Always losking at everything SICK OF LIFE

Basically what triggered me is that I have been playing this new video game with my younger brothers, and I have been losing ALMOST EVERY SINGLE TIME. Yeah sure it's just a game and I usually don't let these things get to me, but the frequency is just too much and I am thinking it may have something to do with my slow processing speed(according to an intelligence test I took). I pretty much suck at EVERYTHING in life. I sucked academically, I suck at sports, I suck at conversations, I can't get girls, I am not creative, ****ING EVERYTHING. I am SICK of always feeling inferior to everyone, it has gotten to the point where I generally hate being around people. I honestly see no point in associating with anyone if they always look down on me, since my main motivation for even being social at all is to show off and get recognition. All I ever get is either disrespect and pity if I am lucky.

Oh and girls in particular make my life a living hell. I constantly find myself attracted to them but they are always so ****ing judgmental basically unless you are socially graceful and smart and the same age as them they want you to stay away. They pretend to be nice out of pity but I always hear them talking **** about guys who talk to them. I REFUSE to be one of those guys. But of course, the only alternative is to be quiet and not get any attention at all. And that's what I usually do.

Is this all I have to look forward to???

I hope you're feeling better

It's not that simple. Everyone gets their chance to be recognized and form their identity in their adolescence, but I didn't thanks to bullying and social isolation. So now that is my main focus. No, I don't care about helping anyone, especially when nobody cares about helping me. How can I be concerned with other people's happiness when I am miserable myself? Especially when these people are almost always happier than me.

Focus on you. Read books, lift weights, go running, find hobbies and get into them. That way you can become good at your hobbies and not always be competing. Girls like guys that are confident and have interests rather than guys who are shoving each other around and beating their chests. The girls that like those kinds of guys you wouldn't want anyway.

People are especially judgmental when they perceive someone as "dumb". Most people in our society think it is morally justified to judge "dumb" people. And I'm starting to think that's what I am. I can never think of what to say in social situations and when I do I always end up saying something dumb. If this is how it's always going to be then I really should just stay away from people because I can never feel comfortable around anyone who looks down on me.

I respect your answer..but if YOU don't care, how can you reasonably expect anyone else to care? It's a catch 22.

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Sorry Shadix...Others may have an answer for you.

Most people are better off than me and do not need me to care about them. This is all irrelevant anyways, because caring is just pity, I don't want pity, I want people to like me.

With that said, I pretend to care about people's meaningless issues all the time, just so that I don't get judged as cold hearted. But in reality no I don't care. Why should I care about some girl crying over a breakup for example, when I have never even had a relationship or even had the chance to hang out with girls? Why should I care about whether or not my friend got into med school when I wasn't able to get into ANY post-grad programs and am stuck working at a crappy call center?

Dude...caring is not pity. Caring is hard work. Seriously hard work.

And stop comparing yourself to others because you do not know the troubles they have endured. You only see the outside. They do not know your troubles, either.

I'm am sorry that you are in a difficult place. I've been there many times. I can tell you that you'll feel better if you look outside instead of inside. This life is a not a race, my friend. We are all here for our own reasons.

Ps I like you already, or I wouldn't have answered you. Just saying

Oh man..don't talk to me about crappy call centers. LMAO. I've had my share of them.

You have some things to be grateful for. I know a few people who'd do anything for a job. And my sister in law has stage 4 cancer. It's all over her body. She's probably going to die and she's just enjoying every morning she wakes up and breathes air. She used to sound a lot like you and since she's gotten cancer her whole perspective has changed. She sees beauty and comfort in a leaf on a tree. Things you and I don't really even notice. It's all about perspective and what you MAKE important to you. If getting a girl is your only goal and until you do you'll feel like a loser then you're fighting an uphill battle. You might try finding comfort and beauty in other things and let the girls figure out you're more of a human being than most jack*** guys who only chase girls.

And if you're having issues seeing things differently then maybe you should talk to a councilor. Most of us have and that doesn't make you crazy. It makes you a better person.

I need to sleep now Shadix...this has been a very difficult week for me and I'm exhausted. If you would like to continue our discussion, please feel free to pm me, and I will answer you tomorrow.

Best wishes to you.

I appreciate the replies. Thanks.

A big part of the problem is that since I am so inferior, I naturally see attractive intelligent and charismatic people as a threat to my self esteem and I tend to just have this deep seeded resentment towards them. My brother is an example, he is intelligent and charismatic and has this way of just flaunting it all the time, and I honestly hate being around him. No matter how nice he tries to be to me, I resent him because he is a reminder of how much I suck.

Don't sweat people being better than you at things. There will always be some turkey out there that is naturally better than you at any particular thing. That's just the way of the universe. It likes to teach humility. But if there's someone close to you with a superiority complex, then find a way to stay away from them. Nobody needs that.

Until you realize that your worth is not dependent upon how much better or worse you are (which is totally subjective to the person judging) compared with those around you, you're never going to be happy. There will always be someone smarter, dumber, richer, poorer, more attractive, less attractive. If you keep comparing yourself to him or others you're never going to be happy. You have to find happiness in other things. Find things you truly enjoy and appreciate. Don't look at someone and say "it seems like everyone likes him. I wish I was him" because you never will be him and you don't really know if people like him for the right reasons. Lots of cool/popular people in high school try to let that carry them through the rest of their lives and it doesn't work. Just be happy you're you. No one else can be you. Learn from your life and share that with someone else and make them better. That's way more important than the other things you're putting so much stock into.

I suck at alot of things, everybody has suckage in their lives. Your in a big struggle. Everyone is good at things, it's just finding those things, and its really hard to see it in yourself when your busy comparing yourself to others. So stop that.

No one knows the struggle of others , I would bet that every person you compare yourself to is dealing with there own baggage.

Make obtainable goals. You have the control of your life, Therapy can be a huge helpful resource of help while navigating through life , You can find peace and happiness, but its never just laid before you ( wouldn't that be fantastic ) life is a journey of finding happiness and contentment.

Take best care of you.

People always say "be yourself", but we unfortunately don't live in a world where everyone is valued for merely being a human being. We live in a world where people are valued for being intelligent, talented, charismatic, good looking. And in the case of girls judging guys, it's even more harsh. If you do not have those qualities, girls get annoyed by you even trying to be friendly towards them. And modern society is pretty feminist so it likes to promote the idea that whoever women choose not to associate with is somehow flawed because a woman's judgment is perfect. So even if you decide to leave women alone and focus on video games or something, you get shamed. And of course guys like my asshole brother who are more popular with girls are always there to be bullies on behalf of the feminists.