[Fefe219]

Well lately I've been feeling like I did something wrong in my relationship. But, when I look at the things I feel bad for, its nothing close to cheating. One thing I feel bad for is playfully (not flirting) pushing a male friends leg because he said something silly. I know I wasn't flirting, but I'm not sure if the guy did and I don't want to come off like I was. I even told my boyfriend about it, and he's not worried about it. I have been under alot of stress lately about other things....maybe that has something to do with it? I don't know... I guess I just need some feed back.

[Hopes]

NO, you did nothing wrong!

hope this helps: Hopes

[Fefe219]

Hey,
Thanks. Yea, it does help. And, I'm new to this too. I just joined this site today...

[Wants2Fly]

Welcome to the site, Fefe. I hope you like it here.

I'm sorry that you're so upset about this. I guess you've learned a lesson about the kind of playfulness that will make you feel uncomfortable and/or guilty. You can file it away for future reference.

[Irine]

you know i aslo feel sometimes something like guilt for certain things that are stupid.

i wonder-when you feel you did something wrong, can you recall how you saw yourself:

do you imagine how it looks from the outside or you concentrate on yoursefl inside?

guilt is a very unpleasant feeling i know. and my Therapist told me that it goes as deep and our self asteem.
i started considering it as a sort od weekness. depends on the case of course.

i used to feel bad for so many things becasue i look at myself from the "outside" imagining how i look to others and ask myself if it is "appropriate" or not.
now i try to set myself free from this thought.

[Direction]

Welcome Fefe!

As a guy - the playfulness might put ideas in my head - nothing to stress about - I would just be careful - this person might interpret it wrong if continued...

[cajun]

Welcome from a fellow Cajun. Personally, I don't think you did anything wrong. In fact, I'm wondering where the guilty feeling comes from. Most guys don't get upset over something like that.

[Eva1nder]

Hi Fefe

Welcome to pc

Like you had said you didn't do anything close to cheating and for some reason your having uncomfortable feelings about whatever is going on. You had even mentioned it to your b/f so there was nothing "going on" that your b/f didn't know about and you made sure of this by telling. I don't think it's you being uncomfortable about something you did wrong...just you being uncomfortable with something?

Now I'm not sure why you are having these feelings tho when something innocent is going on? Is your mind going further then what is going on in the moment? Even still that's daydreaming and there is nothing wrong with that unless you wanted it to be more or maybe it doesn't really have anything to do with this person you are somewhat flirting with and you aren't having any thoughts like this? I have no idea what's going on here...there are too many guesses I could make as to why I think you might be feeling guilty when I can't see why you would.

I guess what I'm saying is you know best how you're really feeling and what's going with you.

Maybe you have stresses going on in your life etc.?

Anyways...I hope you are feeling better and doing well and again welcome to psych central

~E