Do not understand

This man that I met and went out with a few times does nothing but act like he is so much better than anybody else, yet he is almost a dirt poor person. He speaks down to me like I am a simpleton and wIhen I ran into him today he was proud to announce that he has a woman living with him. He had asked me last summer if I would move into his house and just live on what money he would give me every week I said no because this sounded so bizarre
Why is this upsetting me, I mean he all but called me a ***** when we never even got that far in a rellationship because of his put downs?
Why would somebody act like this?

he is scared....

he doesnt feel good about himself so he puts everyone else down to feel better...what you see is an act...unfortunatly he taking it abuse....i feel sorry for him....

yep, I agree with inny. He doesn't like himself, so he has to make himself feel better by putting others down.

He sounds like a very unhappy person who is trying to talk about himself the way he wants to be & not what he is. Bragging about a woman living with him after asking you...sounds like he is trying to say.....see, somone wants to live with me...see what you missed?

Maybe it's upsetting you to see someone that pathetic who is trying to make you feel bad about your decisions......maybe he doesn't really have a woman living with him at all. It's just something he said....& can you really believe him anyway?

There may be some mental illness there also....some mental illnesses cause people to say things that just aren't anywhere close to being true, but in their minds it is. I would definitely stay away from someone like that.....sounds dangerous to be around in my opinion.

Don't worry that you don't understand...it is impossible to understand people like that because they aren't the norm.

Debbie

First Welcome to PC...hope you are finding that it is a helpful environment.

These may be all good reasons (from above) for his behavior...from a guys prospective...run...run very fast...run faster than Debbie's horse...

Your post has huge red flags...

Hi PureGrace,
This guy sounds like he's not a very nice person. Stay away from him. He's no good.
Sorry he upset you so much. ((((((((hugs))))))))

this man sounds seriously unbalanced. i agree with Pickle, stay away from him.....we care about your safety.....xoxox pat

I have a sister in law like that. she acts like she has way more than everyone else and way above everyone. she is a very insecure person. don't let him get to you hon. he isn't worth it

To all that responded, thank you very much. Everybody seems to have realized the same thing. It just really blows my mind when people lash out and are purposefully mean to others. I guess that I have to toughen up. You all made me feel alot better

Sometimes it is hard when we think we're okay and someone else tells us we are not. I still remember when I was working one day in a multi-room office and my boss comes to the station where I was, all out of breath, and asked me, "Where were you??!!!" and I explained my "route" and where I was and he instantly replied, "No you weren't!" I can't tell you how confused that made me :-) How do you "convince" someone when there's no "facts"/proof? I think for me that it harkened back to my stepmother questioning me and not always believing me, etc. and how I never had a way to "prove" myself.

I once had a boyfriend, who, toward the end of our relationship decided if I was not with him then I was obviously out with another man! The other person is the one who has a problem but sometimes it plays on our own background and makes us feel insecure.

I agree that he sounds unbalanced and is to be avoided. You don't have to put up with this kind of thing from someone you hardly know.Run.

Hello Grace. I sincerely feel that he respects you for your decisions that you made not to live with him, and I dont feel that he meant that you were a bad person, but that he found someone else that was interested in his offer. His arrogance may have made it seem that he was insinuating that you were not good enough for him, but in reality you just chose not to be in a bizarre compromise of your life and boundaries. There is nothing worse than a person seeing himself in a light that doesnt exist or seeing the person willing to blow out the candle and move on to something better. It sort of reminds me of an old saying that used to be populor. A LEGEND IN HIS OWN MIND.Be thankful you are free from this person and free to go on in life with someone that is sincere instead of someone stuck on himself. Take care Grace. Soidhonia