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Old Jun 29, 2004, 05:08 PM
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There is this guy his name is Rex. I thought we were dating because we spent almost every waking moment together when he wasn't at work, choir practice or asleep he was with me. Well silly silly me I let my heart get involved only to get it trampled on. I had to go back in the hospital about 2 weeks ago it was a life or death thing....I go in the hospital get some new meds and live or OD and die. You'd think he'd be happy I chose to go in the hospital get some help and live but nooooooooooo he got pissed off and said I told you all you need to do is have faith that it'll all work out. I come back from the hospital and he's gone away at the camp he works at during the summer for a week and a friend of mine says Jan I don't know how to tell you this (why is everytime someone says that bad news follows?) but Rex has a girlfriend now. Well I took it with a grain of salt because she's not always the most reliable source but I talked to him this morning and point blank asked him if it was true that he has a girlfriend and he said yes then changed the subject. Well now I want to go look up this guy that we were friends with benefits i.e. sex and go have some wild crazy sex with him but in my heart I know that's not the way to solve this dilema. Do I continue to be friends with Rex with him knowing I love him or do I severe all ties to him and try not to cry?

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Old Jun 29, 2004, 05:16 PM
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Old Jun 29, 2004, 06:40 PM
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Welcome back, Jannie! {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}

It sounds like he has been a good friend. If you can handle the feelings, it would be a shame to give that up. But it is troublesome to me that he wasn't supportive of you getting treatment so that you can live. You did the right thing by getting help. I believe in God too, but faith without works is dead, and sometimes God gives us resources such as treatment, and He expects us to do our part to work it out. But it isn't uncommon that people who haven't been there don't understand that mental illness isn't just a matter of changing your attitude and having faith that it will go away.

It's your decision (and Rex's) whether or not you can still be friends with him. If you can both handle it, why give up a good thing? But I do hope that you have other friends too, and that you don't expect more from each other than the other is prepared to give. Make sense?

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Old Jun 29, 2004, 06:46 PM
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I know this is going to sound easier said then done but it is best for you to cut ALL ties with this guy because if you don't more than likely you will 1. Resent him for what has happened, 2. Resent his girlfriend and him, 3. Feel hurt when you guys hang out and even worse develop stronger feelings for him. Like I said I know this is easier said then done but in the longer it is best to cut ties now and deal with the hurt and move on then to hang out with this guys and ultimately feel let on which will hurt you more and more. Just my opinion anyway. Good Luck!!

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Old Jun 29, 2004, 08:08 PM
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I forgot to put this in the post.....when my mom was talking to him letting him know I was going back in the hospital he told her the reason he hasn't proposed yet is I've been in the hospital so much this year and going to the doctor so much that he can't afford that as he's barely making it as it is. So when she told me that I was like cool he's thinking marriage when I in reality I guess he was just ********ting my mom.

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