I let him back in and now I am kicking myself

Thanks @Buffy01.

Well that was rough. He started crying while inside the bank. Then he began telling me how he spends his time alone, and I said I didn’t want to hear about it. He said why are you so mean to me? I told him I assume he’s talking to women and is seeing other women. Then outside the bank he burst into a flood of tears telling me how he never cheated except for the one time two years ago. Again I told him I’m not trying to be mean but I don’t want to hear it. Again I told him he must be talking to women. He scurried to his car in tears and drove away.

Ugh.

sounds like another manipulation tactic

i just realised - "manipulation" has the word "man" on the front of it

He might not be talking to women but he’s not spending time alone. Even when he was telling you he had no where to go for thanksgiving he ended up being at friends house. So he’s lying. Plus it’s not our responsibility to make sure exes aren’t spending time alone. Not good enough reason to stay in a relationship or marriage

Yes it felt again like manipulation. And yes he is not completely alone, which I know is a lie.

I just had a very frustrating round of texts with him about the $1500 legal fee we are splitting. He was dragging his heels on wanting to pay the remainder that is his responsibility. He made things far more difficult. I am so irked by him right now.

He wanted to delay his portion of payment, claiming that the lawyer will still get going on the paperwork even with just partial payment. I don’t trust that and told him we must pay the full amount NOW. He finally, after much back and forth, sent the remainder due to my account. Argh!!!! I think he wanted to try and delay filing.

Hang in there.

Your welcome!

Maybe it times to break up with this guy for good.

They are divorcing

Yeah, no worries there. I am divorcing him, like divine said.

He sent one more very lengthy text yesterday, saying the same 'ole things about me throwing away a marriage that had so many good times too.

I did not engage in the argument, but I did reply.

All I wrote was "the bad things you did far outweigh anything good".

That silenced him. GOOD!

Awesome. I’m sorry that the relationship didn’t work out.

Thanks @Buffy01. Hopefully, I will do far better next go around.

Some guy emailed me on meetup.com to basically date me. ARGH! We haven't even met and haven't spoken before, and here he is trying to use the platform to pick up women! I blocked him. What a turn off.

My first meetup is Sat night with a gathering of 25 people going through a divorce and looking for new friends. I hope this isn't a pick-up type of event. NOT what I am looking for.

And.... we can finally pay the lawyer today the $1500 fee to finalize the Divorce Agreement and file for divorce!! Getting closer!!

I also got yet another text from my husband yesterday morning, after my last text to him the night before. He wrote that I have zero compassion for him, despite ALL that he is going through. I wasn't going to let him guilt trip me, so I told him stop guilting me, and I don't need this. I shut him down.

He is a piece of work. At every turn, he tries to manipulate me or guilt me. That's not how you win someone back! Not that I would even consider it, but since he's trying, he's going about it the completely opposite way from what would be effective. Little does he realize that he only pushes me away further and further with his ridiculous antics.

So, basically I told him he treated me like crap throughout the marriage, and his response is “you have no compassion”.

Unbelievable!!!

Your welcome.

I finally have blocked his cell - as of today. He can no longer reach me except by email, and I can filter his emails if I need to.

That is good. Do something nice for yourself.

Wow! I’m sorry to hear that.

He is a grade A as*shole. I cannot believe I married such a pri*ck. I want to kick him and slap him and kick him where it hurts. I truly despise the guy. What a vast mistake I made - never again!

Compassion for what? What a weird thing to say

Compassion towards him because he lost his parents. As though I didn’t lose my own father!

I will, thanks!!