[razeljenny]

I am misunderstood. I am called childish. I am thrown out of places. They say I have little respect for authority.
True, I disagree and share my point of view but they say I did a vicious "Attack" I was only just disagreeing with a quiet tone of voice or in writing. I get kicked out of places. I am called dangerous. I am called angry. I am not angry. I am not dangerous.
I tell them differing opinions. They tell me that it wasn't the right time. It was bad timing to say it. If they will be on the oppostition side, I am sure there will never come up a time that is "right,"
What do you do to not get picked up for law breaking (which you didn't do, but no one believes you because they have two or m,ore folks that they get to lie with them.
I am innocent. Am I a trouble maker? I have been termed mentally ill, I think I have High functioning Aspergers, or I might have PKU. I am misunderstood and told I am acutely agressive. I am just calmly telling others when I disagree without vennum, without guile. I am nice and truthful. I may be shot by a Hit man because I told a Mason the truth. I was unofficially kicked out of AA. I have many times been told to leave. I don't know.......Any dialouge would be loved and appreciated. You may critisize as well, but I believe I am not a trouble maker truely as I am called all too much. I have very poor short term memory. When I was punished when young, the next day I did the same offence but I just didn't remember that I did the first offence.

[Perna]

If you have little short term memory, it might be hard to remember what happened? Too, if a lot of different people are saying you appear/act a certain way, might help to just "accept" that and see where it takes you; one against a horde doesn't work for me when I do it :-)

I don't know why you "disagree" or give comments at all if it is not appreciated? Do you know or care about these people? I wouldn't "bother" with letting other people know what I think if they are not interested in hearing or discussing? Let them be wrong if they want to be, it's their life; unless they ask for your "opinion" or point of view, I would try not to say anything.

[Wants2Fly]

Hello RazelJenny --

I find it hard to comment because no specific situation is mentioned. If you are getting a lot of feedback suggesting that you are aggressive, perhaps you are not seeing your behaviors clearly.

I also wonder if you have piercings, tattoos, punk hair and clothing. The reason I bring this up is because some people have stereotypes about young people who have this kind of appearance, so I can see how assertive behavior might be misinterpreted by other people as aggressive, because they start out with biased fears.

Are you working with a T to help you figure this out?

I'm sorry that you're upset and hope you will feel better soon.

[AmatureBombTech]

Sometimes it just comes down to bad timing when one is sharing their ideas that triggers these bad reactions from others. There are the right times and the wrong times to mention things and if for whatever reason, be it your idea or opinion is great, but brought up at a time when it is not right, it will be received poorly by your audience.

For example, we don't bring up talking ill of the dead party at their funeral. Poor old dead Grandma may have been a dirty old windbag alcoholic, but we don't say these things at the funeral... it is the wrong time. This talk would be received poorly regardless if everyone else agreed and how it was delivered. It is even taboo to bring up these things for a long while after the passing of someone.

Timing is everything with what we say....no matter how good or bad it is. Perhaps your timing is a little off. Sometimes all we need to do is think about whether or not the time is right to bring certain things up....that's all.

If I were you, I would take that as a lesson and move on. Nothing to worry too terribly much over really.

ABT

[(JD)]

The first thing to do, you've done...and that is realize you have a problem. Now you're moving on to the next step and that's ask for help. If you continue working on this, you will find a way to get through it safely, imo.

Let's not talk about your tone of voice or whether you speak softly (but carry a big stick) right now, ok?

How about thinking of why you feel you tell others what is right? What propels you to "tell a Mason the truth" for example?

When authority figures are speaking to you, even if they are yelling, what do you do at that time? What are you thinking while they inform you of something that needs to be done, or something that was done incorrectly or whatever it is that you find them speaking to you about?

You need to try and look them in the eyes, and do so without glaring. Are you standing up straight and facing them? That also shows respect. You don't have to agree with what anyone says, but you should show them respect as a person, right? Do you have good listening skills? How about taking a course, or reading a book about that? This includes the above, but also tips like, repeating part of a question back in the reply, to show you understood, and heard them.

A slouchy posture with hands on hips or folder across your chest is a definite get out of my space I'm not listening type of communication. Maybe even if you do speak softly, your framing of words is curt?

And I agree about timing... if the authority figure isn't going to hear you, such as a police officer handing you a ticket, the best and only thing to say is "I'm sorry officer."

What do you think?

[dorsey555]

Hi razeljenny,
One thing I can suggest is to go gentle on yourself. If you aren't physically hurting anyone that's a start. I'm bipolar, and when I'm manic I'm pissed off at everyone, and sometimes I get on rampages. What helps me is to talk to myself (in my head of course) I try to calm myself down and to make myself look at the situation from a different standpoint. Like i'll say to myself, "calm down, it's not that important ...and whatever else I need to say to myself. like I walk around being my own therapist at times. You seen to have a lot of insight. You probally know what it is you need to hear to calm yourself down in any given situation. Say it.(to yourself of course)
I wish you the best.
Dorsey