Dating After Abuse and Dealing With Life Changes

This is SO exciting.... I am thrilled beyond belief. This is a great job opportunity within a great and stable company, and with an hourly rate that presents nearly a 20K raise from my last salaried job! It's a contract to hire role.

Now I just need to complete their assignment to their satisfaction and kick a*s*s on it! I'm a wee bit rusty after 6 months, but hopefully I can swing it easily enough.

Your amazing hope

Aw thanks!!!!

However, today of all days, my computer battery decides to fritz out and I need it serviced. They said due to the July 4 holiday that if I have plans, I can also turn in the assignment on Wed. But I hoped to get it done today to impress them with a quick turnaround, but now I have computer issues!!! Argh!!!!!!

Would your computer work if plugged in? I had a laptop with broken battery but it’s still worked as long as it was always plugged in

The battery needs replacement. They said by tomorrow or wed after the holiday. They’re flexible, so I’ve got time.

Dang, it won’t turn on without a battery? How annoying. But luckily it will be fixed soon!

Yes.. very annoying! All will be OK.

same here

dell laptop that was a piece of crap

Dell are the worst. Their battery either breaks or stops holding charge after a year of use

Mine is a 2020 Macbook Pro. It's been pretty good up until now. I had downloaded software that ate into all my battery juice very quickly. Then the batter decided to die.

I can get the assignment done today! I am so happy! Ideally, they wanted it today. I've been working on it steadily since I got my computer back and since 4 AM this morning.

I think they will be impressed that I got it done on time. I hope! Fingers crossed for an offer....

Mine waited until it was something like 2 days out of warranty, then stopped working properly, even after we paid nearly £200 to get computer man to sort it out

Yay Have Hope ❤️

Thank you.!

I have to wait until after the July 4 holiday to hear about an offer… sigh. I need patience.

WOW - just WOW. People continue to astound me.

I confronted the woman who blew up at me for no reason at the concert.

It started because I had contacted her via text to ask if she has venmo or paypal so that I can give her the gas money I owe.

She did not reply, so I sent another text, confronting her about not responding and about what she had done at the concert. She had ghosted. her ex, so I thought she was now ghosting me.

I told her that I learned she had done the same exact thing numerous times to her recent ex boyfriend, all while drinking and told her she should not drink. I said what happened was not my doing or my fault.

She finally writes back, with only pure venom and nastiness. She went on the attack, accused me of not remembering the details of the night clearly, and all sorts of other BS, and said she doesn't need my friendship or my money.

She also tried to blame what had happened at the concert on me, for calling her a biatch. Well, I called her that because she WAS being one, and was full of rage and anger towards me for absolutely no reason whatsoever!

So, I wrote back a simple message: "I am choosing not to go to your level of nastiness right now. You are full of rage and anger and are pure negative energy, just like at the concert. Goodbye".

Then I blocked her and unfriended her from Facebook.

What a nasty POS! WOW.

There was a prime example of narcissistic rage.

She couldn't take responsibility for getting angry at me at the concert for no reason, and had to flip the script around and rewrite what had happened, accusing me of being at fault - typical narcissistic maneuver and response to being confronted.

I am disgusted. What a total TOXIC BIAT*CH.

I hope she doesn't continue going Wed nights to the shows...

I really don't want to see her or bump into her ever again.

Today I am heading out of state to go up north to my friend's farm for the afternoon. This is a good group of people for me to be around. Nothing toxic, nothing negative, only just respectful and positive, good energy. I love the woman who owns the farm. She's very down to earth, very real, and very kindhearted. I need to be around this group today, after the exchange with the nasty biatch.

Then later this eve, I am heading to see The Samples, a favorite band from Boulder, Colorado. I am going solo and am actually looking forward to being on my own. It's at an outdoor brewery, about 45 minutes north from where I live. It's a totally different community of people, so I hope to have a positive experience vs the negative experiences I've had lately.

I am so done with toxic people. SO DONE.

Also, today I’ve decided to change my social scene. I’m going to ease out of my music scene, join outdoor groups, meet new, healthier people and form new friendships. This music scene I've been a part of is drug infested, unhealthy and toxic for me. I’m done.

I had a most positive experience at my friend's farm, and then at the concert later. I met up with a couple of friends, good peeps, at the show, which turned out to be a blast. So, that's good....

This morning for some unknown reason I am struggling with the thought of my ex husband moving on and dating someone else. This is something that is still tough for me to stomach, no matter what happened between us. UGH. The ONE thing that is comforting is I know that eventually, he will treat the next woman exactly the same way.... he will be on his best behavior in the beginning, but inevitably, the ugliness will come out again. Not that I want any other woman to go through that, but his behavior will not change, is my point.

I got a job offer with New Balance. along with a 20K increase in salary!!!!! I am beyond relieved and thrilled. I accepted.

Of course, it comes to mind as I am celebrating this victory, that normally, I would have celebrated with my husband.

Congrats Hope, celebrate on the forum with us instead of the stinky turd who was your husband

How exciting! Congrats!!!! When do you start?

Thanks!!! I start in one week!

That’s great!!!! Do not call your ex. He’ll see it as invitation and will be sending roses. Before you know it you’ll be back together.

Find other ways to celebrate. Buy new work outfit or new office chair or new lamp or rearrange your rooms for new working environment.

Maybe redo your second bedroom that’s not being used into nice office, throw away junk and make it nice. Start a new life. No ex.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!