How does a guy go about finding women interested in casual hookups?

Shadix, like many others I've commented on a few of your posts, I'm not sure if I've been helpful because your thoughts do seem entrenched. From what you write I do feel you may have false beliefs/self sabotage going on, and I'm not sure anything I write will convince you otherwise. IMO you've had some very insightful responses, not sure I can add much but here goes:

When you write about rejection/exclusion in the past I really do empathise, high school/teen years are when we shape a lot of our identity, and those years can be very hard for some of us, especially if we are a little shy and sensitive. That you write about those days does give me hope that you can eventually tackle those self protection strategies which you took up to get you through your teens. I hope you are working on that in therapy, because I believe that you really need to heal that hurt boy so you can live your life more fully without fear.

We are all different, age is different from sex/gender, me personally I have used tinder from people younger to mostly older, bi.

I joined another site which the richer pays, using the escort word is discouraged though. I don't receive pay half the time but just enjoy their company, at most cuddling and talking for hours. We communicate what we want first. If I feel I just want to cuddle, then I tell em make it clear.

I made a relationship with a man my age. We were not expecting it but we liked each other a lot. We share interests and that's what I think got us closer.

I have met people at stoplights. Friends bday parties, weddings, class. Work, and websites. You just gotta be confident, know what you want, be open minded, courteous, understanding/non judgemental, flexible, calm. It can be frustrating yes