think i made a mistake...

i met a guy last week and thought he was alright cuz he used to be friends with alot of my friends. so i kinda liked him and i hung out with him monday and we kissed and i told him i didnt want to go farther than that yet, but he kept pushing me and kept trying to go down my pants even though i kept saying no and stuff and eventually i gave in and he fingered me. then he was like 'i dont want to get involved with you cuz im used to girls who move faster than you'. and i was like... you already frigen forced me into going farther than i wanted, how fast did you want me to go? and now i dunno. i feel like a *****. i think i messed up hugely.

you are not a *****. you made a mistake in judgment with him. choose carefully. when you said NO, it meant no.......the first time........
xoxoxox pat

He's no loss. Like Fayerody said -- he said no, and he violated your boundaries. You got carried away a bit, but you mostly stood your ground. Could have been much worse. I say-- Brava! Good for you.

I have a real problem with women who enjoy their sexuality and having a lot of sex as being called "*****s," so I sure as hell don't think you're one. I don't know how the law would see the whole situation, since you gave in, but he committed a crime, as far as continuing after you said no. I'd rather you had kept saying no and then went to the police if he didn't stop, but in any case, you should leave this guy out of your life. He's a donkey's butt. I bet there are other girls he's done this to. And if he's as sexually active as he implies, you're better off, than to risk catching something. (As I said, I don't think promiscuous women are *****s, but I'm not suggesting it's a good idea.)

Do you have a T? I really think you should talk about this with him/her. You need to develop more self-esteem, because giving in when you didn't want to tells me you are lacking that. A T can help you with that. I'm disgusted by this guy, and all those like him. You, on the other hand, should not be ashamed. It's his actions that were uncaring and selfish.

im sorry... whats a T? a therapist? if so then no, i dont. do i need one?

You might not, especially since this is a pretty common thing. You made a small mistake, but it could have been SO much worse, as has been said. I'm proud of you for not letting him do more!! Fact is, you're a woman, your body IS a temple, and whatever guy you're with HAS TO RESPECT THAT. This guy sounds like a total jerk/a**hole, and I'd get out of anything resembling a relationship you have with him right away. He seems like the type who just uses girls for pleasure and then dumps 'em, if I may presume.

You're not a *****, honey. You got into a situation that a lot of women don't handle as well as you did, and you basically got yourself out of it. Be proud, and DON'T let him pressure you again!!!

luck&love,
~muse

Yes, a T is a therapist. My concern for you is your self-esteem. If you don't want to go as far as T, I suggest getting a good book(s) on self-esteem. They really did help me over the years.

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Hang in there and please know that you are NOT a *****..... you just got caught up in a sexual excitement and went with the nice pleasure it was giving your body.

And please know that this guy is NOT worth the dirt he stands on if he dumped you just because you would not give into his sexual desires.

heck it freaks me out to read stories like these.

how certain men can be such *************** beasts???!!
he DID COMMIT A CRIME
YOU ARE NOT A *****.
(hey i don`t mean ALL men don`t get me wrong!!)

i know how you may feel. i was in a simmilar situation.
i don`tknow if you feel anyhting bad other than "*****"
i really hope you don`t. it`s a bad memorie. but you can get over it sure. if you feel you need professional help go get it! it`s important.

thank you so much =]

you're so welcome.......xoxoxo pat