[Katie]

I'm really having trouble with my mom. She's been diagnosed with a variety of things including Manic-depression and OCD, but the idea I think is that they really aren't sure, but medication seems to stop the delusional episodes. The medication has been badly effecting her memory and she has started making up lies about things I have said or done and is now accusing me of completely irrational things like she used to. Her parents made her the excuse for all of their problems and she has always tried to do that with me. In the past, it was very obvious that she was making things up so my father would take my side. The results of this were still very bad, and I have been diagnosed with PTSD as a result of some of our interactions. I recently moved back in with my parents because I am a college student and lately she's been getting worse and worse, but this time my father refuses to take a side or often sides with her, even when her accusations are not physically possible. I'm getting so frustrated and upset. Today when I called the dog to play with me she turned this in to an attack and I'm starting to have flashbacks to the things that happened when I was younger. I'm so afraid of what my life is turning into, but I'm also so close to being done school I just can't seem to win. Advice welcome..

Katie.

[emoangel]

first of all *hug*
Secondly, i have to tell you that i have never had to deal with anything this severe with my mother...but it sounds to me that you need to first of all

a) take a few days to stay at a friends house or a relatives just to clear your head

b) Get into counseling so you have someone who will listen to your side of the story, getting that frustration out is very important.

I hope all goes well, i know this is a tough situation, and i hope all turns out well. Sorry if i wasnt to much of a help for you, i try.

"in a haze a stormy haze i'll be round i'll be loving you always, always...here i am and i take my time here i am ill wait in line always, always..." ~coldplay~

[splash]

Hi Katie,

From just reading your post, it seems to me that your mom is still experiencing <A target="_blank" HREF=http://www.ahealthyme.com/topic/delusions>delusions</A>, and it also sounds like she's suffering from paranoia as well, if I understand correctly. (Did she feel "attacked" when you called the dog to play? That sounds paranoid to me.)

If she is still experiencing delusions, then what you perceive to be lies and accusations from your mom, may be perceived as "truths" to her. That's what a delusion is: it's "an unshakable belief in something untrue." You are correct to say that it's irrational.

Now, I'm not a health professional or anyone with diagnostic experience, and even if I were, without seeing or knowing your mom, it's just pure speculation.

Does it help to understand that, when your mom speaks to you this way, that it's the illness talking? You are living in a truly difficult situation that I can't even begin to imagine. I agree with emoangel about getting some assistance for yourself. Talking with a counselor at school, or sharing your feelings with friends or relatives may help you deal with things.

Best wishes,

splash

[darkeyes]

This doesn't seem like bipolar disorder (manic depressive) I think another psychiatrist should evaluate her, get a second opinion, then maybe there is a good chance she'll recieve the proper medications cause it seems by what you said her meds aren't doing anything for her, there are plenty of different meds they can use if one or the other doesn't work. I don't know if they still follow this rule but years ago a psychiatrist would give a med 2-3 weeks to see if there was any changes, if not they would "scrap" it and try another. This helped in one way, the patient wasn't "strung" along for a length of time and wasting their time with the wrong meds. If she is getting this treatment from a General Practitioner (family doctor) the chances of her improving are nill, GP's are not qualified to make any psychiatric diagnosis, you need the doctor who specializes in this field, a psychiatrist.
Lots of luck,
"darkeyes"

PS If it is unbearable there try to see if you can move out, cause if she isn't getting the proper treatment she will not get better, and you will only be miserable.