very much, but he never touched me.

I wasn't an "affectionate child" so I didn't receive much physical affection growing up, including hugs. I think I only got hugs from my parents after I moved out and they knew they wouldn't see me everyday anymore. I just love how I was practically blamed for the lack of affection though...

I was not hugged enough, but my mother did from time to time. I needed more, tho.
My dad was another story.... rarely ever hugged or even said he loved us kids. For God's sake , he would literally only shake my brothers' hands instead of hugging them....that always just killed me he would hug me on a rare occasion, but perhaps because I was the girl. But, , , no real expressions of love for any of us. This shaped my life in a very negative way. I needed a daddy...not just a biological dad.

It hit me several months ago why I never placed my whole faith and trust into God.....it was because he represented a male father figure. My earthly father wasn't loving, so I guess I assumed all father figures were the same and would lead to disappointment and rejection.

I finally broke free of that lie I told myself and have fully placed my heart and faith back into God. It wasn't his fault my earthly father was the way he was. I am happy I finally made this realization.

Thankfully, I turned out to be a hugger myself. The world would be in a much healthier place if we simply expressed love more towards everyone.

Dad never hugs and my mom told me if I wanted a hug to hug the dog.

for everyone in this thread.

Not so much. But I am a very huggy person...look out

No hugs for me. Plenty for my younger sister, though.

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I wasn't hugged much as a kid, but my parents were good and decent people.

No memory of ever being hugged. If fact, only remember being told that if they had birth control pills in 1947 I wouldn't be here. Here's one for you now

I was not hugged often at all. now I enjoy getting hugs from loved ones, but getting them from others makes me very uncomfortable.

Yup. My mother had a favorite too. A Golden Child who could do no wrong.