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Aug 30, 2014, 11:33 AM
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Sep 09, 2014, 10:27 AM
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Brasucasulu, sweetie, your the amazing one. You have to start telling yourself that every single day! And even more than just saying it, you have to believe it! What is important in life, if we don't respect ourselves enough to feel that we deserve a man (or woman for you guys out there) that treats us with dignity and respect. We owe ourselves that. So start by putting yourself first. Make sure you have someone worthy of the wonderful person that you are. He's out there, and don't settle for less! I had to learn that i needed to change the type of man i was dating. If you keep dating the same type of lose guys, your not going to get the princes. Unfortunately, us girls are often attracted to the bad boys. But, you really need to give some of those good guys a chance. You're frogs just might turn into a prince! Mine did. Good luck sweetie. If u need me, just holler!
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Sep 09, 2014, 02:11 PM
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 Oh my God... if that were me, I'd tell him to stop being so racist, and I would run so fast in the opposite direction. What a horrible way to treat a woman. :\ Very disrespectful, IMO. I get that his family may be ... well, racist, but that doesn't give him free reign to act as as you've described.
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Sep 09, 2014, 10:09 PM
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I agree with all the other posters have said! Your boyfriend is "slumming". Your location says Tampa and you stated his family and friends are still in South Africa so it sounds like he's in the states for work. That far away from everyone is makes it easy to dip his toe into other waters. The fact that you live with him means you are doing everything a wife does without actually being his wife. He is not going to marry you and probably still has a relationship if not still married to the so called "ex-wife". You need to get out before you get hurt even more. Eventually he will return to the white life he's more comfortable with or he'll trade you in for a different flavor while still in the states. I pray your strength...
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Sep 09, 2014, 10:47 PM
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I agree with all the other "RUN don't walk" minded posters! I would also like to add that this appalling behavior/attitude he has is a definite sign that the relationship is a dead end! How will you ever go any further in it? Marriage?? What, with a bag over your head instead of a veil so his "friends" won't find out? Children?? No, this guy doesn't deserve you! If his "FRIENDS " are so damn important to him, what was he thinking?! Why did he even involve you in something that would hurt you like that? If YOU were his priority he would lose the loser "friends", who if you ask me are no friend to him anyway if they "sit in judgment" of who he should or should not love based SOLELY on prejudice! Please find someone worthy of YOU! Hugs & good luck to you!
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