Huge problem with my cat.

I have a cat I love dearly, and who loves me. We have a bond that is deep and loving. Then my dad's lady friend comes into his life and is allergic to cats and the cat has got to go. Where to? My slovenly drunken brother. My brother recently got a DUI, and has since been trying to "cut back" to 6 beers on work nights and a 1.75 liter bottle of Whiskey on the weekend.

He is in no way shape or form cut out to take care of the cat at all. I worry so much about my poor kitty being neglected, mostly with my brother never cleaning out the litter boxes or even cleaning up puke when he lived with us.

I'm calling my mom in the morning to voice my concerns to her. Maybe she can help.

I'm sorry that you're losing your kitty I hope that your mom can help you figure out how to find a good home for it.

Say what!!! I would argue that this goes against teaching you about lifetime responsibilities.
The cats been there way longer than the girlfriend, and surely she can get antihistamines for when she is over.
Perhaps thorough hoovering and a hepa air filter in the rooms the gf spends the most time.
Plus keeping the cat out of places like your dad's bedroom would be a start.
I would ask to compromise this stage,
How old is the cat?

Live with your mother or on your own or with a roommate. Maybe if you meet your BF you guys can live together.

The cat is 5 years old, and we (mom and I) raised him from a 2 week old kitten in this house. He's a really cool cat.

Dad would just say that his lady friend can't breathe so that cat has got to go.

I plan on doing that with my BF. However, Dad plans on bringing the cat to my drunk brother today.

That's terrible! I'm really sorry. Perhaps your mother can keep your cat while you arrange something with your BF?

Say what??? Because recent GF comes over you have to get rid of a cat??? She doesn’t live there. Omg it’s terrible. I’d refuse to give up a cat. What an asinine move. Talk to your mom

Lets see, cats dissapear all the time so kitty disappears when dad is looking for it. You just have no ideavwhere kitty could have gone

No way does a NEW GF take over control of the house. I would be irritated & especially thinking of your baby going to stay at your brothers. NO WAY!!!!

My nephew is allergic to all pets but he just takes meds when he comes over to my parents
house, they have two cats. Coming over and telling that hosts must get rid of pets? Unbelievable.

Can you keep your baby in your room ?

I’m so so sorry that this is happening! Can you live with your mom ? Or at least let her keep the cat until you can get your own place ?

Go online to find a local rescue organization who will try to rehome yourkitty. They are a Godsend.

Actually, the organization we adopted him from has it stated in their contract that we have to return him to them if we can't care for him anymore.

I forgot to call mom. I guess I'm stressed. Good thing I see her later today...

Dad and his "lady friend" wound up dropping off the cat on the way home from picking me up. I was there in the car and naturally upset. Dad thought I was being overly dramatic on purpose, and demanded I "stop it". Then he said "why don't you get a hamster?"

I replied "I can get a hamster?" Thinking he was serious. I really love hamsters and was told I couldn't have them anymore by my mother sometime before she left Dad.

He said "No, a toy hamster." Like he thought he was being funny. That just made me all the more upset. Then he continued joking the rest of the way home with his "lady friend", suggesting I get another bird, but then quickly reminding me of how well it went last time when it traumatically died in my hands, after our dog attacked it. I stopped saying anything to them and left the two of them laughing and joking to each other the rest of the way home.

I texted Mom about my concerns and she reassured me that my brother really loves the cat and will take good care of him, and if he can't she'll take him. She also said to not engage my dad when he thinks he's being funny. It only encourages him.

And he wonders why Mom left him.

Good Heavens. I'm also in shock. Thank goodness your mum came through for you

Wow. I can't believe how cruel the two of them are. Why can't you live with your mom? That is not a healthy place to be.

It’s terrible. This new lady was laughing with your dad? It’s rude. If my husband laughed at his daughters (he wouldn’t, just hypothetical) I wouldn’t encourage him let alone laugh with him! She is one “classy” lady. Glad to hear your mom will take kitty if your brother isn’t up to it

The same thing happens when I start hiccuping. Dad always demands I stop it right then and there, even though he knows as well as anyone that you can't just stop hiccuping on command. He's a real card sometimes.

Gee. Your dad and my dad should be friends. Mine drove me nuts today. He asked me (with the angry attitude) if he dies first where is poor mom going to go? Both my brother and I live close by and certainly will take care of whoever left when one is gone. Or both. Gee. I understand he is scared but he’s been always this way, with angry attitude about random stuff. My mom just rolled her eyes.

Is your dad the kind of guy who can't be happy unless he's complaining about something? If so, and he has a very dry sense of humor, our dads would get along famously...

Yup! Hahaha

I'm still up, still raw from my dad's insensitivity.

Any developments, Artchic?

I looked at a bunch of autocorrect failure memes and feel better.

I'm glad