Im in an abusive relationship

I just realized I , INNY, am in an abusive relationship with someone as well...

myself....

I never thought of it like this...ya know? It was more like what i do is what i do...its normal ...its fine...ill get over it...hmmm....i guess it might take alittle more than that...it has all of the qualities of an abusive relationship...even including two people...the person i WANT to be and the person i AM....every day the verbal abuse gets worse and the emotional abuse as well....even physical abuse has gone from 15 times a day ....up to 170 times a day...no kidding im actually couting....i never thought this relationship with myself would get so bad....ok..so now i realize it...the question is....how do i get away from it? Its kinda hard getting away from something your stuck to....
sorry to babble...love, Inny

(((((((((Inny)))))))))))

The internal battle rages on and on doesn't it?

The devil on one shoulder, the angel on the other, each whispering into an ear, telling us what we want to hear. Because it's true...we want to hear how bad we are, how worthless we are, how stupid we are. It gives us the rationalization for feeling as low as we do. And yet, there is the angel...telling us what is truthful and what we need to hear about how good we really are. But then again, it's so much easier to accept the negative voices and demeaning thoughts of ourselves. We're all taught at a young age its not good to think highly of ourselves...we must be humble.

HOGWASH I SAY!!! Devil be gone and angel please stay!

I wish I had answers for you Inny dear....the only thing I can think of is that at some point you will get angry enough with your devil and not listen anymore, taking only instruction from your angel. At least that is what I hope and pray for you. Other than that, I have no intelligent words of wisdom, I'm sorry.

Many hugs!
J

What makes you think you're 'stuck' to it? Are you being held against your will? Are you locked away? Are you tied to a chair? You shouldn't feel like you are 'stuck' to anything. It is a common misconception for abusees to feel 'stuck' when in reality what it is, is called 'co-dependancy'. Please, if you really want to help yourself...look up the meaning of the word and how to get help for yourself.

I am living proof of how emotional abuse can affect someone. Fortunately I got out and got myself some help. I am much better for it. But the longer you remain 'stuck' the deeper you get and the more deluded you become in thinking that this is all you deserve in life. I'll be praying for you and my goodness I'll really be praying for any children involved, should there be any. I certainly hope not. If there are however, do it for you and them expecially. Don't think that they don't hear and see these things happening!!! Please hun!!! We're on your side and we want the best for you!!!!

It's hard to get out on your own and take care of yourself, but there are people who can help you do that. Contact a woman's shelter and ask for that help. They have resources to help you become independent and get away from this horrible man. If he physically abuses you, you have the right to have the police arrest him. I'm not sure if that's so with verbal and emotional abuse, but definitely with physical abuse. This is a man who belongs in jail.

(((InACorner))) I know what you mean, I feel like my own worst enemy sometimes. I don't know how to help with the self harm, sorry, but as for beating yourself up verbally...if you find yourself thinking things like "I'm useless" or "I can't do anything", then try and think of examples of things you can do to prove yourself wrong. Nobody is completely useless, everyone has something they're good at! You could try taking a look at the "Steps To Better Self-Esteem" forum as well.

Hope some of that was useful.